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  1. 5 points
    Dhulfikar

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    Exactly. My marriage was done in my wife mother house with only about 10 guest and our dowry was only 100 dollar. Alhamdulillah.
  2. 5 points
    This is a part of the sahw debate, which goes back early in our history. Most famously, Saduq in his al-Faqih argued that the sahw of an ordinary person is to his detriment, but the sahw of the Prophet (s) comes from Allah and is therefore good. Its purpose was to teach us a practical fiqh lesson. Mufid disagreed with this, saying that the Prophet was immune from sahw from birth, and that the Imams were immune from it once they became Imams. This sahw of course is only in matters that do not bring shame to the Imam; everything they preached about the religion is correct and protected - that is unanimous. The strength of Saduq's position (which was supported by Tabarsi as well) is that there are plenty of narrations to back up sahw. The scholars that side with Mufid's position say that those traditions were weak or narrated in taqiyya. I personally think Saduq's view is stronger, due to the tawatur of these narrations. Sahw in some cases were public events, narrated in Sunni and Shia books, and therefore difficult or unlikely to fabricate. It is difficult for me to see the narrations of the Imams on this issue to be all in taqiyya. For example: عدة من أصحابنا، عن أحمد بن محمد بن خالد، عن علي بن الحكم، عن أبان الاحمر عن حمزة بن الطيار، عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال: اكتب فأملى علي: إن من قولنا إن الله يحتج على العباد بما آتاهم وعرفهم، ثم أرسل إليهم رسولا وأنزل عليهم الكتاب فأمر فيه ونهى، أمر فيه بالصلاة والصيام فنام رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله عن الصلاة فقال: أنا انيمك وأنا اوقظك فإذا قمت فصل ليعلموا إذا أصابهم ذلك كيف يصنعون، ليس كما يقولون: إذا نام عنها هلك وكذلك الصيام أنا امرضك وأنا اصحك فإذا شفيتك فاقضه، ثم قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: وكذلك إذا نظرت في جميع الاشياء لم تجد أحدا في ضيق ولم تجد أحدا إلا ولله عليه الحجة ولله فيه المشيئة ولا أقول: إنهم ما شاؤوا صنعوا، ثم قال: إن الله يهدي ويضل وقال: وما امروا إلا بدون سعتهم، وكل شئ امر الناس به فهم يسعون له، وكل شئ لا يسعون له فهو موضوع عنهم، ولكن الناس لا خير فيهم ثم تلا عليه السلام: " ليس على الضعفاء ولا على المرضى ولا على الذين لا يجدون ما ينفقون حرج " فوضع عنهم " ما على المحسنين من سبيل والله غفور رحيم * ولا على الذين إذا ما أتوك لتحملهم " قال: فوضع عنهم لانهم لا يجدون. Several of our companions from Ahmad b. Muhammad b. Khalid from `Ali b. al-Hakam from Aban al-Ahmar from Hamza b. at-Tayyar from Abu `Abdillah عليه السلام. He said: Write. So he dictated to me: From our saying is that Allah obligated the servants by what He has given them and what He has made them recognize. Then, He sent a messenger to them and revealed to them a Book, in which He commanded and prohibited. Therein, he ordered them to perform salat and fast. The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وآله slept upon salat, so Allah said, “I make you sleep and I make you wake. When you wake up, pray, so that they may learn what to do if that were to happen to them”. It is not the way that they say, “If one slept upon it (i.e. the time of prayer) he is destroyed”. And it is like that with fasting, “I cause you to become ill and I give you good health, so if I gave you health, then compensate for it (i.e. the missed fast)”. Then, Abu `Abdillah عليه السلام said: And it is like that if you look into all things – no one has been constricted, and no one [will be held accountable] except that there is a proof for Allah upon him, and therein is Allah’s wish. And I do not say, “They can do whatever they wish”. He then said: Allah guides and sets astray. And he said: They are not ordered to do what they are not capable of. And the people are capable of doing all of the things that He has ordered them to do. And all things that they are incapable of doing have been exempted from them. However, there is no good in the [disbelieving] people. He عليه السلام then recited: “There is no blame on those who are infirm, or ill, or who find no resources to spend” (9:91) – so He exempted them – “…no ground can there be against such as do right: and Allah is the Forgiving, the Merciful. Nor (is there blame) on those who came to you to be provided with mounts” (9:91-92). He said: So he exempted them because they do not have the means. --- (1) The narration is reliable by isnad (2) The Imam is instructing someone to write a letter, which does not seem like taqiyya. The Imam could've easily said that it was not his letter, as it wasn't in his handwriting. (3) The Imam is using the sahw to illustrate a grander point; that Allah does not obligate us to do more than we can handle. The Imam could have used a different example to express the same. Allah knows best.
  3. 5 points
    Qa'im

