Pearl178

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  1. This makes sense. So according to our fiqh, the inheritors would be under an obligation to pay the dues. By the way, I know that regarding the estate of the father or the meerath, it doesn't actually reach the inheritors until after all the loans and debts have been repaid. But the question is that if the meerath is not sufficient to repay the debts then Islamically speaking do the children or the eldest son have to repay it?
  2. That's the point that our brothers make, is that the son out of niceness should perform the fathers' obligation be it prayers or repaying his dues but that there is no such obligation in the religion. It's only our of courtesy and good manners. But missing prayers is a sin (if done on purpose or in negligence). And, what's your thoughts about the second question?
  3. Salam, I understand that according to Shia fiqh, when a father dies, and if the father has missed prayers which he did not make up for when he was alive, the religious obligation to perform the missed prayer's automatically transfers to his eldest son (the son may then choose to pay a certain individual to make up the prayers but that's besides the point). Our brothers from other schools (namely the Ibadhi school of thought)disagree strongly with us on this on this point and their argument is that number one in Islam, each person is responsible for his or her own actions and it would go against the justice and fairness of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì to burden a person with obligations other than his own and secondly and most importantly that it goes against the principle laid out in the quranic verse found Surat Al Anaam ("no bearer of burden shall bear the burden of another"). This brings me to my second point. If in Shia fiqh the eldest son is to bear the responsibility of his dead father's religious obligation in relation to prayers, does the same principle apply to any loans that the deceased father may have taken when he was alive? Since loans constite a haq sharii and which are taken to the grave unless discharged, then according to our fiqh does the son also have a religious duty to discharge his deceased fathers loans? Again according to Ibadhi fiqh, there is no legal (since Omani law is based on Ibadhi jurisprudence) or religious duty for the eldest son to discharge his deceased fathers loans. My question is how do we reconcile the verse above with the Shia ruling on the issues raised above? And does the religious obligation of the son to perform his dead fathers missed prayers also extend to other obligations , namely on taking monetary loans.
  4. I personally find it rude when they don't respond at all. It's always a relief when everyone is just upfront and straight forward. And secondly because it's a small community where everyone knows one another, they are bound to run into one another at a wedding or some occasion (the mothers and /or the girl) and so it becomes really awkward if the boys' mother doesn't respond at all. Also when they do respond It gives closure to the girl and her family. They don't necessarily have to give a reason, it's just a polite phone call with something like "there is no naseeb unfortunately but inshalla I am sure your daughter will find the best husband blah blah..." my mother has had to reject girls on behalf of my brothers and she would feel extremely bad every time she had to do this but she would make sure to call them up personally and apologize and pray for the best for the daughter and she would go out of her way to say hello to both mother and daughter at every wedding and occassion she would see them in. It makes it so much less awkward IMO. As for your situation I really don't know since I don't know what it's like in your culture but isn't there anyone that you could ask from you community. And if the boy is from a diffierent background perhaps you can ask someone from his community?
  5. I think it differs from culture to culture. In my own community the mother and/or sister would come to my house (i.e the girls house ) with the boy himself and this would be the first meeting where all of them (the boy and his mother and the girl and her mother ) would sit and chat and sometimes the boy and girl would be left alone for a short while to have some privacy. After that, if the boy is interested the response would normally come after 2 days ( maximum 3 days). If he is not interested then his mother would inform the girls mother immediately (the next day after the meeting).
  6. I tend to be in my own world and daydreaming most of the time but I'm generally the same on here and in real life.
  7. I find it ridiculous that maternity leave in my Islamic country is only a puny 50 days while in non-islamic countries they got way more (about a year as I heard?)
  8. I don't keep either. Out of topic, but my workplace requires that all employees fill in a timesheet at the end of the day where we have to basically record in detail everything we did including taking short breaks, occasional chit chats etc.. I found that very annoying when I first joined but I realised how therapeutic it is when you write down how you spend your time. It makes you aware of how much time your wasting and is very therapeutic in general. This ended up giving me an idea (which I'm yet to implement) to write down on a daily basis all the useful things I did for the day and to also jot down my blessing every night.
  9. OP, I have been told my many that I am not attractive and at the same time have been told that I am beautiful by many. Not everyone will view you in the same light but at the end of the day it really does not matter what people think (cliche I know but really important to implement). The most important thing as brother Qaim suggested is that as a woman it's really important to take care of yourself. Keep fit at the gym (make it a vital part of your life) and if you can afford to a trip to the salon every once a while then do it - it makes a heck of a difference.
  10. I don't really know but one of the biggest reasons I personally procrastinate is because I am disorganised. And I also have to prepare myself mentally at some point because there is usually a huge argument about me wanting to pack my entire closet and my mother wanting to empty out half of my suitcase.
  11. Oprah Winfrey - fiery and passionate about everything she does and one of the few that lead by action.
  12. I need to start packing but procrastinating too.
  13. Thank goodness for government subsidy
  14. I love the mysterious ways in which He works in and the amount of times I have felt embarrassed for foolishly accusing Him of not listening and for complaining like the ungrateful slave that I am that He doesn't care anymore not realizing all along that He was listening right from the beginning and was planning the best roadmap for me all along only to end up surprising me and leaving me amazed with the end result which is always way more than what I had asked for and each time I have to keep reminding myself to be patient no matter how long it takes for my prayers to be heard because He always listens and He always answers.
  15. Lol at least they feel for you - my family call me a weirdo when I complain and tell me to bugger off to my room if I don't want the A.C on lol! #blackswanofthefamily