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  1. So before I say anything I'd like to point out the fact that he was abusing you. Deleting friends is by no means, a small thing. He's emotionally manipulated you and that's a form of abuse. For you to think these sacrifices are small shows the depth of his manipulation. Now with regards to people knowing and talking, you could be an angel on earth and people will still find something to talk about. Separate yourself from such people. If your mother's friends speak ill of you- her daughter- than they're not her friends. Friends stick up for each other and help another. This should not be a factor in your decision, unless you committed zina. If you have, seek advice from a scholar in confidence. If you're not a religious girl, a shia-sunni marriage could work out. If you are religious and commit to our traditions/culture, it'll pose problems. Your husband will want his children to follow in his footsteps, not yours. Your children will become your priority, your husband is only second to them. It will most definitely create issues. "Love" fades. What remains and ties you together is the memory of love and responsibilities (children). This is why basing a decision solely on emotion is not smart. You need more than that. Put aside your emotions and think about it rationally. Do you see a successful healthy marriage with this person? If the answer is yes, only then move on to factor in your emotional status.
  2. Why do most muslim countries prohibit muslim couples/singles in the west from adopting guardianship of orphans in the middle-east? Even if you're a national of the country but reside in the west, it's prohibited. I know of muslim couples personally who would be happy to adopt an orphan child from a muslim country but can't. I appreciate the risk of losing cultural/religious exposure, but that doesn't justify the poorer living conditions many of these orphans experience. They lose out on a better life and greater opportunities! There is also the fear of abuse, but I'm certain these orphans would be more vulnerable alone than with a guardian. Institutes- no matter how well presented- are not good enough. A child needs affection and personal attention. In particular, I was looking at adoption/kafala processes in Iraq. These are difficult even for residents in Iraq. I researched in arabic too, but again, you can't adopt nor request kafala of a child unless you live in the country. Extended family members, regardless of their living conditions or history, will be given the priority. That's worrisome especially because abuse within the family may be overlooked.
  3. Gynecomastia in our religon?

    Did they explain why you have it?
  4. why can't shia men marry from, people of the book

    Does this mean shia can only marry sunnis temporarily? We believe in the same God, just as jews and some christians. But we worship differently. Though we are closer to our sunni brothers and sisters, prayers, fasting and our sharia is different. There'll be issues with regards to the child's sect too. Do i love abu bakr omar and uthman or do i blame them for the split among muslims...? My cousins are sunni, just like their father. In our culture, you inherit everything from your father, including your name, your faith and your ethnicity. Surely that was the norm 1400 year ago? You take after your father...? I thought that's why muslim women couldn't marry christians or jewish men.
  5. why can't shia men marry from, people of the book

    That's not haram. You're just advised to avoid it as a precaution. So you can still marry them, it's just not favoured. A scholar's word isn't absolute either. So if you disagree with good reason, you needn't follow it imo. edit: I just noticed the obligatory. I completely disagree. God made it lawful. How can he prohibit it?
  6. why can't shia men marry from, people of the book

    You can't prohibit what God made lawful...? You sure he didn't just mean it's more favourable to marry a muslim woman? So is it haram to marry a sunni or sufi woman? That justification doesn't work.
  7. Judgment for non hijab wearing sisters

    Hijab is complex. It's not just a cloth you wear, it's far more than that. It's an identity and responsibility. In some places, it makes you vulnerable and in others, it helps you stand out. I agree with your thoughts. I have met non-hijabi sisters who pray and fast, who adhere to every islamic law, except the hijab. I also met hijabi women who do not pray, have boyfriends and have long lost their virginity. Hijab is not a measure of your nearness to God. Everyone has their reasons. Integration, comfort, mental health, safety, or perhaps they're simply not convinced. Everyone has reasons. If someone identifies as muslim, we have already established their love and devotion to God. To question it simply because a single law is not followed, is silly. We all sin. Some sins are hidden while others aren't. Of course it's better to wear the hijab, but remember, you too have things you can do to become a better muslim. We're all at different stages in our worship. Every non-hijabi sister knows what she's doing.
  8. Salam I am half kurdish (feyli) half arab iraqi. No doubt most kurds appreciate that feylis are against the movement, mostly because it would sever relations with Iran. Feylis belong to both countries. The relationship between kurdistan and israel is also frowned upon. Do I want it to separate? Sure, but not if it means supporting israel (zionism). My answer would be no. Not expressing opposition alone is supporting zionism and I refuse to support an oppressor. No one anywhere said the iraqi government is great. In my family, we absolutely hate them all. They're corrupt thieves. We're a country rich in oil, but there's a major lack in progress/development and poverty is very much a big issue. Turn on any iraqi news channel and you'll see politicians point fingers at each other to confuse the public. It is very obvious to anyone that the public is frustrated with their government. Still, why is it ok to sell to the US but not israel? For many reasons. The US is a threat. Refuse to cooperate, it'll take it anyway. Israel openly admits to its atrocities and demands support. The US on the other hand, finds excuses, e.g. "weapons of mass destruction". While both commit injustice, one appreciates it's wrong while the other doesn't. Israel is right in the heart of middle east. If it gains more allies, it'll become stronger. That can create a shift in power. Israel is the gate to the middle east for the western world. That's a threat to the muslim world, its traditions and laws. Iraq is also a strong ally of Iran. With a footing in Iraq, Israel becomes a bigger threat to Iran. As shia, we care for our iranian shia brothers, just as we do our sunni brothers in Palestine. Even if these are speculations, I wouldn't want to risk it. ... just realised you're feyli too... how are you for this?? We weren't even considered part of northern kurdistan until this movement started lol
  9. It's actually in the guardian too. Word for word: "Barazani's aim and Israel's covert aim were to seize Kirkuk's oilfields to serve the israeli interest. In the Kurdistan region, they raise the flag of Israel and this means if Kurds gain independence in Iraq, we will share a border with Israel,' Velayati said according to the IRGC-affiliated Tasnim news." I googled IRGC... Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps, a branch of iranian army. So it may be bias. But there is no denying, Israeli flags have been raised in kurdistan. Feyli's strongly opposed it. Which is funny because, prior to this movement, feyli's weren't even considered a part of northern iraq kurdistan. Barazani just needed the numbers
  10. Is Hijab compulsory?

    I hope this helps
  11. I have a real issue with the way people treat Sayyids compared to non-sayids. How is this justified?
  12. art

    I don't understand why it wouldn't be? There are many productions of islamic dramas and movies. Most of which have attracted non-muslims too. You can deliver so many beautiful/meaningful messages through movies/dramas
  13. tattoos

    Here's sistani's view on it Question: Is it permissible for a woman to get her eyebrows tattooed? Answer: Since the tattoos are done under the skin, there is no problem. However, if they are considered zinah (adornment) in common view, she must cover them from non-mahram men. How old are you? It really is an important question. I first wanted a tattoo when I was 14. I didn't want it anywhere someone could see and I was given permission when I was 18. Fortunately, I convinced myself to wait and see whether I still wanted it a few years later. At 21 years of age, I now acknowledge and appreciate that permanent is really permanent. While I still love tattoos, I no longer want one on me. Your character will change over the years. Your likes and dislikes will change. Overtime, you'll notice flaws in it- however small the tattoo. It'll fade more in some parts than others. Rather than a permanent tattoo, why not do the design with henna and touch it up whenever it starts fading? That way, if eventually you don't like the design- you can change it! If you're absolutely convinced (which at 16, I was too lol), then I suggest you really research your artist. Don't just go into any tattoo shop. A good tattoo will often cost you a lot! I was ready to pay +£100. Don't think about the costs and don't try to get a deal! It's something that'll permanently sit on your skin. You need to make sure you have the right artist, someone that shares your vision. You must ask for their portfolio too. You need to see examples of their work. If someone they worked on is present, ask to see the tattoo your artist has made. When I was considering a tattoo, I wasn't comfortable with the idea of "free-hand" tattooing. Stencils are a must! If it's a tattoo that'll take multiple sessions, always request the same artist. Different artists work at different depths- the pigmentation will be different. I wouldn't recommend that your first tattoo be something on your hand or even something visible at that. It really affects job prospects. I know you want a small tattoo, but I doubt you want it small enough to be overlooked. There's a lot to consider. Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck! ws