    The hijab

    The Prophet (s) said: "Do not look at the pettiness of the sin, rather look at Who it is you have dared to defy." (Bihar Al-Anwar, V. 77, P. 168, No. 6) Imam Hasan al-`Askari (a) said, "A sin that is not forgiven is when a person says (while sinning), 'I hope I do not get punished for this.'" A listening man thought to himself, "This is very specific. It is imperative for a person to examine what he does to his matters and to himself." The Imam turned to him and said, "You have spoken the truth. Stick to that (reflective practice) which you have said to yourself, for shirk is more concealed to mankind than the creeping of an ant upon a rock in a dark night and the creeping of an ant upon a black handkerchief." 4 - قب ( 6 ) غط : سعد عن أبي هاشم الجعفري قال : سمعت أبا محمد عليه السلام يقول : من الذنوب التي لاتغفر قول الرجل ليتني لا اؤ اخذ إلا بهذا ، فقلت في نفسي : إن هذا لهوالدفيق ، ينبغي للرجل أن يتفقد من أمره ومن نفسه كل شئ فأقبل علي أبومحمد عليه السلام فقال : يا أبا هاشم صدقت فالزم ما حدثت به نفسك فان الاشراك في الناس أخفى من دبيب الذر على الصفا ، في الليلة الظلماء ومن دبيب الذر على المسح الاسود ( 7 ) (Kitab al-Ghayba by Shaykh al-Tusi)
  4. 4 points
    Qa'im

    Aisha age...

    If we were to take strict rijal as the standard for historical events, then most history would not survive. We can throw out almost everything we know about Sayyida Khadija (ra) for example, one of the four greatest women to ever live. I haven't even seen a "sahih" report on what year Karbala took place, and you can throw out much of the maqtal as well. We have to take other oral reports and written documents into consideration when dealing with what likely occurred in history. Rijal is one measure, it's not perfect; there are other imperfect tools that we can use to determine history. In the case of `A'isha's age, I see no contradiction with ethics or `isma, as the Imams clearly taught that 9 is the age that a woman can consummate a marriage. There is no indication that this is even makrooh, and there are reports that emphasize the benefits of early marriage. Furthermore, we know that before colonization, before industrialization, before urbanization, and before modern birth control, marriage at that age was normal in almost every part of the world, especially in a small agricultural town like Medina. This topic on its own is not very important, but it is a good epistemological exercise, because the personal discomforts of people actually comes from the moral system of the modern culture, and not from the revelation. And if we have a problem with the halals and harams of the religion, then we must seek to strengthen the foundations of our faith and knowledge.
  5. 4 points
    Haydar Husayn

    Aisha age...

    This doesn't actually work in your favour. Since the hadiths on Aisha's age were known during the lifetimes of the Imams, the fact that we have no comment on it from them rather indicates that this issue was not a subject of controversy for them or their followers. Additionally, the fact that we have narrations from them confirming that a girl becomes baligh at 9, I struggle to understand where anyone gets the idea that they would have disapproved of the idea that Aisha was 9 or 10. If anyone here sincerely believes that the idea that the Prophet (s) married a 9 year old is morally objectionable, then they need to explain why the Imams wouldn't have felt it necessary to contradict it, while they commented on far more mundane matters. Additionally, why would they then reinforce the idea that a girl became baligh at 9? This makes no sense.
  6. 4 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    I don't disregard mutah, I disregard the way some approach and disrespect mutah by abusing it. It gives mutah a really bad name. Like @Ron_Burgundy said it is a tryst if you are just doing it for intimacy but god forbid you do mutah with the wrong woman, you will probably have to marry her if she becomes pregnant and if you both don't each other after the muta, well that's a recipe for disaster and time wasted. @AfricanShia
  7. 3 points
    Mental Health Stigma in the Muslim World This is a link to a great article in the "Journal of Muslim Mental Health" dealing with the stigma that our communities place on Mental Health issues. Worth a read. Its a bit on the technical side but still contains a great expose on the ignorance that pervades our Ummah when it comes to dealing with and addressing Mental Health.
  8. 3 points
    Khomeinist

    Divine Love

  9. 3 points
    notme

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    Also, these are not ordinary people. There was no question about the maturity of The Prophet (as). Plus look at intentions: what is an older woman going to assume if a young man approaches her with a proposal of mutah? She's probably going to be offended, because it seems that he considers her only suitable for short term "pleasure", not for being a family.
  10. 3 points
    Pearl178

    Thoughts 2017

  11. 3 points
    Dhulfikar

    Aisha age...

