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    Zarla

    Understanding negative thought processes.

    Wonderful blog! I like how you have started by focusing on identifying and understanding our negative thought processes, because that's what lies at the core of nearly all psychological disorders. Change is easy once people can identify and understand the reasons behind the irrationality of their dysfunctional thoughts. However, sometimes it is difficult to understand that our negative core beliefs are illogical, because they may imply 'facts' (e.g., "I am worthless." "The world is a scary place" "People are evil") and have been with us for a long time (since an early age/childhood) and so have had the opportunity to grow and become strengthened. This is why they are deeply-held beliefs and create the essence for how we see ourselves, the world and other people. And so we rarely question them and tend to screen information according to these thoughts or beliefs (which can over time appear automatically across different situations). Educating ourselves about the role our negative thought processes play in creating mental health problems is the first step to breaking this vicious cycle.
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    Today I read these interesting words said by a psychologist: "The most frightening place in the world is [inside] your mind". "None of us was born winner nor looser. We were born choosers".
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    Thank you for this useful blog. Many members here suffer from depression. I hope you can help them.
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    Heavenly_Silk

    Understanding negative thought processes.

    The following link will take you to part 2 - http://www.shiachat.com/forum/blogs/entry/315-the-impact-of-cognitive-distortions/
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    monad

    Understanding negative thought processes.

    Everyone loves me.
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    Hameedeh

