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  1. Do looks matter to you

    Salam Marriage can happen in two ways within our community: arranged marriage or love marriage. With an arranged marriage, all your qualities- whether good or bad- will be put under a magnifying glass. Families will therefore care about your appearance, moreso if you're a woman. I'm not sure if the same applies in a love marriage. The saying goes, "Love is blind". You could be drawn to a person because you're attracted to their appearance, or their personality might intrigue you. Their humour, the way they light up a room, their passion for a certain subject, their love for children/family/animals etc. Or you might share a common interest. Anything besides appearance can also attract a person to another, imo.
  2. Witch

    I don't get it.. It's just someone unkempt sat on a rooftop...?
  3. Anime, opening song.

    Salam You can check the level of nudity and graphic violence using any parental guidance service available online. IMDb provides such service. If you're unsure regarding an anime, check the genre too. Some tags are good indicators. With regards to anime generally, some scholars claim even drawing out a complete human body is haram. So you could even argue, anime itself is haram. Generally speaking, if you're unsure whether something is wrong, in most cases, it is wrong. In order for you to recognise an oncoming bad scene, you must see a part of it or elements of it before you can skip it. It's easier to watch anime movies to avoid nudity, graphic violence and other unwanted elements. Most recently, silent voice was a good anime I've watched. It's not an action packed anime but it's very much worth the watch. Here's a trailer for anyone interested: As far as I can recall, AoT displayed giant rears. But otherwise, it lacked anatomy down below. Ajin didn't have any nudity or hypersexualised characters as far as I can recall, but the animation bothered me. I did some work for you, here is the parents guide on IMDb for AoT and Ajin respectively: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2560140/parentalguide http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5537534/parentalguide Here's one for One Piece: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0388629/parentalguide - that way, you can skip these scenes before they happen if you choose to continue watching One Piece.
  4. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    @Guest Account Ali I'll cry only if you gift me a packet of soft scented kleenex. I will only ever allow myself to cry cherry blossom scented tears. My mum always taught me to reflect the language of people I speak to. Thought the [EDIT] might need some pictures to keep him engaged ... Elaborate, why is it justified? The fact that other countries use a minimum dress code is not enough. Note, I put minimum in bold before. Adhering to the exact dress code, is not the minimum. Also, I won't "suck it up". If I'm unhappy about anything, I'll do something about it. Other things I'm coerced to do?... like what? This is honestly cute! Really enjoying the sass! ... let me clarify though. You were talking about a minimum dress code. That judgement can made by a studied scholar. But I argue, even a scholar has his bias and shortcomings. I have no issue with the hijab, but I do have a problem with forcing its observance among women. Because that dulls or even strips them off of the full/true experience of the hijab. Their right to make free choices and their right to experience a form of worship blessed only onto them by God has been taken away. I don't see how this is a good thing... Maybe you'll like Gifs better... though considering you know this much about memes, I very much doubt it... palm ready? Her hair is her sexuality... I assume? I didn't learn this during middle school. Enlighten me. Again, subjective. A young girl is vulnerable and immature. Only sick men seek out children. The average man- I'd hope- wouldn't care for a female child in a short skirt. A grown woman is less vulnerable, more independent and much stronger. She can protect herself- though again, there's time and place for everything. She should dress accordingly, only to protect herself. A burden she unfortunately bears because of a few men's sick corruption. Though this should not be a reality. The issue does not lie with the woman's dress but the man's reaction to it. Her sex organs (primary and secondary), I would consider to be the minimum. Well, I am first-hand source. Do you know what that is [EDIT]? I didn't say all women in iran. I named cities. Qom is religious capital, so I understand why the observance of hijab is quite strict, just like in Kerbala for example. I may convey some of my emotions but it's your perception and assumption of my response that shapes them. If you're in an emotional state, you will read it as such. To help you understand how I felt reading your response: Me---> It takes quite a bit to offend me. I find sass amusing not condescending. Love it!
  5. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    @Abu Hadi So you're suggesting men understand the reason/purpose of the hijab, just not what it's like to wear it, but women don't...? Let me put it into perspective for you. Forget about the gender. In fact, let's turn the tables. Assuming, buddhism commands all men to become monks... If I force a razor to a monk's head and shave his hair/beard off, is this monk practicing a form of worship? He wants to grow his hair and beard, but everytime I see the slightest stubble, I force him to shave it. If he doesn't, he receives a form of punishment. Be it prison, fines, verbal/emotional abuse- he'll be punished. Do you think the purpose of the monk's dress code, to let go of the material world, has been achieved? Do you think he will cease to think about his hair or obsess over it? When you force a human to do something, he will naturally want to rebel against it. This monk won't see a shaved head as a sign of worship. There is a difference between submission and subjection/subjugation. Though you put it nicely, these are still restrictions imposed on personal freedoms. A minimum standard is good enough. Strictly adhering to the exact dress code of a single religion is unfair. Choosing to practice should be exactly what it is... a choice. The only reason many women wear it loosely in Iran, is because the government cannot cope with the overwhelming dissatisfaction from many women within Iran. In that case, civilisations with women that did not observe the hijab (and considering the hijab is not the most important of islamic laws) or islam, lacked decorum, order and humanity. Considering, most societies/countries with women observing the hijab, are chaotic with ghastly people committing all sorts of atrocities, I hope you realise how unreliable your point is. Invalid. This has got nothing to do with the hijab. Merely your media exploiting and thereby enhancing the primitive residue instincts among humans. There far too many factors influencing what's happening in America. You can't blame your peoples' electing a reality TV celebrity as president on the hijab too, can you? Your shortcoming is not for a woman to bear. It's your responsibility to fight whatever desires you may have, your test not hers. Faces are just as attractive as bodies, so why do they remain uncovered? If it's to prevent a male's gaze/lust, a woman is to remain at home. A hijab doesn't protect you. Have you seen a woman walk in a hijab among muslim men? It serves no such purpose. Plus, it takes two to tango. For a woman to join in the act, wouldn't she have felt a certain something towards a man? What did a man do to prevent her lust? Did he wear a hijab? A beard is most often attractive, not a hijab. Everything in a man is limited to his speech, act and demeanor. Shouldn't it be the same for a woman? Rape, like murder, is not the responsibility of the victim but the aggressor. That's the result of poverty and low socioeconomic status. I was 7 years old when I went to egypt. 7. I was catcalled. Even here, among muslim communities, no matter time of day, in a hijab or without it, you're approached/catcalled. You can look like a cockroach, it won't stop certain men. Speaking of egypt... What does STD have to do with not wearing the hijab? No hijab= STD... how did it even get to that? lol I repeat, I encourage the hijab. But for it to serve its purpose, it needs to be a free choice.
  6. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    You don't know that actually. It's not about whether I like it or not. It doesn't matter, because that argument is irrelevant to my point. You're a smart guy. Surely, you can see the problem with what you've written... Oh. My. Allah. No coercion comes from the many stories of women forced to wear it. Fortunately, you can't deny it. I come from the same community. I was personally forced to wear it. I was given the choice only a year ago. A little too late. How do you know that? Cite a source. I have been to Iran (tehran, shiraz, qom). In shiraz and tehran, women didn't observe the hijab properly. In fact, tehran was a total mess. I am not saying the hijab is wrong or should be discouraged. I encourage it! I think it's beautiful once its true purpose is fulfilled. You won't appreciate its purpose until you wear it yourself out of your own free choice. I hated it for 7 years. Have you heard of pavlov conditioning? If you attribute a negative feeling/memory to the hijab, it no longer serves its purpose. When observing the hijab, you should feel a nearness to God not a resentment towards your father, sibling or regime. It's not a political tool to mark a country as an islamic state, to put it on public platform. It's not a burden for women to bear at the hands of lacking lusting men. It's not to mark your lack of freedom and the power of "male" guardianship. It's not a punishment for being born a woman. It's a form of worship. A personal choice, a growth in nearness to God, a spiritual milestone.
  7. Why lie?