    In 2017 she is 17-19 year old, but in old times she was 9 year old. Anyway those who are interesting about Aisha age should also be interested on lady Fatimah Al-Zahra (as) age when she got married to Imam Ali (as).
  12. 3 points
    Sindbad05

    Quran 33:33

    This verse speaks about two things: Obedience to Allah's law sums up all duties. Regular prayer (seeking nearness to Allah) and regular charity (doing good to fellow-creatures) are mentioned as specially symbolical of the religion of Allah, Islam. The first command in this verse "stay in your houses" was violated by A-isha when she went to Iraq to organise a mischievous campaign against Ali about whom the Holy Prophet said: "O Ali, you are to me as Harun was to Musa. You are my brother in this world and the hereafter. Your flesh is my flesh, your blood is my blood. You and me are from one and the same light." In his sermon at Ghadir Khum (see commentary of Ma-idah: 67) he invoked Allah to be a friend of those who loved Ali and be an enemy of those who opposed Ali. Bukhari has recorded in the chapter "What happened in the houses of the Prophet's wives" in the book "Jihad and Travel" of his Sahih, vol. 2, p. 125, that while delivering an address from the pulpit, the Holy Prophet pointed towards A-isha's house and said: "Here lies the scandal; here lies the scandal; here lies the scandal, where the horn of Shaytan would be rising." In the words of Sahih Muslim: "The Prophet came out of the house of A-isha and remarked: "Here is the head of infidelity where the horn of Shaytan will rise." Refer to Sahih Muslim, vol. 2,0.502. "Verily Allah intends to keep off from you uncleanness, O you Ahl ul Bayt and purify you with a thorough purification" is a separate verse revealed on a particular occasion but placed here. Please refer to Aqa Mahdi Puya's note in the commentary of verses 28 to 32. The time, occasion and people concerned in connection with the revelation of the above noted verse have been discussed and made known in many authentic books of the Muslim scholars. The one and only reference available to the commentators is the event of the blanket (Hadith al Kisa). The "event of the blanket" has been written by the following authors whom the Muslim Ummah acclaim with one voice. (1) Ahmad bin Muhammad bin Hanbal (241 H) "Musnad" (Egypt: 131 H) pages 259, 285, 292. (2) Muslim bin Hajjaj Nayshapuri (261 H) Sahih Muslim" (Egypt: 1349) vol. 4, page 116. (3) Abi Isa Muhammad Tirmidhi (275 or 279 H) "Sahih Tirmidhi" (Sharah ibnul Arabi) (Egypt: 1352 H) vol. 13 pages 200, 248. (4) Ahmed ibn Shu-ayb Nisa-i (303 H) "Khasa-is" (Egypt: 1348 H) page 4. (5) Ibn Jarir Tabari (310 H) "Tafsir Tabari" (Jama ul Bayan fi Tafsir il Quran) (Egypt: 1331 H) vol.22, page 5. (6) Sulayman bin Ahmad Al Tibrani (360 H) "Al Mu-jam Al Saghir" (Dehli: 1311 H), page 34, 75. (7) Hakim Nayshapuri (405 H) "Al Mustadrak" (Hyderabad Deccan: 1334 H), pages 146, 147, 148. (8) Yusuf bin Abdullah ibni Abdul Birr (463 H) "Al Isti-ab" (Hyderabad Deccan: 1346 H), vol. 2, page 460. Ali bin Ahmad Al Wahidi (468 H) "Asbab ul Nuzul" (Egypt: 1315 H) pages 266, 267. Tirmidhi, Ibn Jarir Tabari, Hakim and Tibrani have related from Ummi Salima that when this verse was revealed the Holy Prophet was under a blanket or mantle along with Ali, Fatimah, Hasan and Husayn, and he declared that his family consisted of only these persons. Ummi Salima, his wife, within whose quarters the revelation came, asked permission to be included in the group under the blanket, but she was politely refused permission. The group is known ever since with the epithet "panjtan pak" or "the holy group of five". These are the persons who were compared by the Holy Prophet with the ark of Nuh wherein those who embarked were saved, while those who sought shelter elsewhere were drowned. Refer to Tafsir Azizi by Shah Abdul Aziz and Tafsir Durr al Manthur by Jalal al Din al Suyuti. In Yanabi al Mawaddat, page 87, Shaykh al Islam writes that A-isha said: "Ayah al Tat-hir refers only to the Holy Prophet, Ali, Fatimah, Hasan and Husayn. No wife of his is included." On page 280 of volume two of Sharah Nuwi of Sahih Muslim it is written that when Zayd bin Arqam was asked whether the wives of the Holy Prophet are included in the Ahl ul Bayt, he said: "By Allah the wives of the Holy Prophet cannot be included in the Ahl ul Bayt at all, because after the pronouncement of divorce the wives are reverted to their parent; and, moreover, sadqah (charity) is prohibited to be given to the Ahl ul Bayt." Also please refer to the commentary of Shura: 42 and Ali Imran : 61 for further confirmation and proofs. Some commentators report this tradition through A-isha who says that this event took place in her house. So two wives of the Holy Prophet have confirmed that they both were not given permission by the Holy Prophet to come under the blanket, so they could never be described as Ahl ul Bayt. Thalabi reports that when A-isha was asked as to why she violated the command of Allah "to stay in your houses" by going to the battle of Jamal against Ali, she said: "It was my fate. I saw the Holy Prophet taking Ali, Fatima, Hasan and Husain under his mantle and heard him saying: 'O Allah, these are my Ahl ul Bayt. Keep off impurity from them.' I asked him: 'Am I not of your Ahl ul Bayt?' He said: 'Go away from here. You are not of my Ahlul Bayt.'" Abu Dawud and Malik relate from Anas that for six months after the revelation of this verse every morning, while going for fajr salat, the Holy Prophet used to recite this verse at the door of Fatimah's house. In verse 73 of Hud Sara is addressed as Ahli Bayt, not as the wife of Ibrahim but as the mother of prophet Is-haq, because the state of being a wife of a prophet gives no privilege to a woman as stated above and clearly indicated by the Holy Prophet himself, and decisively proved by the condemnation of the wives of Nuh and Lut. Innama implies the determined decision or will of Allah. Although the decision of a created being may not take effect at all, but the will of Allah takes immediate effect. There cannot be a slightest gap of time or space in the will of Allah taking effect. When He commands: "Be"; it becomes. Refer to Baqarah: 117; Nahl: 40 Maryolm: 35; Ya Sin 83; Mumin: 68 and Qamar 50. It is not only the will of Allah but the declaration of its effect. Since the Ahl ul Bayt have been thoroughly purified, they remain thoroughly purified for ever. The prayer of Ibrahim in Baqarah: 127 to 129 is prayed to continue the excellence in themselves and in their descendants mentioned in Baqarah: 124. When a quality or attribute is described or mentioned in indefinite sense it refers to the perfect possibility. The purity in this verse is absolute purity. Polytheism (shirk) is described in the Quran as impurity and also the greatest iniquity (refer to Luqman : 13). Refer to the commentary of Baqarah: 124 for the condition that imamah is not bestowed on those who have ever (even once in their lives) worshipped any ghayrallah. All the companions of the Holy Prophet and his wives were polytheists before embracing Islam. Only the Holy Prophet, Ali, Fatimah, Hasan and Husayn were at that time free from the dirt of shirk, therefore they alone could be throughly purified. Aqa Mahdi Puya says: (i) Innama (verily or only) signifies exclusive distinction. To emphasise this exclusiveness, the second object of the verb yudh-hiba (keep off)-the phrase ankum (from you)-has been put before the first object rijs (uncleanness); and for further emphasis, the phrase Ahl ul Bayt has been mentioned to explain the pronoun ankum (from you). The grammatical structure of the whole clause indicates that this a unique privilege or distinction granted to the Ahl ul Bayt only, excluding all others. (ii) The verb yuridu implies that the continuous will or intention of Allah is His creative will or intention, not legislative. To interpret the will as the legislative will as in Ma-idah: 6, distorts the whole fabric of the verse and renders meaningless the exclusive particle and the constructional arrangement. Even then it means that only the Ahl ul Bayt exclusively achieved the standard. (iii) This verse is a preface to verses 77 to 79 of al Waqi-ah: "Verily this is an honourable (Karim) Quran, in a hidden (preserved) book, which no one can touch save the purified." (Refer to page 3.) (iv) The excellences of Ahl ul Bayt have been openly demonstrated in the event of mubahilah (refer to the commentary of Ali Imran : 61). (v) The Ahl ul Bayt had only been thoroughly purified by Allah because of their total submission to Allah's will and their state of being always in communion with Allah. The event of revelation of this verse as reported by Jabir bin Abdullah Ansari, one of the most reliable companions of the Holy Prophet has been mentioned in "Awalim al Ulum" by Shaykh Abdullah bin Nurullah Al-Bahrayni and is reproduced here:- In the name of Allah, the beneficent, the merciful. It is reported by Jabir bin Abdullah Ansari that Fatimah Zahra said; One day my father, the messenger of Allah, came into (my house), and said "Fatimah! Peace be on you." "Peace be on you too." I replied. "I am not feeling well." He said. "May Allah keep you safe from weakness, O my father." I prayed. "Fatimah! Please bring the Yamani blanket and cover me with it." He said. So I brought the Yamani blanket and covered him with it. I turned my eyes upon his face. It was shining bright like a full moon in its full glory and splendour. Then, not a moment passed before my son, Hasan, walked in and said: "Peace be on you, mother." "Peace be on you too, my dearest darling" I answered. "I breathe the pure aroma of the messenger of Allah, my grandfather, coming from you!" He observed. "True; your grandfather is under the blanket." I confirmed. Hasan went near his grandfather (covered with the blanket) and said: "Peace be on you, grandfather, the messenger of Allah, may I join you under the blanket?" "Peace be on you, my son, my companion at the spring of Kawthar, come in." He went inside the blanket. Then, not a moment passed, before my son, Husayn, walked in and said: "Peace be on you, mother." "Peace be on you too, my dearest darling" I answered . "I breathe the pure aroma of the messenger of Allah, my grandfather, coming from you!" He observed . "True, your grandfather and your brother are under the blanket." I confirmed. Husayn went near the blanket (under which his grandfather was resting with his brother) and said: "Peace be on you grandfather, the choice of Allah, may I join you both under the blanket ?" "Peace be on you, my son, the saviour of my people, come in." He went inside the blanket. In that instant Abul Hasan. Amir al Muminin, Ali ibn abi Talib, stepped in and said: "Peace be on you, O the daughter of the messenger of Allah!" "Peace be on you too, Abul Hasan, Amir al Muminin." I answered. "Fatimah, I breathe the pure aroma of my brother, the son of my uncle, the messenger of Allah, coming from you!" He observed. "True, he is under the blanket with your sons" I confirmed. Ali went near the blanket and said: "Peace be on you, the messenger of Allah, may I join you (all) under the blanket?" "Peace be on you, my brother, the