    The impact of Cognitive distortions

    Another interesting blog entry. I learn so much from you, Sister. Alhamdulillah for all your help.
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    Wa Alaykum Salam. What you have quoted from Tafsir al-Safi goes back to Tafsir al-Askari [a Tafsir which claims to originate from the Eleventh Imam]. This is the translation: قال رجل للصادق عليه السلام فإذا كان هؤلاء العوام من اليهود لا يعرفون الكتاب الا بما يسمعونه من علمائهم لا سبيل لهم إلى غيره فكيف ذمّهم بتقليدهم و القبول من علمائهم و هل عوام اليهود الا كعوامنا يقلّدون علمائهم فان لم يجز لأولئك القبول من علمائهم لم يجز لهؤلاء القبول من علمائهم فقال عليه السلام بين عوامنا و علمائنا و بين عوام اليهود و علمائهم فرق من جهة و تسوية من جهة أما من حيث استووا فان اللَّه قد ذمّ عوامنا بتقليدهم علماءهم كما قد ذمّ عوامهم و أمّا من حيث افترقوا فلا، A man said to al-Sadiq عليه السلام: If the common people among the Jews did not have any other way to obtain knowledge of the Book except through what they heard from their scholars - then why did He blame them for their following of the scholars and acceptance from them? Further, is it not the case that the common people among the Jews are like our common people for they [our common people] too follow their scholars, so if it is not permitted for them [the Jews] to accept from their scholars then is it not also impermissible for these [our common people] to accept what their scholars say? He عليه السلام said: Between our common people and our scholars and the laity among the Jews and their scholars there is a difference in one aspect and similarity in another aspect. As far as the similar aspect is concerned then just as Allah censured our common people for the blind following of their scholars He did the same in censuring their common people, but as for the divergent aspect then No [he did not censure it]. قال بيّن لي ذلك يا بن رسول اللَّه قال إنّ عوام اليهود كانوا قد عرفوا علمائهم بالكذب الصريح و بأكل الحرام و الرّشا و بتغيير الأحكام عن واجبها بالشفاعات و العنايات و المصانعات و عرفوهم بالتعصب الشديد الذي يفارقون به أديانهم و إنهم إذا تعصبوا أزالوا حقوق من تعصبوا عليه و اعطوا ما لا يستحقه من تعصبوا له من اموال غيرهم و ظلموهم من أجلهم و عرفوهم يقارفون المحرّمات و اضطروا بمعارف قلوبهم إلى أن من فعل ما يفعلونه فهو فاسق لا يجوز ان يصدق على اللَّه و لا على الوسائط بين الخلق و بين اللَّه فلذلك ذمّهم لما قلّدوا من قد عرفوا و من قد علموا أنّه لا يجوز قبول خبره و لا تصديقه في حكايته و لا العمل بما يؤديه إليهم The Narrator said: Explain it for me O the son of the messenger of Allah. He عليه السلام said: the common people among the Jews knew that their scholars used to lie outright, eat the forbidden wealth, were corrupt, changed the laws from what they should be based on intercession, favours and bribes. They also knew that their scholars were excessively partisan, that they used to split up their religion because of this rivalry and used to trample the rights of those they were against and give those they are partial towards what they do not deserve of the wealth of others, they used to oppress them [the enemies of their allies] to please their biases. They knew them to perpetrate the forbidden. They [the common people] knew it in their hearts [had intrinsic knowledge] that the one who does what they used to do is a Fasiq, and it is not acceptable to consider them truthful in what they attribute to Allah or to the intermediaries between the creation and Allah. That is why He censured them when they followed those they knew for a fact it was forbidden to accept their reports or consider them truthful in what they say, or to act based on what they instruct. وكذلك عوام امتنا إذا عرفوا من فقهائهم الفسق الظاهر ، والعصبية الشديدة والتكالب على حطام الدنيا وحرامها ، وإهلاك من يتعصبون عليه إن كان لاصلاح أمره مستحقا ، وبالترفق بالبر والاحسان على من تعصبوا له ، وإن كان للاذلال والاهانة مستحقا فمن قلّد من عوامنا مثل هؤلاء الفقهاء، فهم مثل اليهود الذين ذمّهم الله تعالى بالتقليد لفسقة فقهائهم Likewise, the laity of our community, if they recognize signs of clear-cut Fisq from their scholars, extreme partisanship, their turning towards amassing the wealth of this world and its prohibited items, destroying the affair of the one they are biased against even though extending assistance to him is what is appropriate, showing compassion, good-will and charity to the one they are biased towards even thought humiliating and chastising them is the appropriate response - then the one among our common people who follows such Fuqaha are like the Jews and those who are censured by Allah the Elevated because of their following of corrupt scholars. فأما من كان من الفقهاء صائناً لنفسه، حافظاً لدينه، مخالفاً لهواه، مطيعاً لأمر مولاه، فللعوام أن يقلدوه. وذلك لا يكون إلاّ بعض فقهاء الشيعة، لا جميعهم فان من يركب من القبائح و الفواحش مراكب فسقة فقهاء العامّة فلا تقبلوا منهم عنا شيئاً و لا كرامة لهم. As for the one among the Fuqaha who protects his soul, preserves his religion, opposes his caprice [desires], and obeys the command of his Master then it is upon the laity to follow him. There are only some of the Fuqaha of the Shia who are like this, not all. As for those who perpetrate the despicable and abominable acts the way the `Amma [proto-Sunni] scholars do then do not not accept from them about us anything and they are not to be honoured.
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    Farwa Jawad

    Thinking Positive

    This is what I learned from you Hameedeh.
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    Hameedeh

    Thinking Positive

    If you would like to see your prayers answered during hard times, you must pray hard during easy times. - Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq AS
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    Hameedeh

    Understanding negative thought processes.

    Sister, this blog is amazing! If we read this and implement your suggestions we can change our life. Thank you for the information and your constant help and encouragement.
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    Hameedeh

    Mosque design

    The mosque design in the OP is more pleasing to the eye than this one in Tehran.
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    I was reading and came to similar hadith that was narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab. I don't know about authenticity of the hadith:
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    A perfect equivalence in English for the Islamic conception of Aql is difficult to find. The narrations that speak of Aql, notwithstanding the ones with a mystical bent which treat it as a ‘being’ in some cosmological sense, all indicate that it is above mere intellect in the sense of cleverness. Aql does not just mean mere function of ratiocination. These narrations expect every possessor of Aql to follow the way of Allah (i.e. Islam) which is the logical thing to do i.e. the one who disobeys Allah then his Aql has not been perfected. Perhaps a better word would be ‘consciousness’ with its evocation of self-awareness of who we are and what Allah wants from us. In this context, it is easy to understand why the merit of one who performs Salat for example, with an understanding of what it is and why he is doing it, will have a greater reward than the one who is doing it out of mere habit and without such an understanding. That verse has to do with lightening the burden for those who were keeping the night vigil prayer. It asks them to recite, as much of the Qur'an as they could without over-taxing themselves. It does not have to do with those deficient in Aql. The Pen has been lifted for those who are mentally retarded. Each soul will be judged according to its capacity.
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    Raza313

    ♥ Marriage ♥

    Allah provide all the sisters and daughters good spouse and huge responsibility goes to men that they create balance between his wife and and his family. Equally to girls that if a men is fool then; do not make him a big emotional fool as sister mother or wife.
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    Wa Alaykum Salam. Jazakalla for your Dua. After listing the five groups of people whom the mill-stone will grind, the Commander of the Faithful speaks of a City in which will be the hands of oath-breakers. You know that the prophet had predicted that Ali will have to fight three groups of people after him, including the Nakithin [oath-breakers]. This was realized in the Battle of Basra against Aisha, Talha and Zubayr [the last two having given him the pledge of allegiance and then reneged on it]. This tallies with the hands of these individuals being found in that city [because Bay'a is given by the hand]. This being the case, I think the primary meaning of oath-breakers in the Hadith should be those individuals who make a pact with someone [especially the pledge of allegiance to a leader] and then break it treachery.
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    LeftCoastMom

    Random Drabbles #1

    ^ I think that is nice, but Catholics have a different attitude towards scripture than,say, Protestant literalist fundamentalists. Something that even some Catholics forget.
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    A Muslim Artist

    Random Drabbles #1

    Yeah defiently, this was only a snippet of the blog entry I'm writing. I'm taking multiple viewpoints and during that snippet I'm looking at the arguements from that stance.
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    Mzwakhe

    Thinking Positive

    & it is not easy, you loose your brain sometimes, with all the waswaswa... but thanks. ws
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    Nataly

    Define Happiness

    yes, but we should be careful because sometimes that people that look happy might be truly happy because they're believers in secret.
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    yasahebalzaman.313

    Define Happiness

    To quell the turmoil we are born with, to end the cosmic war of the soul, that is true enlightenment, and thus Happiness. You pointed out something very interesting, when we feel happy and this feeling is over, we experience emptiness afterwards. This emotional process made people get attached to the world more as each day is passing. Happiness is a lifestyle, it's when God is pleased with you, this is what i always say, it's when God gives you satisfaction, self-security and contentment. Reflecting on charity, forgiveness and compassion lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, it's very important to stay genuinely positive. A recent neurological study showed that the areas stimulated by intense prayer and contemplative meditation are the same ones that help us distinguish between good and evil, generosity and greed, love and hate... This is why it is always very important to stay connected to God in almost everything we do.
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    yasahebalzaman.313

    Define Happiness

    This is totally true! I loved your last statement. These people are simple minded, because if you always seek something to amaze you in this world then you won't get enough, they jump from one sin to another from one activity to another and when they are tired in the end they will surely feel miserable and empty.
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    yasahebalzaman.313

    Define Happiness

    السلام عليكم Brother Long time! Hope you're well. Not everyone interpret self restraint as happiness, some don't even understand why they should say no to something they Want. What I'm saying is this rule doesn't apply to everyone, it applies on the believers and not all of them also. For surely when doing it at first you will feel bitterness, but if you stay steadfast on it in a way that you'd really be happy with what God is giving you and convinced that this is all you need, then you'd achieve contentment and satisfaction.
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    Fatimiyyeh

    Define Happiness

    According to what I feel, more than happiness it's the tranquility of the heart that everyone seeks just that we sometimes fail to describe the actual need and claim it to be "happiness"... What is Happiness? It Is to rejoice or be satisfied over something, and its aftermath leaves you feeling 'empty' and so it is temporary; for instance, it's your birthday today, everyone gives you suave gifts and you have an amazing party - you're happy! Over the moon, in fact... But what happens when the party is over, the people are gone and the gifts are used up... Are you still as happy as you were on your birthday? No, that feeling of ecstasy diminishes and then so you look for other means to be "happy" and so long as you don't find it, you feel sore and empty from within like as if life has no meaning... In reality, the concept of happiness doesn't really exist. What exists is a sense of solace and tranquillity from deep within the heart, which is termed as "sukoon" or "tatmainn-e qalb" and it is constant. How does one obtain that tranquility? That peace and sukoon from the heart comes about through nurturing it.. How? First and foremost, we need to have strong and unwavering Faith in Allah SWTT. Alongside, we must be content with all our stations and no matter what turmoil we're facing, we need to realise that it could be worse, but Allah SWTT will never test you beyond your capacity to withstand it (Ref. Surah Al Baqarah 2:287 "786 - Laa yukallefullahu nafsan illa wus'aha - Allah burdens not any soul beyond its capacity), so be thankful to Allah SWTT in all your states, and when something afflicts you, recite: Alhamdolellahi fee kulli Haal - I praise Allah SWTT in all my states or Ennalillahi wa enna elayhi raaji'oon riddhan bi qadhaa-ehii wa tasleeman li amrih - Verily we are Allah’s and verily unto Him we return. We are satisfied with His will and carry out His command. Another way to attain this inner peace is by making others "happy" by giving charity, helping a friend, assisting someone with something, community service, donating to a trust fund, even listening to someone's problems and trying to help out or wiping off a tear from someone's cheek or giving someone a smile is considered charity, and you could also water the plants and feed birds and animals.. You will notice the joy or inner peace you find in your heart when that person or animal looks to at you and smiles a "thank you" - it's an inexpressible feeling.. To gain that inner peace, one must also recite the Qur'aan and remember Allah SWTT in excess. Allah SWTT says in Surah Ar Ra'ad 13:28 "786 - Al ladheena Aammanuu wa tatmainnu quloobuhom bi dhikrillahi alaa bi dhikrillahi tatmainnul quloob - Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah . Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured." This verse says it all... And once you obtain that contentment and inner peace, nothing will deter you, you'll always be smiling no matter what ... No matter what problems you face in life, that tranquility will always put you at ease and you'll feel that positive energy and faith in Allah SWTT and you'll automatically leave things in Allah's hands and you'll be at peace, EnshaAllah Ta'ala. Wabillahi Tawfeeq Request to all reading this: Please recite a Surah Al Fatihah and 3 Al-Ikhlaas for the maghferah of my dad, Renowned Zaker-e-Ahlolbayt, Marhoom Al-Hajj Ma'alim Liyakatali Gulamali Chandoo and All Marhoomeen. Thanks.
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    Gaius I. Caesar

    Define Happiness

    Happiness is misunderstood,it is the feeling of contentment from practicing self-restraint. The right to say no, I won't give into my desires. Ultimately, it is the true definition of freedom. Imagine that, the ability to choose or make your own decisions being the definition of happiness and freedom. And religion plays a part in practicing self restraint, sis
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    IbnSina

    Sisters-Choose The God-Fearing Man

    I would personally never advise any sister to marry any man or any man to marry any sister who does not at least fulfill his or her religious obligations (wajibats) unless of course wajibats are not important to the person in question in which case I would advise the person to first fulfill their religious obligations and then search for marriage.
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    LeftCoastMom

    Colliding neutron stars

    Native customs regarding care for the land are followed here by Christian and pagan alike. There is no conflict. We also have specific as well as general sacred sites. But....Big, little...sacred is sacred. Let's turn all of Mecca into an open-pit mine, starting with the Kaaba. It's just a place and who knows what resources are available? Why should it be special? I'm thinking a lot of Muslims would not be down with that, but I'd like to see the debate.
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    rkazmi33

    Sisters-Choose The God-Fearing Man

    Sadly, many women are psychopath magnets and they just need to deal with them. http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1096279/traits-that-make-you-susceptible-to-a-psychopath
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    Ron_Burgundy

    Sisters-Choose The God-Fearing Man

    Let me be straight to all of you sisters. God fearing man..... I fear Allah but it doesn't mean i am an angel... I am a human being i have desires and needs I try my best to avoid haram things but hey i am a man and I am not perfect. I have committed many sins in my life but as long as i am aware of those sins and I ask my Lord (Allah) to forgive me... i think i am a good person.
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