    Salam There could be several reasons for this. Some people may have a distorted preception of their character, piety or appearance. They may feel like an attractive or religious person. So they're not necessarily lying. Your preceptions are just different. The other reason would be an attempt to draw you in and meet (again). People naturally present their best self to strangers. To someone they hope to attract, it wouldn't be surprising if they tried to improve themselevs even more (perhaps intending for the change to be permanent). These people hope you may overlook whatever they lack, as they either attempt to possess the missing quality (which you may interpret as a lie) or make up for it in other matters. Some can only plan for the short term, "do whatever you can to lock her down!" It's as though marriage is a room without any exit doors. It honestly bothers me when i hear, "I'll change her/him once we're married!" There is no changing a person except if they change themselves. You will suffer! Don't do it. Those are some reasons i'd imagine people had for pretendibg to be someone they're not.
  8. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    Define what you mean by corruption in this context. I wonder if it's subjective... So what did our imams believe if your God himself has said, there is no coercion in islam? I am sincerely curious. Please quote hadiths and sources.
  9. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    Sound a lot like the french...
  10. truth

    NEW TESTAMENT John 13:14 Jesus the Way to the Father Thomas said to him, "Lord, we don't know where you are going, so how can we know the way?" Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No-one comes to the Father except through me. If you really knew me, you would know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him." Philip said, "Lord show us the Father and that will be enough for us." Jesus answered: "Don't you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, 'Show us the Father'? Don't you believe that I am in the Father, and the Father is in me? The words i say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing the work. Believe me when i say that i am in the Father and the Father is in me; or at least believe in the evidence of the miracles themselves. I tell you the truth; anyone who has faith in me will do what i have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father. You may ask me for anything in my name, and i will do it." ... Pretty much in their books. It's good to learn about other faiths. A quick googling will take you to websites with online copies and other verses too. Before you ask, I am a muslim shia. In our books, it's different ofc. We claim the original injeel has been corrupted and changed (I believe this to be true). The books christians hold today are inspired by God rather than by God Himself. Edit: realised you changed your answer. You cherry picked verses though... That's unfair
  11. [Closed/Review]Iran hijab law change?

    It is absolutely wrong to coerce anyone into anything. It will cause resentment and hate.
  12. I asked some iranian friends. They said it's to do with unemployent and poverty
  13. My family and Hijab

    If you're certain you want to keep it off, know that time will heal. It could just heal enough to leave a scar (a reminder that upsets her) or she could eventually completely overlook it. It's a natural reaction and should'v been expected. You'r intentionally comitting sins and you'v left yourself open to temptation. Leading life religiously will also be more difficult without the hijab. Religious men are less likely to approach you for your hand in marriage. Your mum's vision of you and your future has a crack. Many thoughts are racing through your mother's head. Give her some time to work through them. Your job is to do your best to reassure her. But if she's still upset after a long time and it bothers you, sit down and have a think about why you took it off. Make a list for reasons to keep it on and reasons to take it off. Look at the list and see which ever factors are most important to you. Make a decision based on that. Do you still think it's wajib? If not, share your reasons with your parents. They might agree or they might convince you otherwise. At the very least they'll appreciate your perspective on the matter.
  14. Should I tell someone

    I don't know the family circumstance. Whatever is happening, i hope God will assist them and bring harmony to their home.
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