executor of my will, my successor, my standard bearer, come in." Ali went inside the blanket. Then I went near the blanket and said: "Peace be on you, my father, the messenger of Allah, may I join you (all), under the blanket?" "Peace be on you; my daughter my darling, come in." I went inside the blanket. As soon as all of us united under the blanket, my father, the messenger of Allah, held the two ends of the blanket and raised his right hand toward the heaven and said: "O Allah! These are my Ahl ul Bayt, very special to me, my near and dear ones, my own flesh and blood; whoso annoys them disturbs me; whoso makes them sad makes me unhappy. I make war on those who carry on hostilities against them; I am well disposed towards those who make their peace with them; I oppose those who run counter to them; I favour those who love them. They are from me and I am from them. So send Thy blessings, benefits, mercy, protection and favours on me and on them, and keep off from them uncleanliness, and purify them with a thorough purification." Thereupon The Almighty and the Glorious Allah said: "O My angels and the dwellers of the heavens, verily I have not created the indeclinable sky, the levelled earth, the bright moon, the resplendent sun, the rotating cosmic system, the flowing seas, and the sailing ship, but for the sake of and in the love of the five souls lying underneath the blanket." The trusted Jibrail asked: "O Lord! Who are underneath the blanket?" The Almighty and the Glorious replied: "They are the 'Ahl ul Bayt' of the Prophet, the custodians of the message; they are-Fatimah, her father, her husband and her sons." Jibrail (submissively) asked: "O Lord! May I descend on the earth and be the sixth with them?" "Yes. I give you permission," said Allah. The trusted angel, Jibrail, came down (on the earth), and said: "Peace be on you, O the messenger of Allah. The Highest High says: "Peace be on you. And distinguishes you with greetings and blessings. He tells you: 'In the name of My majesty and glory, verily, I have not created the indeclinable sky, the levelled earth, the bright moon, the resplendent sun, the rotating cosmic system, the flowing seas, and the sailing ship, but for your sake and in your love.' And He has also given me permission to be with you. So may I have your permission O the messenger of Allah." The messenger of Allah replied: "Peace be on you, O the custodian of Allah's revelation, come in and join (us)." Jibrail came in and joined us under the blanket. He told my father: "Verily, Allah has sent a revelation to you. He said: 'Verily Allah's wish is but to keep off from you uncleanness, O Ahl ul Bayt, and to purify you (with) a thorough purification.'" Ali asked my father: "O messenger of Allah, tell us that which makes our assembly under this blanket an event of surpassing excellence before Allah." The Prophet replied: "In the name of He who sent me as a truthful prophet, and chose me as a redeemer to convey His message, I declare that no assembly of our followers and devotees, on the earth, where this event is narrated shall spend a single moment but the mercy of Allah will envelop them, then and there; and countless angels of Allah shall pray for the remission of their sins till the group of the faithful disperse." Ali declared: "Well then, by the Lord of the Ka-bah, we have attained our end, and have been rendered successful, so also our followers!" And Hadith-e-Kisa continues..........
  13. 3 points
    Fair enough man. So you shouldn't blame her for being chubby. I mean, I would even find it hard to build a good body and cook for myself. Otherwise you can go back to Australia and start taking her to the gym
  14. 3 points
    Salam, Since we are discussing something within the Islamic framework using Quranic terms is necessary. The human being has three dimensions (his spirit (ruh), his soul (nafs), and his body (jism/ or badan)). The human being has a qalb, fuad or sadr (which are basic terms that denote the center of his being, it denotes his heart). The heart is your reality as God sees you. But the way God sees you is not the way you see yourself. When God sees you He doesn't see other than Himself. This is the secret behind the statement "Whoever knows his self, knows his Lord". Everyone has a heart, which means that God is absolutely and fully present in each and everyone's heart (no matter if you are a sinner or a saint). As the Hadith qudsi states: "Neither the heavens nor the earth can contain Me except the heart of My believing servant". But although this is the case, not everyone is fully aware of or present to God. God is with each and every one of us (He is closer to us than our jugular vein), but we aren't necessarily with Him. If we are present with Allah through our hearts and (not just through our minds) then we should be able to see (by God's grace and favor) that He alone is (and as such, He alone witnesses Himself, not you or I), we should be able to see, through our heart, by God's grace, that only Allah (not our individual souls) has the right to truly say "I" (for example in his statement in the Quran: "There is nothing, no god, but I , Laa ilaha illa ana"). There is no need to use terms such as wahdatul wujud or wahdatul shuhud. Just stick to Quranic language and Hadith and all is there (if we only have hearts that can see!)
  15. 3 points
    I don't mind spending a lot on my marriage. I will let my parents decide on a budget for it. What concerns me more is whether there will be harram stuff in my wedding. I will make sure that there is no music and dancing.
  16. 3 points
    Irfani313

    should i do Muta?

    @molaayi_from_lahore Hope you are not bored from this long lecture. So while you should repent and feel extremely ashamed of yourself in insulting your wife in front of us, you have every right to marry another muslima, in timed marriage or in nikah daem, however you see fit as long as you can be fair to both. You DO NOT need the permission of your 1st, 2nd, or 3rd wife to take 4th wife, or nth Muta wife or the permission of your Marja' because Allah swt has already given you this right. For you the most paramount thing is to safeguard yourself from Zina; this includes Zina of thoughts, Zina of eyes (porn), Zina of jism (mastur...), Zina of words (flirtation), Zina of ears (punjabi culture mujras), and other forms of Zina. In your grave and on the day of judgement, it will be you standing without any of us SC members in front of the Lord of the Universes answering following questions regarding your sexual partners. 1. Were they halal? 2. Were you a human with them or an animal with them? 3. Were you moderate about it? Or were you excessive in it?
  17. 3 points
    Zavon

    should i do Muta?

    Lol. My father is a great cook himself. 'Maybe' OP isn't used to cooking, doing laundry, ironing, cleaning and wiping floor, etc. @OP live "down to earth" bro!
  18. 3 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    should i do Muta?

    Is it harram for the male to cook food? You're clearly an ungrateful person. Your wife is busy making you delicious food, while you just keep doing ab crunches. Now you're proud of your six packs and feel that your wife is not up to your standards. Now you complain about her not having time to go to the gym because she is busy doing house chores. We're living in the 21st century man, you can also help you wife a bit. Don't you want to follow the example of Imam Ali (as) who would help his wife with the house chores?
  19. 3 points
    Islandsandmirrors

    should i do Muta?

    The problem is that he's ungrateful of his wife that Allah has blessed him with. Instead of chasing other woman, he should be thankful of what has been given to him.
  20. 3 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    Thoughts 2017

    Recited my first Salatul Layl. Feels so great
  21. 2 points
    Qa'im

    Mecca or the Mechanical

    Why have we turned Mecca into the Mechanical? Mecca is the central pinnacle of human assembly, yet its architecture has been modeled after the capitals of individualism: New York, London, Toronto, and Las Vegas. Its Ottoman heritage is being destroyed, its mountains are being removed, its mosques are being leveled, and all of it is being replaced with gray skyscrapers, McDonalds, Starbucks, cranes, and boxy buildings. Over the centuries, our civilization has developed an architectural style, beautiful calligraphy, symmetrical patterns, captivating minarets, and iconic domes. Our mosques were designed to remind us of the divine order of the creation and the beauty of our revelation. We built the marvels that are Istanbul and Isfahan. The Taj Mahal, the Alhambra in Spain, the Dome of the Rock, and the Suleymaniye Mosque are some of the most elegant structures in the world. The Protestant work-ethic cities in the West were designed with only utility in mind. They designed their cities to maximize profits and productivity, and to minimize costs. Anglo-Saxon culture deviated from the traditional beauty of Catholic architectural style, and they continue to deviate in other areas of morality. After British and American imperialism, Muslims are now emulating their worldly masters in an effort to look “modern”. This has led to the monstrosity that is Dubai and Tehran; cities with no heart and soul, only pollution, traffic, and eyesores. Ethics is but a branch of aesthetics. Winning back our civilization also means returning to our therapeutic artstyle. We have no need for a concrete jungle in our holiest city. The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said, "When you see holes pierced through the mountains of Mecca, and when you see the buildings surpass the mountaintops in height, then know that the affair (the Hour) has cast its shadow." (Musannaf Ibn Abi Shayba) قال حدثنا غندر عن شعبه عن يعلى بن عطاء عن أبيه عن عمرو بن العاص((إذا رأيت مكة قد بعجت كظائم ، ورأيت البناء يعلو رؤوس الجبال فاعلم أن الأمر قد أضلك ))
  22. 2 points
    KhadijahRose69

    New Muslim

    I took my Shahada on Wednesday it was wonderfull..im now trying my best to learn salah. I get confused with the words..i know it's early days. Does anyone have advice..i can just about do the movements but it's what words go where
  23. 2 points
    M.IB

    Aisha age...

    Asma was 27 before Hijra, Asma was 10 years bigger than Aisha, hence Aisha was 17 years old. After Hijra, he married Aisha after 2 years of Hijra, hence Aisha was "17+2=19" close to 20 years old. So all these Anti-Islam figures were lying, this should be a message to them, those who hate Prophet of Humanity Mohammad [Allahs' blessings and peace be upon him and his pure household]. What do you think about this?
  24. 2 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    If you say so, I hope that you are successful and careful in doing mutah, insha'Allah.
  25. 2 points
    realizm

    Is Fart Najis?

    I felt too tired to explain it but you got it 100% right brother
  26. 2 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    You do realize that you have a lot of control over your lust, no? There are other ways besides mutah to control your urges.
  27. 2 points
    Hassan-

    Is Fart Najis?

    Sleeping breaks your Wudu does that mean sleeping is najis? A fart is not a najis substance, it's just air mixed with gas. The nijasah in Islam are urine, feces, sperm, blood, dead animals/humans, dogs, pigs, kafir or alcohol, and anything not these are tahir.
  28. 2 points
    I used Mut'ah to know more about my wife so I wanted to keep it halal. Mut'ah is blessing and it can also be used to wrong intentions. If one really wants to purificate himself from diseases of lust, then permanent marriage does really help him/her.
  29. 2 points
    Qa'im

    Aisha age...

    She was probably 10, I still have not found any convincing historical or ethical reasoning to believe that she was older.
  30. 2 points
    There is no intrinsic monetary value to art. None whatsoever. This is a purely market driven phenomenon in which people from elite class with big money participate to create the demand and drive the prices up. With rich art collectors it is actually a class thing. They do things and buy goods that ordinary people cannot to be able to distinguish themselves from the masses. Appreciating a piece of art, in this instance, is a secondary issue and a totally different topic.
  31. 2 points
    shadow_of_light

    Aisha age...

    She died in the year 57 H at the age 70. So she was 14-15 when she married.
  32. 2 points
    SoRoUsH

    Aisha age...

    Salam, There are zero, and I repeat zero, authentic or acceptable traditions from our Ahlul Bayt (as) that state Aisha's age was nine or close to nine at the time of marriage to the prophet.
  33. 2 points
    Ron_Burgundy

    Aisha age...

    Sunni ulama even said their hadith of Hazrat Aisha being 9 is wrong. And brother you should call her with respect.
  34. 2 points
    Marbles

    Permanent Marriage vs Mutah

    How does mutah save from lust? People do mutah to get sex. They don't do it out of love or commitment to their partner. They do it because they wanna get laid. And this I have no problem with. But how does mutah save people from lust?
  35. 2 points
    shadow_of_light

    Bringing More Children

    I extremely agree with you. People should visit children care centres where orphans are kept. Children beg the visitors to hug them because they need kindness and attention. If their emotional needs are not met they will face psychological problems in adulthood and possibly even before adulthood. These children have the right to be happy and to be supported as much as other kids but unfortunately muslims are not as intetested in adoption as people of western countries.
  36. 2 points
    M.IB

    Quran 33:33

    And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance. And establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity [of sin], O people of the [Prophet's] household, and to purify you with [extensive] purification. Doesn't it look a bit "illogical" to utter that this Ayah is for Ahlulbayt [as]? It refers about the wives of RasoolAllah [sawa] and it is very clear that it imputes about wives of the Prophet and commanding them, sadly some of them didn't. What proofs/explanations can we get so we can recognize the possibility of the Ayah referring to Ahlulbayt [as] and not the wives of the Prophet [sawa]. Thanks.
  37. 2 points
    @AbdusSibtayn - wow this brought back a lot of memories :). I don't recall reading Ayatullah Behjat's "reasoning" for accepting the incident of missing Fajr, and if I were to take a guess, he probably did not accept the incident of Sahw al-Nabi (but I haven't read anything from him on the latter topic). This is a topic that I have spent much time (easily a few years) reading, thinking, discussing and debating about. I would have loved to explain why I believe these events took place, but unfortunately the quality of discussion here is mostly polemical rather than academic. When discussions are polemical, people make a lot of presumptions in their arguments that they are taking for granted, because they have been brought up to believe them, or they are popular, mainstream and famous amongst a circle of scholars. All these reasons may be good enough for the laymen or to maintain a general ideology or framework for arguing for something amongst the masses and I am not totally against it, however that also means I cannot engage in a technical discussion of my reasoning and this is not a topic I care for to engage in any further. Frankly, I've also reached a point where I have read and heard all counter-arguments that are repeated over and over again - and I am not convinced of them - and unless someone is going to bring something new to the table, I am not willing to waste my time on the topic. The basis of accepting or rejecting such an event will obviously boil down to one's overall understanding and conclusion on the topics of 'ismah, God's Wisdom, Husn wa Qubh 'Aqli/Dhaati, how you deal with the contradiction of 'Aql vs. Naql and possibly many other premises. Wasalam
  38. 2 points
    SunniBrother

    Ghumari

    Although Ghumari studied in a Sunni Islamic university, he registered his own critical thinking and came up with views that were unpopular with his teachers in the Azhar University. He used to adopt views based on research even if they were outside the sect or the popular religious culture. Among such views are the following: ◾Unlike Sunni religious culture where all the companions of prophet Muhammad are venerated, Ghumari used to mention 6 of the companions without venerating them because they fought against Ali ◾He was among the scholars that rejected Islamic extremism, which he termed Wahhabi philosophy, and the Jihadi school of thought by considering them most harmful ideas to Islamic culture and a cause of regression of the Muslim world. ◾Unlike Muslim scholars who prohibit the celebration of Muhammad's birthday, Ghumari declared such celebration to be an obligation and a duty regardless if the tradition of celebrating birth days originate from the west or elsewhere. ◾He agreed with Shia Islamic scholars on the supremacy of Ali over all people who came after Prophet Muhammad. ◾In his book al-Ifada or "The interest in the ways on which the Hadith - that looking at Ali is a worship- is based" (الافادة بطرق حديث النظر الى علي عبادة), he openly criticized the narrations of hadith that were registered under the Umayyad and the Abbasid rule, and accused some narrators to be manipulated by the political ruling institution of that time. That was repeated over so many pages of the book. ◾In his book Al-Ittihad (الاتحاد) he supported re-introducing tougher penalties for sorcery and related misdeeds. Also like the rest of his family, Ghumari's exact theological viewpoints were difficult to pin down. Although a practitioner of Sufism, he was also critical of other Sufis. Though a Sunni, he and his brothers also held views in juristprudence and dogmatics outside of the mainstream
  39. 2 points
    starlight

    Husband and Sister problems

    Really sorry to hear about your situation. 1.Limit contact with your sister and her husband. I know this would be difficult since she is married to your brother in law but still try.Excuse yourself from family gatherings for a year or so. Make the least possible contact with them. 2. Stop telling your sister what she did was wrong because it will only anger her further and make her say bad things about you. Also, don't get into any arguments, confrontation family drama whatsoever with your mother and other siblings. Your no.1 priority is now your husband. Work on strengthening your marriage. 3. When your husband is in a pleasant mood bring this up with him and tell him that your sister is trying to poison him against you and request him not to listen to her. 4. