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  1. 8 points
    Salam Alaikum. I ask you all to ask Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى to forgive me and to grant me success. Thank you in advance Mohammed
  2. 8 points
    Just thinking about Allah in general challanges my mind a lot. I know logically, philosophically and morally that Allah exists and there is absolutely no doubt about it. However just thinking about the fact that Allah has always existed is just magnificent and something my mind can never comprehend.
  3. 8 points
    Hameedeh

    Thoughts 2018

    Congratulations to Popular Contributors! We appreciate you! @Wared @Ashvazdanghe @ali_fatheroforphans @Mohammed-Mehdi @shia farm girl @AmirAlmuminin Lover @Hussaini624 @Intellectual Resistance @Goswami @Fatima Zehra110.. @Wholehearted Shi'a @Islandsandmirrors
  4. 7 points
    Zulfiqar Christian

    Christians and Shias

    Salaam Alaikum brothers, I am a Mexican American Christian and I love Shias and I was wondering how you guys feel and view us Christians?
  5. 7 points
    Salam alaykum all, To help the Shia community more readily access our own books' information, I made a website with the four major Shia Hadith books. The site allows you to browse, search and share Shia Hadith. Please check it out and let me know any feedback. http://www.fourshiabooks.com
  6. 7 points
    The decision by the govt of Australia is not surprising. This trend has been going on for a while now. But I would tell your brother, that as muslims, we cannot 'vote' for something that is against our religion. We are not taking away their right, if they live in Australia, they now have the legal right to do this. That doesn't mean we have to agree with it. Imam Sadiq(a.s) said regarding 'Amr bil Maroof wa nahiya Al Munkhar' enjoining good and forbidding evil, that it is the duty of every muslim to do this. (I am paraphrasing here). If we see something that is Al Munkhar (wrong/ unjust / bad) we should change it with our hands. If we can't change it with our hands, we should speak against it with our tongues. If we can't speak against it with our tongues, then we should disassociate ourselves from it in our hearts, and this is the weakest form of faith. What I have found is that those of us who live in Western Countries where this stuff is legal, and more of the 'Al Munkhar' (for example marijuana) is becoming legal every day, have a duty to speak out against it, at least. Most of us are not in the position to change it with our hands (we are not in the government), so the least we can do is use our tongues to speak out against it as much as we can. We can do this at the present time without our lives or property being taken. If we fail to do this, then we are going to be partially responsible for the evil consequences for this which will inevitably hit the places where we live (and it is already starting to hit). In another hadith, Imam Sadiq(a.s.) said that there are three doers of a deed (three groups), the one(s) who do it, the ones who help them in it, and the ones who are satisfied with it in their hearts, and these three are partners(in doing the deed). He was explaining why Allah(s.w.a) destroyed the people of Salih, although there was only one person who actually did the deed (of killing the she camel). So if we fail to do 'Amr bil Maroof....' then eventually, gradually, we will move toward the position of being satisfied with evil and then we will be included with the people of evil and not the people of good.
  7. 7 points
    Kazemi

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    سبحان الله Defeated is Anger! Victorious is the blessed Ahl al-Bayt! Stand oh Mu’mineen, For my name bears the Infallible, Which I descended from, And all praise is due to Allah who granted the face of Earth a purification from evil, The Ahl al-Bayt is the source of joy in the Here After!
  8. 7 points
    shadow_of_light

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    I havent changed my avatar for 11 years. The photo was taken during Muharram, as far as I know.
  9. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Freedom!

    Freedom! Western fixation on freedom has a long, crystallizing history. In 1215, the Magna Carta was signed in England, which ended the unilateral authority of the King. The King was imposing heavy taxes on the barons, who were wealthy aristocratic men, to fight a failed war. The barons rebelled against the King, and demanded that a committee of barons be established. The King would need to consult this committee before introducing new taxes. Certain legal rights were also introduced to the barons. This was the first big step towards freedom. Fast forward to the 1500s; a new continent was "discovered" (i.e. Europeans found out about it). A major motivation for men to risk the high seas and migrate to an entirely New World was to avoid taxation and government overreach. They were able to seize vast, fertile properties without much nuisance. Freedom. Around the same time, the Protestant Reformation was taking place, and most North-Western Europeans were using it as an opportunity to break away from church tithes and indulgences. Freedom. Fast forward to the 1700s. The American Colonies rebel against the British because of "taxation without representation." Freedom. Then in the 1800s. The Confederates rebel against the Union to prevent the North from intervening in their textile industry. The Union abolishes slavery. Freedom. Here, we see a crystallization of yeomanry in White Anglo-Saxon Protestant (WASP) culture, which peaks in the American South. They have a strong distrust in government, public programs, and taxation. There is a strong "what's mine is mine" culture, where clichés like "the only things you can't avoid is death and taxes" thrive. "Conservative" to them mostly means "smaller government, lower taxes". In short, they believe that the freer they are, the happier they will be. Debates in American politics, from abortion to gay marriage to taxes, are all based on conceptions of freedom. It is also the theme of so many Hollywood films. Feminism is rooted in the same freedom-seeking individualist liberalist mindset. Whatever gets in the way of women's liberation - even if it is God Himself - must be cast aside. Freedom in Islamic literature would be "huriyya", which is really just a legal technicality - you are either a slave, or you are "free". Otherwise, our books do not take much stock in the concept. We do have treatises on "huquq", which is often translated as "rights", but a more accurate translation is "responsibilities towards". For example, the haq of a woman is the responsibilities of an Islamic society towards that woman. It is an onus. Responsibility and duty often fly in direct contradiction to freedom. Yes, we have free will, but Islam legislates things that we *should* and *ought* to do, and there are consequences to not fulfilling those responsibilities. Does freedom lead to happiness? It is actually our responsibilities that often make us happy. There is no growth in a care-free life with no schedule, no family, no commitments, and no work. These things tie us down, but they also build us up, fulfill us, and make us better people. No pain, no gain. Likewise, despite the fact that women's rights have increased over the past few decades, women's happiness has decreased according to many studies. Individualism teaches us that self-sufficiency is the key to happiness, when in actuality, success is sometimes found in submission. Islam literally means Submission, because it is the recognition that we are all imperfect servants. We do not choose which family we are born into, nor our race, nor our health, nor our age, nor our genes, and often, not even our social conditions. None of us are truly free, and the most free of us is not necessarily the happiest. Rather, true, heartfelt contentment is in knowing God. We are born to look for Perfection; we seek it in our looks, our grades, our power, our status, our spouse, our children; but we all - sooner or later - realize that Perfection lies only in Him alone. Trust in Him gives you that true contentment, the ability to let go of the wheel, fear nothing but Him and accept all that He allots for you. Contentment. If you are a believer, then your worldview should reflect your belief. We cannot import a cultural ideology that convolutes our belief. In many respects, jahiliyya represented what many of us today consider to be "freedom". But the Prophet Muhammad (s) came with accountability, and that turned the entire world around.
  10. 6 points
    shia farm girl

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    As salaamun aleikum everyone, my name is pretty self explanatory- im shia, im female,and i grew up and still live on a farm. As for my avatar, Sheikh Farokh Sekaleshfar, i chose him because he has been the most influential living scholar in my life thus far, and because he exhibits many mannerisms and behavioral traits i hope Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى in shaAllah inducts into me. W/S
  11. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Individualism

    If Islam is measured with liberal democratic criteria, it will not be fully consistent. Western colonial powers reached a point of hegemony in the 19th and 20th centuries. Through hard power (direct intervention) and soft power (media influence), they imposed their standard of morality onto the rest of the world. This moral framework is not Christianity, it is Western Individualism. Secularism, humanism, and feminism are all just logical conclusions of Individualism. They are branches from the same tree. But to what extent can we say that Individualism is the objective truth? Did the original philosophers of this ideology even intend for it to be the objective truth? Go through Hobbes or John Stuart Mill, they don't claim that Individualism is an objective universal truth, but rather that they are experiments of freedom that are most practical. So measuring Islam by this would be like measuring an object with a stretchy ruler - you'll never get a precise measurement. Just a few years ago, gay marriage was illegal in America, and now there is all this noise about homophobia and transphobia. Just a few years ago, marijuana was taboo, but it is now gradually being legalized. Some bite-the-bullet secularists are even questioning whether incest should be illegal, because certain forms of incest are not "directly harmful". Of course Islam will not be compatible with a measurement that is constantly fluid, changing, and in flux. Liberalism does not even attempt to falsify itself, rather it is focused on falsifying others. It salvages aspects of Greco-Roman civilization and Christianity that is consistent with individualism, and it discards everything else. The liberal thesis prioritizes the human being above everything else. The Islamic thesis prioritizes Allah. So what is the root of this tree of Individualism? Funny enough, it actually may be the Christian concept of Imago Dei - that man was created in the image of God. It is this idea that makes the individual the centre of the universe, whose will is sanctified above everything else. Hence, you have the concept of human rights, which itself is a contradiction, because rights are bestowed onto people by a higher power, not arrogated by the same people onto themselves. Humanism itself is a quasi worship of the human being, because everything including God Himself is cast aside in the name of human rights, liberty, democracy, and freedom. This is why I always say that secular humanism actually grew out of the carcass of Western Christianity. It uses Christian concepts of the soul and the divinity of personhood to build an entirely new moral framework that discards its root. It is a paradox. The identity of man in Islam is that he is a created servant. This is the same identity as all biotic and abiotic elements around us. We are a part of the ayah that is the great ayah of the creation. All is fleeting and all will perish but the face of Allah (28:88), which is simultaneously everywhere that we turn (2:115). He is recognized everywhere and behind everything, for He is the Apparent (al-Thahir) and the Hidden (al-Batin). The cosmological Creator, the everlasting Sustainer, and the ontological Perfection that we are all after. The individual is powerless on his own, and is only empowered by the Powerful. أعوذ بالله من كلمة أنا I seek refuge in Allah from the word "me".
  12. 6 points
    Abu Hadi

    #JusticeforZainab

    This case highlights one of the main reasons why I would never go to Pakistan (until the government changes) and why many Pakistanis I know leave Pakistan. Security is the most basic need of all people. The only needs that are greater is that for water and food and oxygen to breath. If a government can't establish security for the people, it is a completely worthless government and should be taken down immediately. In Pakistan, apparently, you only have security if you are connected to the right group, otherwise you don't. May Allah(s.w.a) raise this girl along with Bibi Zaynab(a.s) and Fatima Zahra(a.s), the women who were severly oppressed by tyrants and may He(s.w.a) raise her killers along with the tyrants Yazid and Muawiya(la)
  13. 6 points
    Interesting look at the "Nation of Islam" and its natural progression and development. Master and founder, W.F. Muhammad, developed one of the most successful movements for resistance and change against tyranny, oppression and injustice that plagued the African American and Indigenous people of North America for over 40 years under the leadership and teachings of his Massenger the Honorable Elijah Muhammad pbuh. There are definitely a lot of commendable things in the Nation of Islam. Its structure, its social relevance, the FOI and MGT, its schools, even some of its ministers. But it's a bad idea to compromise religious principles to gain social or political relevance. The NOI peaked at around two million followers in 1975, but now, they'd be lucky to have about 60,000 members. The religion of Prophet Muhammad (s) however is a religion for all times and all places, and so it has the longevity to last millennia, and not just in Jim Crow America. It's not just about "resisting tyranny", it's about replacing it with truth. It's impossible to know what the true intentions of Master Fard were. But we do know that what he taught clashes with the religion. No man is God, and any human being (regardless of colour) can be a devil. Life after death is real. The Sun is not the first thing ever created. The moon was not blown off of the Earth with TNT. No intelligent beings live on Mars. There is no 'Tribe of Shabazz'. And Elijah Muhammad is not the final messenger of Allah.
  14. 5 points
    What are the most important questions for you which challenge your mind a lot?
  15. 5 points
    notme

    Women

    Lower your gaze. Obviously. If you have doubt, isn't it better to err on the side of caution? And since you are asking, clearly you have doubt. It's not haram to see people in public, but it's haram to look. The difference between seeing and looking is intention.
  16. 5 points
    Based on my extremely limited induction, an average Shi'a youth in the West (though this is definitely not limited to the West) is going through a lot of epistemic challenges in their life. Living in an area and in an era where perceptions of morality seem to have changed, dealing with laws that often times seem irrelevant, dealing with laws that often times seem unethical, encountering theological and philosophical challenges whose responses may not fit well within a Western epistemic framework that has naturally been shoved down their minds, and trying to reconcile all these feelings and perceptions with a version of religion that was taught to them by parents who immigrated from the East, and was constantly spread from the pulpits by scholars who also came from the East. Couple this with the geographical distance from the center of scholarship, and lack of access to scholars, many of them who are perhaps addressing these issues - all of this becomes a recipe for an epistemological crisis. We can count the highly qualified Shi'i scholars - those who are really experts in their given field - in the West on two hands. The rest of the vast majority of scholars are followers themselves, but with a bit more grasp on the subject matter than laymen. This is not always their fault - maybe many of them did initially come to the seminary to reach that level; but it was the fault of the system that doesn't seem to have any intentions of producing legitimate scholars out of foreign students nor does it have a suitable syllabus for Western students. So you have at many times mediocre scholars at best, trying to address some very complicated issues, but in reality have not truly understood the challenge or the response themselves. One of the greatest challenge that Islamic scholarship is still dealing with is modernity. For a thousand years, the derivation of Islamic law was based on the premise that we had empires and civilizations. Where religion was a sign of your citizenship, not your ethnicity. The average age for a border in the Islamic world is the 19th-20th century - see this really interesting infographic (https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/7ne62v/the_date_of_origin_for_almost_every_international/) This is around the same time when so-called reformist voices (as we understand them today) within the Islamic world also started speaking up. With the demise of dynasties and the caliphate - where religion had relevancy over ethnicity and nationality, and a lot of laws were derived based on this presumption - now you were dealing with the concept of a modern nation state. A state where religion was secondary, and ethnicity or culture were fundamental. When once it made sense for 'Allamah Majlisi to come and say that non-Muslims should not be allowed to leave their homes on rainy and snowy days in Safavid Iran since they will make everything and every Muslim they come into contact with najis, because the dhimmis were rightfully treated as secondary citizens (perhaps in modern terms, one can say they had a green-card, but without all the benefits of a citizen) - stops making sense since your religion doesn't dictate whether you are a citizen or not any longer (even in Iran). When once apostasy from religion made complete sense as treason, stops making sense in the modern world since religion isn't relevant - allegiance and treason with respect to the state became relevant. When once wars were fought between religions, many subsequent laws made sense, but as wars slowly stopped being fought between religions, and rather between states & nationalities, a lot of subsequent laws went out the window. Please note I am of course talking in general terms, otherwise you will find instances where what I have written above is not absolutely true (post or pre-20th century). In any case, the challenge at this point was, what do we do? There is an intense debate amongst scholars on what to do here - sometimes one side labeling the other as sell-outs, while one labels the other as backward minded. You have two camps of scholars here: those who maintain that traditional laws and traditional interpretations should continue to be implemented the way they had been for a hundreds of years, and then you have those who argue that the subject-matter of many of these laws has changed in our day to day reality and thus some of these laws have truly become irrelevant. Not because the law itself had an issue, but rather the conditions under which it was implemented no longer exist. What I have seen is that those who maintain the first position end up with contradictions in some of their laws, and this is inevitable - because you really cannot deny that the world we are dealing with has changed. The second camp is often accused for justifying and being complicit in their support for the incorrect premises of modernity and secularism, by passing verdicts that makes living comfortable and adjustable in modern societies. Of course, the second side also ends up slipping into territory without realizing the full implications of it (for example, as you have mentioned in your original post, is Sayyid Kamal not aware of the agenda of extremist feminists and the implications of some of their ideas? Maybe he truly isn't, since he has not lived in such a society. Perhaps if he lived in a Scandinavian country he would be witness to the detrimental effects of some of these ideas). Nevertheless, the latter category can argue that their laws are not necessarily because they theoretically accept secularism or consider the premises of modernity to be ideal, and rather, the two are not necessarily mutually inclusive. In other words, one can give a verdict in accordance to the current context of the world, while still maintaining that the current situation of the world is not ideal. As I mentioned above, there is an immense debate on this topic, and both sides have strong arguments that cannot be taken for granted. Also, with respect to the second group, I am not including those scholars who are confirmed sell-outs, but rather legitimate scholars who have posed arguments that are worth looking into. For example, as far as I am concerned, Sayyid Kamal falls into the second group (there are many others though). Let me give you another example. Why is it that we take a three-fold division to religious propositions for granted (theology, jurisprudence, and ethics)? What I mean by this is, what is the difference between jurisprudence (fiqh) and ethics (akhlaq)? Don't both ethics and jurisprudence tell us to "do" or "not do" something - in which case shouldn't it all fall under one of the categories (you can call it fiqh or akhlaq, doesn't matter)? Why is it that we have things that are permissible legally speaking, but are so detested ethically by societies and individuals that they are essentially treated as haram? Is our fiqh unethical? Do we find God, Prophet or the Imams emphasizing this difference in the religious texts - in the Qur'an or Hadith? Isn't the end goal of both fiqhi and akhlaqi propositions the same? Do we not have narrations saying, if one doesn't possess a certain ethical trait, or manifests a certain immoral trait, they will be destroyed or be punished in the hereafter. How is this different than the reports that talk about being punished if one does a haram act? Why can't this division - that is so ingrained in the minds of Muslim - be questioned and looked into? Some research has shown that this division was a natural consequence of the development of Sunni jurisprudence during the Umayyad and 'Abbasid dynasty - where ethical propositions and jurisprudential propositions became distanced for one reason or another. Given how much of our structure for Usuli and Fiqhi discussions was adopted from the Ahl al-Sunnah, it appears this division was one of those things we naturally adopted and continued to stick with it for hundreds of years. Today many scholars (many of them are also from that first camp I defined above) are realizing that this division was a big blunder. Once again, the discussion on this is extremely detailed and complicated - I am simply citing it here so that brothers and sisters are not so quick to attack scholars from different camps, and realize the strength of some of the arguments made by scholars who they may not agree with. Strength does not mean the argument is without flaw, but rather it possess enough merit for one to seriously consider it and look into it further. As for your actual inquiry, regarding how to follow different opinions held by credible scholars - this is something some of the Western students in the seminary do often discuss a lot. What do we present to the people back home? People are at different levels of understanding, and it is difficult to give a unified response to all of them. For example, someone like @silasun who is actually pondering over this matter (because many may not even be bothered by this question), they need to look more into religious epistemology and the philosophy and epistemic value of taqlid in human life. There are books written on this subject, but unfortunately nothing in English that I know of. Becoming acquainted with something like this puts a lot of things and a lot of beliefs a person has into perspectives. Most importantly, it helps become less dogmatic. A friend of mine is shortly starting a blog that will be very related to the inquiry @silasun has - InshAllah I will share the link here once he posts up some entries. Wasalam
  17. 5 points
    gotmuffins!

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    I like muffins, hence the avatar picture and my alias.
  18. 5 points
    The question which challenges my mind a lot is that how come 18 year olds are today so Childish while back then 18 year olds used to participate in wars.
  19. 5 points
    notme

    Religious Studies

    She can study in Iran when she is adult if she decides that's what she wants. While she is young, you can read with her, talk with her about Islam, take her to majlis. If there is a school in your area, it can supplement what you teach at home, or you can hire a private tutor if there is no school, but there is no substitute for the guidance and training of a loving and knowledgeable parent.
  20. 5 points
    ء السادس والعشرون يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖوَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّـهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ ﴿١٢﴾ O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you abhor it; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful. (12)
  21. 5 points
    starlight

    What is your goal today?

    My goal: Just for today I am not going to do anything that goes against Allah's laws. I am going to repeat this goal everyday for the rest of my life Inshallah.
  22. 5 points
    My name "ali_fatheroforphans" is from an Irannian nasheed which is titled "Imam Ali(as) - Father of the Orphans". The nasheed is very inspiring and it just makes you realize how perect of a human being Imam Ali (as) is and how much he loves the orphans that they would be crying, teary and waiting for him in the darkness of the night.
  23. 5 points
    Salsabeel

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    Well my nick & avatar both belongs to Quran Alhamdolillah. Verse 86 of Chapter 11: بَقِيَّةُ اللّهِ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُم مُّؤْمِنِينَ وَمَا أَنَاْ عَلَيْكُم بِحَفِيظٍ Some Urafa calls Imam Mehdi (ajtf) as "Baqiyyatullah" The nick "Salsabeel" is a fountain of Jannah and it is mentioned in verse 18 of chapter 76: عَيْنًا فِيهَا تُسَمَّى سَلْسَبِيلًا
  24. 5 points
    shia farm girl

    Thoughts 2018

    As salaamun aleikum, thanks @Hameedeh and to everyone at ShiaChat for being part of the amazing place this is:) W/s
  25. 5 points
    This is a stupid proposition and not worth discussion. Anyone can be a Muslim. Thread closed.
  26. 5 points
    W.D. Fard Muhammad may have had a mysterious disappearance, but he is not the 12th Imam. He never claimed to be the Imam, and his teachings are contrary to that of the Ahl al-Bayt. Master Fard taught that God was black, the devil was white, that the Resurrection was just the mental resurrection of black people (and not a physical resurrection), that the Judgment would occur in this world, that the dead would not come back to life, etc. Overall, he had a naturalist theology, and was likely influenced by Ahmadi missionaries in the U.S at that time. He may not have even come from the Muslim world. Remember that Fard didn't just appear, he was living in Detroit and Chicago for 4 years, and was even arrested, held, exiled, etc. The Supreme Wisdom consists of his teachings, you find very little Islam in these lessons: http://supremewisdom.webs.com/
  27. 4 points
    Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa Muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum Astaghfirillah. A'udhu billahi minash shaitanir rajeem.
  28. 4 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    #JusticeForAsifa

    These animals won't be able to get away with their actions in the next world. May Allah hasten the reappearance of the Imam Mehdi (as) who will bring justice.
  29. 4 points
    Islandsandmirrors

    Many woman are not maternal

    Working with kids at my old job, I’ve observed lots of parents and have seen different parenting styles. What I’ve noticed is that many mothers have parenting styles that I don’t agree with, and I’m starting to believe, now more than ever, that some people should never be parents. Many woman who become first time parents after the age of 30, not all, but some, tend to take-out their frustration on their children more often than not and tend to be “hellicopter parents”. I had one mother (who was nearing 50 with a six or seven year old daughter) demand why I was trying to hand out her daughter a sticker (it was our job to hand out a sticker to every child as to promote our educational program for kids.) and that she wanted to speak to my manager and when I said “it’s my job.” She said that “well, rapists hand out candy.” (Imagine: it was at a children’s kiosk at a mall.) then there are mothers who are not maternal, but have kids mostly because they feel the pressure of their biological clock ticking. There’s a difference, in my opinion, between wanting kids because you really, really love kids and wanting to start your own family, and people who follow what society tells them—live it up in your 20s, don’t think about commitment or marriage or starting a family until after you’re perfectly established and you’re 30 or over, and just mess with guys until you’re getting older then find a good guy. The latter should never be mothers. These moms tend to also think of motherhood as a massive burden in general and wish they could still live it up. Theres nothing wrong with some woman not wanting to be mothers. But it is wrong to become a mother just because of pressure. It’s the same as desperately trying to find commitment after living it up—it shouldn’t be expected to find a good person.
  30. 4 points
    I think you have a different view on what is considered to be “helicopter parenting” as studies have shown that it increases anxiety and low self-esteem in growing adults. Helicopter parenting is not the same as being a protective or cautious parent.
  31. 4 points
    notme

    Many woman are not maternal

    Anyone is allowed to judge anyone, but those judgements don't have to be considered by the one accused. I'm an easy-going mom. My teenage son has friends whose parents still won't let them cross a road alone, and he has friends whose parents don't even seem to pay any attention to what the kids are doing. In my opinion a middle path is best. Let kids learn from mistakes sometimes, but give them structure and guidance. Maybe my way isn't best for everyone. It's best for me and my family. If I see someone parenting in a way I disagree with, probably the best thing to do is to talk with them. Maybe they have reasons, or maybe they never learned any other way. If someone sees me do something they think is wrong, I'd appreciate them asking me about it. One or both of us might learn something.
  32. 4 points
    Laayla

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    The dhikr of Friday
  33. 4 points
    It amazes me that in my twenty two years of schooling, four of which I spent studying economics at a pretty rigorous level, I never came across Marxian viewpoints until I encountered Dr. Richard Wolff thanks to brother @King on SC, I have been listening to his videos and podcasts consistently since. I don't agree with him on everything, but the idea that I was never exposed to such a wide area within economics and the works of probably one of the most influential figures in history, regardless of whether you agree with him or not is a major concern. Frankly, this has put me off pursuing academia, not because I hate economics, but more precisely because I hate the narrow-minded views you're exposed to and expected to buy without much questioning, things like belief in the free market, belief in capitalism, etc. All of these remain unchallenged, and yet they ignore the devastating impacts these policies have had on people at the bad end of capitalism. On the other hand, I acknowledge the flaws within marxist line of thinking, but shouldn't a good education be one where you are exposed to everything and then you are left to decide what you want to do with what you've learnt? This kind of reminds me of another story of Norman Finkelstein whose work on the Israel/Palestine conflict, as well as his work on the holocaust industry, in which he exposed the supporters of Israeli apartheid using the holocaust as a means to shield any criticism of Israel that exists. He was denied tenure at a university as a result of this, and I don't believe he has found employment since, he also had his hours at other universities significantly cut, to the point where they were pretty much forcing him to leave by offering him salaries of less than 20K a year. Can you imagine all that knowledge this man has, all his research has been focused solely on this one issue and yet so many young people will not have the privilege of hearing him speak (unless they look him up on youtube like I did, mainly because I had an interest in the conflict to begin with, else, I would have never known). What is the point of an alleged "democratic society" when the educational institutions and the learning is a form of brainwashing to basically keep people dumbed down so they never question authority, never rise up against the deceit of their own leadership. In some ways I think this is worse than knowing you're living under a dictator, because your mind is being controlled in many ways and people don't even realise that unless they find it within themselves to find the initiative (which very few people do), they will remain in a sense indoctrinated and unfree despite thinking they are free.
  34. 4 points
    Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa Muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum. Astaghfirillah
  35. 4 points
    Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa ali Muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum. Astaghfirillah.
  36. 4 points
    Reza

    Ate/Eating/Will Eat?

    Chocolate.
  37. 4 points
    Intellectual Resistance

    Your Username Or Avatar

    I like to think for myself, question everything, and approach life so that had i been born into a Hindu family, or a secular Humanity family, or any other group i would have ended up as a Shia. If you're going to claim anything, i'm going to ask where the evidence is. My name doesn't mean i believe i am 'intellectual' but that i want to approach religion by using my head. The resistance is against my own ignorance and against those who attack Shia Islam.
  38. 4 points
    notme

    Ate/Eating/Will Eat?

    Brunch casserole. It's got canned biscuits, crumbled turkey sausage, shredded cheddar cheese, eggs, milk, and gravy. Quite delicious, actually.
  39. 4 points
    A salawat before bed: Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa ali Muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum. Astaghfirillah.
  40. 4 points
    Aye my G's, what's good witchu? Well I am into hip-hop culture (as some of you can tell when I decide to talk ghetto) and my profile pic is just something cool I saw from an animated series named "Samurai Champloo" (the series itself is a weird amalgamation of hip-hop culture and traditional japanese culture, in the sense that traditional japanese culture is all about honor and obedience and hip-hop culture is mainly about being a rebel and being a little rough around the edges). And well, my username is what it literally means. That is in real life my first name is Ali. Ain't nothing special B.
  41. 4 points
    Hameedeh

    Meteors hit in Michigan.

    ShiaChat news of a meteor in Michigan, before it's even a breaking news email!
  42. 4 points
    starlight

    Your Username Or Avatar

    1. My Avatar has always been 'sabr' -something I have tried training myself in over the years. 2. My Avatar always has pink colour in it because I haven't completely outgrown my childhood obsession with the colour.
  43. 4 points
    Aquib Rizvi

    We shouldn't become animals

    Wa aleykumsalaam, From `Abd Allāh bin Sinān said, I asked Abā `Abd Allāh, Ja`far bin Muhammad al-Sādiq (عليه السلام), I (narrator) said: “Are the angels better (afDal) or the children of Adam? So he (عليه السلام) said that Amīr al-Mu’minīn, `Alī bin Abī al-Tālib (عليه السلام) said: “Verily, Allāh (عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ) has composed in angels `aql (intellect) and no desire, and he composed in beasts desire and no intellect, and he composed in the children of Adam both (`aql and desire). So whoever (lets) `aql overcome his desires, he will be than the angels, and whoever (lets) his desires overcome his `aql, he is will be worse than the beasts” Source:Ilal al-Sharai by Sheikh Sadooq,Vol 1,Ch 6,Pg 4,H 1
  44. 4 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Thoughts 2018

    A hard heart is never good, Hassan.
  45. 4 points
    Wasalam! Born and raised in the west I can tell you from my perspective that for most sinful acts I never recognised as sins in the first place. I used to support gay marriage and other sinful acts like abortion. I used to think it was all normal until I discovered Islam and its understanding of human nature and Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى made me think about my place in the world and have so much regret for all the ignorance I had of Islam. The first time I prayed I cried for the hate I used to speak of Islam and it’s holy prophet which I feel as forgiven me and for this until my last breath and then in the hereafter I will forever be a Muslim. Brother when you are in the West always have something on you to remember Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and the Ahlulbayt and you will never go astray inshallah. I always have a Zulfiqar around my wrist when I go out to remember who I am..one who submits to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى
  46. 4 points
    One word be an unmoveable object.Your faith is an unmoveable object. I am currently studying in the West and I am a visible minority.Not only am I a woman wearing a hijab but my field is also predominently male. In your third point you said : first of all :its a sin.So honestly I dont care two cents if its normal here or not.What I realised after coming here is that it depends on you and solely on you.For me I do not shake hands with men and when one presents his hands I just say no.yes simply no.usually they look at me for a few seconds and they get embarassed and then they move on and nobody mentions it again.Sometimes they even try another form of greeting like a bow or clasping their hands and I think hmm this might be a good person, and it sort of became a measure of judging for me.Trust me its very easy to weed out the racist bigot from the lot then.Saves you a lot of headache and secondguessing later on. My advice is since you are a man (I assume from your name) dont shake hands with either women or men and you dont need to justify yourself or your believes to anybody.I noticed in the early days that the times where I just said no clearly and politely bordering on being brutally frank were the times I was respected and valued as opposed to the times when I got red in the face and looked embarassed.Because in the end what do I have to be embarassed for?This is me,this is my religion and those are my believes take it or leave it for I wont change for you. dont do طاعة المخلوق في معصية الخالق Another point (bare with me I know I am ranting here but this really is close to home for me) When I came here there was a lot of talk of cultural shock (phase one is of course complete and utter admiration ad enthrallement by their so called democarcy freedom progress bla bla ...) I remember the first day we had a guided tour in my university ,its one of the best in the country so you can imagine it was pretty grand with all the technology you could dream about, and then I asked if there was a prayer room and guess what do I get ? guess just guess.go on the dirty floor of the security stairs landing where the closest toilet is 3 floors up. why ? why you ask ? because apparently this is a "laicque " society.Then what about the 2 churches annexed to the uni and the megachurch down the street(I am not even kidding,I wish I was kidding). Fine , not a problem thank God I live around the block. And then I go to buy my first groceries and what do I see in the streets in -24C december weather beggars wearing sleevless shirts.Old and young,of all ethnicities. and do you know what their views on giving money to those beggars are :Me? giving money to them?! so they can buy drugs and booze? OMG! Why are they allowed in the metro station after closing time (-30C weather)?its going to smell of rot and excrement tommorrow dont they have shelters for them? shelters ?yes they have shelters,I know of them and you know what, they treat their animals better than they treat those مساكين in those shelters. I have a third point about the food, to go to my classes in a certain part of the uni I have to pass the food court ,everytime I pass it (almost daily) there is a certain smell that lingers , that is so strong I almost feel its precense at this point it has become part of the walls.At first i thought it was uncleanliness or something but then they are sticklers for the law and following codes here so that must not be it.Then I realised it was pork and non halal meat. And so everytime our professor asked about cultural shock and which phase of integration *cough* assimilation and mental slavery we where in,all I saw were those beggars,'that prayer room' and I swear sometimes I could smell pork and of course I had to keep a blank expression on my face while all I could think of was you hypocrite you build this country on blood lies and ظلم and you call yourself civilised and whats more you want us to call you civilised. You are Iranian, correct ? You should be proud, you should hold you head high because you probably are the only country to have made a true revolution in the past century.Your men and women are speakers of truth and of justice and I think that what the past days/ decades have proven that the Iranian people are dispite and inspite of the attacks by the rest of the world you are one of the most conscious and aware people in the world. Do you think they know about whats going on in Syria ,Iraq, about the unspeakable ظلم happening in Yemen and Palestine and Nigeria and Rohinga ? Do you think they know what their darling military is really doing in our lands ? No , they dont and they probably never will and they will end their lives just as they lived them as empty mindless sheep فهم كالانعام .eventhough god gave them countless opportunities to turn to light (because god is just). You know they see the hijab and they think naive,religious (negative connotation here) or worse terrorist and different/other. they see the color of my skin and my name and they think inferior and ignorant. Fine underestimate us all for all I care.Because one day Imam Al Mahdi will come عجل الله فرجه الشريف and he will end your tyranny and truth will shine and you will reap what you sowed
  47. 4 points
    Ali-F

    What is your goal today?

    Goals: - I will complete my to-do-list for today. This includes deciding if I want to accept this job interview or not. - Continue pray 6 qadha' prayers (I made a decision to pray my about 200 fajr qadha' prayers). I pray 2 after each salah. 6 a day. I am down to 90 prayers - yah!
  48. 4 points
    When you are in a religion forum Dawah is unavoidable.
  49. 4 points
    I just love these words of Imam Ali (as) subhanallah, as it makes me realize how lost these tyrants are "Remember that these worldly-minded people are like barking dogs and hungry and ferocious beasts. Some of them are constantly barking at others. The mighty lords kill and massacre the poor and the weak. Their powerful persons exploit and tyrannize the powerless. Their inordinate desires and their greed has such a complete hold over them that you will find some of them like animals tamed and tied with a rope round their feet and necks. (They have lost the freedom of thought and cannot come out of the enslavement of their desires and habits). While they are others whom wealth and power have turned mad. They behave like unruly beasts, trampling, crushing and killing their fellow beings, and destroying things around them. The history of this world is merely a reward of such incidents, some big and some small, the difference is of might but the intensity is the same. These people have lost the balance of their minds. They do not know what they are doing and where they are going, scan their activities and study their ways of thinking and you will find them confused and irrational, they appear like cattle wandering in a dreary desert where there is no water to drink and no fodder to eat, no shepherd to cater for them and no guardian to look after them. What has actually happened to them is that the vicious world has taken possession of them, it is dragging them wherever it likes, and is treating them as if they are blind because it has in reality blind-folded them against Divine light of True Religion. They are wandering without reasonable aims and sober purposes in the bewitching show that the world has staged for them, they are fully intoxicated with the pleasures amassed around them. They take this world to be their god and nourisher. The world is amusing them and they are amused with it and have forgotten and forsaken everything else. But the nights of enjoyments and pleasures will not last long for anybody, the dawn of realities will break sooner or later. The caravan of life will surely reach its destination one day. One who has nights and days acting as piebald horses for him, carrying him onward and onward towards his journey's end must remember that though he may feel as if he is stopping at one place yet actually he is moving on, he is proceeding to his destination. Everyday is carrying him a step further in his journey towards death."
  50. 4 points
    Intellectual Resistance

    Thoughts 2018

    I don't have facebook, twitter, instagram, snapchat, or any social media. I feel people are plugged far too much into virtual worlds they lose a sense of the real people around them. When you go out with family, or with the brothers, and they are all on their phones, it defeats that human interaction.
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