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  1. 15 points
    Qa'im

    Divorcing infertile husband

    This type of thinking is toxic. You're justifying throwing him away because you assume he would do the same. Have you asked him what he would do if the shoe were on the other foot? Your family seems to be pretty hell-bent on getting you two divorced. This is surprising, considering the possibility that things can go terribly wrong. What if you can't remarry? What if you don't love your second husband the way you love your current husband? What if he too is infertile? What if you get a child with a birth defect, or in the example in Surat al-Kahf, an evil child? There may be a wisdom to his situation, and perhaps adoption can save a person's life, while divorce can very well destroy yours.
  2. 13 points
    It's no mystery that Nakshawani enjoys a luxury lifestyle, but these are disjointed out-of-context clips. Most if not all of us have done worse, and we ask Allah to forgive us and all mu'mineen. Just keep in mind that this is a preacher, not a scholar; and even if he were a scholar, we should not raise any fallible person above our heads. One section of our community reveres people on minbars, while another section of our community look for every reason to attack them. They are people. Take the khayr and leave the rest.
  3. 12 points
    Khadim uz Zahra

    Divorcing infertile husband

    I don't understand why you'd rather divorce your husband - who seems to be an incredibly awesome stand-up guy given that he's even willing to divorce you to make you happy - instead of just adopting a baby. Why do you need to have a biological child? I personally cannot see the reasoning behind leaving behind a man who truly understands and loves you for the sake of having a child when adoption is a completely viable option. Could you perhaps share why the two of you don't want to adopt?
  4. 9 points
    SakinaFatimah

    Reverts

    Hi I am a shia convert Alhamdulilah since the past 4 years and honestly it has been incredible at the same time it has been difficult aswell. I just wanted to know why is it so diffcult for shia community to take a revert and make him/her a part of their family and even takes them time to make him/her a part of their community. Especially seeing that a convert already faces the bigger challenge of going against their parents and entire family to believe but these difficulties I would suppose would dishearten several individual who would like to convert. Any comments on this?
  5. 9 points
    Qa'im

    Sayyed Ammar Naskhkawani done?

    Correct your brother if he is wrong, but hujjat al-islam is given to anyone who has finished the preliminary hawza program; so this would depend on our definition of scholar. In a very broad sense he may be considered a scholar, but his qualifications are more academic than traditional. Actually in the Ja`fari madhhab, there is no israf on clothing, and beautification is desirable, as is displaying Allah's bounty. In principle yes one should not waste money that can be better spent elsewhere, but we can barely make out what is going on in the video to justify comparing him to Mu`awiya. So far this thread has mentioned drinking, drugs, expensive food, but none of that is proven or even observable. As for the jacuzzi, you all know that the `awra in Shiism is not the same as in Sunnism right? No one is happy with the man's extravagant taste, but this is much ado. Did everyone really think that a rich single man in his 30s was in the mosque all day praying? As far as the sunna is concerned, the soo' ath-thann and gheeba in this thread is worse than anything in the videos.
  6. 9 points
    starlight

    [Resolved]Starlight Unregistered

    Salam, Thank you everyone for your duas and wishes! I am back!!
  7. 9 points
    Abu Hadi

    Divorcing infertile husband

    I don't think you should divorce him, if you think he is an otherwise good guy. There are almost no couples who get everything they want out of the marriage. Some have children but they are poor, some are not poor but one or the other spouse is abusive, lying, cheating, etc. Some have a spouse that is much more / less religious and so they don't feel they are compatiple. So on the scale of relationship problems, this is not one of the major ones, IMHO. I know you might think, 'well you don't know what it's like'. You're right, I don't. I have three healthy children, Alhamduillah. At the same time if you want Sadaqa Jarriya and to contribute to society, there are lots of other ways, besides having children. You probably know of or are already doing a few of these. In the end, how happy or how miserable you are in life depends on how you react to the things which are under your control. The things which are not under your control, like the fact that you can't have children, is not one of the things you can control. You can control your reaction to it. You can turn it into a positive or a negative. I don't think divorcing your husband would qualify as turning it into a positive. After 19 years and all the things you have went thru as a couple, I don't think separating at this point would be a positive thing for either one of you.
  8. 9 points
    Abu Nur

    Advice from Imam (as)

    'In the Name of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى , the Beneficent, the Merciful. Having said that, l (as) ask your Lord سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى to grant you all good health. It is for you all to have tenderness, dignity and tranquility, and it is for you to be bashful and keep yourselves clear, just as the righteous people before you have done. It is for you to be courteous with the people of falsehood. You will bear injustices from them, and beware of disputing with them in what is between you and them. When you sit with them, and are alone with them and argue your differences with them, there is no way out for you but to sit with them and be alone with them, and argue with them by the dissimulation which Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has Ordered you for, that you should take to it regarding what is between you and them. So if you are tested with that from them, that they wish to harm you and you can recognize abhorrence in their faces, and if Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى , the High does not Dispel them away from you, they would rob you. And what is in their chests of enmity and hatred is much more than what they display to you. Your gatherings and their gatherings are one and the same, but your spirits and their spirits are different. You will not reconcile with them and you will never lover them, ever, and they will never love you as well. Surely Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى the High has Honored you all with the truth and Made you to visualize it, and did not Make them to be deserving of it. Be courteous to them and be patient with them, for they have no courtesy to you nor do they have patience over anything, and some of them are obsessed with tricking the others, for the enemies of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى have the ability to keep you from the truth. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى Protects you from that, so fear Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and hold back your tongues except from the good, and beware of letting your tongues to slip into speaking that which is false, and the slanderous, and the sinful, and the violation. So if you were to hold back your tongues from what is disliked by Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى , from what He سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has Forbidden you from, it would be better for you with your Lord سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى than letting your tongues slip into what is disliked by Him سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and what He سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has Prohibited you from. Al-Kafi Chapter: 1, Hadith: 14449, Number: 1
  9. 9 points
    Qa'im

    Advice from Imam (as)

    Thanks for sharing brother. And here is a letter from your living Imam (ajtfs): خبرني جماعة، عن أبي محمد التلعكبري، عن أحمد بن علي الرازي، عن الحسين بن علي (1) القمي، قال: حدثني محمد بن علي بن بنان (2) الطلحي الآبي، عن علي بن محمد بن عبدة النيسابوري، قال: حدثني علي بن إبراهيم الرازي، قال: حدثني الشيخ الموثوق (3) به بمدينة السلام قال: تشاجر ابن أبي غانم القزويني وجماعة من الشيعة في الخلف، فذكر ابن أبي غانم أن أبا محمد عليه السلام مضى ولا خلف له، ثم إنهم كتبوا في ذلك كتابا وأنفذوه إلى الناحية، وأعلموه (4) بما تشاجروا فيه، فورد جواب كتابهم بخطه عليه وعلى آبائه السلام. بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم عافانا الله وإياكم من الضلالة (5) والفتن، ووهب لنا ولكم روح اليقين، وأجارنا وإياكم من سوء المنقلب أنه أنهي إلي ارتياب جماعة منكم في الدين، وما دخلهم من الشك والحيرة في ولاة أمورهم، فغمنا ذلك لكم لا لنا، وساءنا فيكم لا فينا، لان الله معنا ولا فاقة بنا إلى غيره، والحق معنا فلن يوحشنا من قعد عنا، ونحن صنائع ربنا، والخلق بعد صنائعنا. يا هؤلاء ! ما لكم في الريب تترددون، وفي الحيرة تنعكسون (6) ؟ أو ما سمعتم الله عزوجل يقول: (يا أيها الذين آمنوا أطيعوا الله وأطيعوا الرسول وأولي = الامر منكم) (1) ؟ أوما علمتم ما جاءت به الآثار مما يكون ويحدث في أئمتكم عن (2) الماضين والباقين منهم عليهم السلام ؟ أوما رأيتم كيف جعل الله لكم معاقل تأوون إليها، وأعلاما تهتدون بها من لدن آدم عليه السلام إلى أن ظهر الماضي عليه السلام، كلما غاب علم بدا علم، وإذا أفل نجم طلع نجم ؟ فلما قبضه الله إليه ظننتم أن الله تعالى أبطل دينه، وقطع السبب بينه وبين خلقه، كلا ما كان ذلك ولا يكون حتى تقوم الساعة، ويظهر أمر الله سبحانه وهم كارهون. وإن الماضي عليه السلام مضى سعيدا فقيدا على منهاج آبائه عليهم السلام حذو النعل بالنعل، وفينا وصيته وعلمه، ومن هو خلفه ومن هو يسد مسده، لا ينازعنا موضعه إلا ظالم آثم، ولا يدعيه دوننا إلا جاحد كافر، ولولا أن أمر الله تعالى لا يغلب، وسره لا يظهر ولا يعلن، لظهر لكم من حقنا ما تبين (3) منه عقولكم، ويزيل شكوككم، لكنه ما شاء الله كان، ولكل أجل كتاب. فاتقوا الله وسلموا لنا، وردوا الامر إلينا، فعلينا الاصدار كما كان منا الايراد، ولا تحاولوا كشف ما غطي عنكم ولا تميلوا عن اليمين، وتعدلوا إلى الشمال، واجعلوا قصدكم إلينا بالمودة على السنة الواضحة، فقد نصحت لكم، والله شاهد علي وعليكم، ولولا ما عندنا من محبة صلاحكم ورحمتكم، والاشفاق عليكم، لكنا عن مخاطبتكم في شغل فيما قد امتحنا به من منازعة الظالم العتل (4) الضال المتتابع في غيه، المضاد لربه، الداعي ما ليس له، الجاحد حق من افترض الله طاعته، الظالم الغاصب. وفي ابنة رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم لي أسوة حسنة وسيردي الجاهل رداءة (5) عمله، وسيعلم الكافر لمن عقبى الدار، عصمنا الله وإياكم من المهالك والاسواء، والآفات والعاهات كلها برحمته، فإنه ولي ذلك والقادر على ما يشاء، وكان لنا ولكم وليا وحافظا، والسلام على جميع الاوصياء والاولياء والمؤمنين ورحمة الله وبركاته، وصلى الله على محمد وآله وسلم تسليما (1). "In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful. May Allah protect us and you from misguidance and sedition, and give us and you the spirit of certainty, and deliver us and you from capsizing evil. I am prohibited from entrusting some of you with the religion; those who have entertained doubt and perplexity regarding the Masters of their Affairs. So we have shrouded it from you, not from us; and we have deprived you, not ourselves - for Allah is with us, and we are in need of no one other than Him. The truth is with us, so we are never alone no matter who sits with us. We are the invention of our Lord, and the creation came after our existence. O you! Why do you hesitate in doubt and contrast [the truth] in perplexity? Have you not heard the saying of Allah, 'O you who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger and the Masters of the Order from you' (4:59). Do you not know of the corpus that has come and the narrations of your Imams, past and present? Do you not see how Allah created secure strongholds for you, as well as guiding signs from the beginning of Adam to the end of the previous [Imam]? Whenever knowledge would disappear, knowledge would recommence, and whenever a star would set, a star would rise. So when Allah caused him to pass away, did you think that Allah abolished His religion, and severed the connection between Him and His creation? Nay, that did not happen, and that will not be until the Hour will rise and the Order of Allah becomes manifest even if they are averse. Surely, the previous [Imam] passed away happy, and he passed away upon the way of his forefathers, who followed in the footsteps of their predecessors. In us is his testament and his knowledge - his successor is from him. None will dispute our position to him except a sinning oppressor, and no one will call to him without us except an ungrateful disbeliever. The Order of Allah cannot be defeated, and His mystery does not appear nor is it announced. We will manifest what appears from our right through your intellects, and your doubts will fall, but whatever Allah wills shall happen, and every thing has its ordained time. So fear Allah, surrender to us, and return the Order to us. It is our responsibility to distribute [wealth to the needy], just as we would receive the revenues. And do not try to uncover what has shrouded you, and do not deviate from the right to the left. Make your intention towards us, and love the clear Sunna. I have advised you, and Allah is the Witness over me and over you. Had we not loved your well-being, been merciful towards you, and been compassionate towards you, we would have addressed you in full regarding our trials from this coarse oppressor (the Caliph), who follows his own desire, who contradicts his Lord, who calls to what is not his, who denies the right of he whom Allah has obligated obedience to; the unjust usurper. And in the daughter of the Messenger of Allah is a good example for me. The ignorant wishes to destroy his deeds, but the disbeliever will come to know who the house shall go to. May Allah protect us and you from destruction and evils, and all pests and impairments through His mercy, for He is the Guardian who can do whatever He wills, and He is our and your Guardian and Sustainer. Peace be upon all of the deputies, masters, and believers, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. May Allah bless Muhammad and His Family, and grant them peace." (Shaykh al-Tusi's Kitab al-Ghayba, pages 285-287)
  10. 8 points
    haideriam

    Reverts

    Reverts are the best.
  11. 8 points
    shia farm girl

    Divorcing infertile husband

    Salaam, i agree with @Abu Hadi, that 19 years in a good marriage is not something to take lightly for many reasons. For one, in this day and age the divorce rate especially for Muslims is extremely high. People don't seem to know how to get along together anymore, how to compromise, how to forgive and forget, what to overlook, or what's really important in the whole big scheme of life and of being a married Muslim couple,so if you have found that, you both are EXTREMELLY BLESSED.. There's also another issue of breaking a believers heart. That is extremely frowned upon in Islam, especially if it's something that's done intentionally with the knowledge of knowing this is going to break another Muslims heart. I caution against this, as this existence operates according to an algorithm and the gears start turning the moment we form our intention regarding what we are going to do. What happens to us, good and bad, is aresult of many factors, the strongest ones being what we have contributed to the algorithm through our own actions. Be very careful what you do, because it may come back in a bad way, for example, you could divorce your current husband, marry someone else and have a kid with them, and that kid would be the biggest dhulum in your life ever. You may get your wish to have a child, but at the same time regret it later. Another thing to be aware of is that choosing to divorce your husband after Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has granted you a perfect match is in a way being ungreatfull for what Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has granted you.theres no guarantee you will ever find a more suitable man for you. One last thing I want to do is give you a reference to my past. My ex and I had the best relationship ever. We did everything together, we even worked together. We were really connected with each other and were a match on every level, and I loved him dearly. We were only together a year-and-a-half when I came home one night and found him dead from a brain aneurysm. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about him or miss him and the relationship that him and I had...And we were only together a year and a half.. You have 19 years under your belt with a husband that sounds extremely good..I highly caution against leaving him because you may not be able to let him and your past with him go. This would not be fair to your new husband, nkr to yourself. Livinv with that deep regret does something to a person mentally emotionally and spiritually, especially to women. Please seriously consider what youre going to do, and consider other options regarding children. There are many children in this world who need parents, a close friend of mine and her husband were moving towards adopting a Syrian child. I'm not sure where they're at with all that, but when we look at the plight of infants and small children in other parts of the world, it may open our hearts up more to be coming of service to Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى in that way. W/s
  12. 7 points
    Wholehearted Shi'a

    My First Ramadan

    Salam Aleykum. As you are all aware we are getting closer and closer to the start of Ramadan and being a Muslim for seven months Alhumdulilah, this will be my first experience. I am trying to collect as much knowledge as I can ranging from a general guides, practices, laws and would love to know even some of your own personal tips and tricks during this holy month. Looking forward to reading all of your answers.
  13. 7 points
    Qa'im

    Sayyed Ammar Naskhkawani done?

    The thing is though, would anyone even talk about this video if it were an ordinary person and not Nakshawani? It seems that anyone on a minbar is expected to be a superhuman angelic figure, with perfect Arabic, Ayatollah-level knowledge, expertise in every topic, answers to every question, and living like every auntie’s dream boy. The guy is a lecturer, a very imperfect one at that. But that doesn’t give us the right to assume drugs, alcohol, night clubs, fraudulence, expensiveness, or anything else that has been said here. Our job is to make excuses for our brother, whether he is a street sweeper or a grand ayatollah.
  14. 7 points
    Hameedeh

    Sayyed Ammar Naskhkawani done?

    To the person who mentioned that Sayyed Ammar Nakshawani might be drinking alcohol or taking drugs, that is an accusation that is highly unlikely and we should not entertain such thoughts. The camera focused on a can (it's not even clear enough to read the label) so it's probably a soft drink, but if someone claims it's alcohol, then we should also notice that the can has not been opened. It's just sitting there and it's not even in front of SAN but way off to the side, where someone else was sitting.
  15. 7 points
    I’m really sick of... - Hypocrites. - Wahhabis and crazy Evangelicals. - America believing they have the right to police and boss the world around. - Christians telling me I’m going to hell for converting. - Racist Right Wingers who take so much joy in being Christian in a Christian land attacking Islam without having ever practiced his/her religion and not going to church. I have been told by these people that I am a traitor to Australia. I also am really sick of the Ignorant Facist like Left Wingers who refuse to hear other people’s opinions and whose political beliefs come from social media telling them what they should believe, how they should feel and who they should hate, defending things they have no individual understanding of. - Rupert Murdoch and all of his media outlets pushing the same Pro-Zionist Anti-Iranian agenda. - Reza Pahlavi on MSM trying to act like he’s some liberal all loving monarch on American media who claims he only wants the best for Iranians. It’s probably good then to keep your illegitimate, illegal and totalitarian family dynasty out of Iran forever. - Trolls on Shiachat - People on Shiachat who forget we are all brother and sisters, harshly attacking and criticising other people’s character over what is probably a pointless argument/topic. Thanks for reading.
  16. 7 points
    What a bunch of whining losers, what is the purpose of this thread?
  17. 7 points
    they are resistance groups they dont kill sunnis they kill terrorists only
  18. 6 points
    Salam everybody: This is the official thread for Ramadan 2018. Discuss: Preparations and plans Moon sightings Iftar suggestions, pictures, discussions Associated events Issues regarding fasting, law, rules, personal issues, etc And anything else... Of course feel free to post any new topic in the Ramadan 2018 forum. To further commemorate this holy month, we have the Ramadan Midnight theme on display, and other surprises coming you way! Ramadan Mubarak
  19. 6 points
    notme

    Advice needed

    Please know that this man is not a good representative of how a Shia Muslim should behave. From an Islamic perspective, it is forbidden for a father to deny parentage of his child. A father is responsible, not only for financial support, but also for ensuring the correct education and upbringing of his child. Clearly what is allowed or forbidden doesn't matter to this pathetic hypocrite of a man. Perhaps you and your child are better off without him. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you need any emotional support or have questions about Islam, please stay around on shiachat. We've got some judgemental members, but also some very compassionate ones.
  20. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Last Chance to get Married

    His rejection of accommodating you with a Shi’a recital may be a symbol of what marriage would have looked like with him. It sounds like he does not respect your religion, so how do you expect to practice it during your marriage
  21. 6 points
    Mansur Bakhtiari

    Sayyed Ammar Naskhkawani done?

    I don't see what he's doing that is haram unless someone else can point that out. Slandering a brother is a cardinal sin in Islam, you should think good of him unless you have solid proof.
  22. 6 points
    Abu Hadi

    Reverts

    It is difficult to make a general statement about muslim 'communities' since there are so many and so many different types of people within those communities with various agendas and levels of Iman. The one thing I have found to be pretty consistent across the communities I have participated in (I am a revert also) is that most of the leadership within Islamic Organizations (masjids, non profits, etc) are composed of older, first generation immigrants who are wealthy. They set up the organizations as 'culture clubs' for other immigrants from their particular country and region and for the children of these immigrants. Since a revert is usually not from their region and not connected to them (the leaders) by culture or family ties, they think of them as an 'outsider' and not to be trusted. So these centers and organizations are not set up to help or integrate reverts, unless you are a young, attractive female then you will be flooded with marriage proposals, then after marriage, the same issue(s) will be there. If you want my advice, I would say that you should try to find individuals within the community who understand the struggles and challenges you are going thru and are willing to give you some help and support, person to person. Preferably, these should be women if you are a women. Once you are 'sturdy' and knowledgeable and confident in your faith (this will probably take five to ten years), then you can interact with these centers of organizations as will benefit you based on your knowledge. Also, I would not rush into marriage as a new revert as you are vulnerable to being exploited and manipulated. Unless there is an urgent need (i.e. your faith is being affected as a result of not being married) I would wait until at least a few years to give yourself time to study and learn and adjust to the religion before marriage. The other thing I would like to say is that don't make any assumptions about someone (either good or bad) because they are a muslim or because they are Shia, or even because they hold a leadership or prominent position within the community. There are many people who claim to be muslim and followers of Muhammad(p.b.u.h) and Ahl Al Bayt(a.s). There are very few that actually follow the religion in a consistent way. Most take the 'shopping cart' approach where they follow the religion in areas where they like, and disregard it in other areas, but when you find those people who truly attempt to follow the religion in every aspect of their life (even though they may not be perfect), that more than makes up for the disappointments. Those true momineen and mominat (the faithful and trustworthy ones) are unique and special.
  23. 6 points
    TheGreenWanderer

    Reverts

    As-salaam alaikum sister, May Allah reward you, I'm also a revert and I've been through the same challenges with those around you. But, I haven't found local Shia near my town to be able to discuss with in the first place..... but so far I've found the Shia community on here (Shiachat) have been very friendly. I'm still awaiting that opportunity to engage with Shia in person. Though I have experienced 'cultural Muslims' otherwise and they can make you feel like an outsider.
  24. 6 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    The Gods of Man

    لَوْ كَانَ فِيهِمَا آلِهَةٌ إِلَّا اللَّـهُ لَفَسَدَتَا ۚ فَسُبْحَانَ اللَّـهِ رَبِّ الْعَرْشِ عَمَّا يَصِفُونَ ﴿٢٢﴾ If there had been in them any gods except Allah, they would both have certainly been in a state of disorder; therefore glory be to Allah, the Lord of the dominion, above what they attribute (to Him). (22) http://tanzil.net/#trans/en.shakir/21:22 Also in Arabic text it refers to Goddess with female attributes because if they existed so they would born other gods.
  25. 6 points
    He never said it. He said that a donkey only thinks of its economy (what it eats and other things are not important for it).
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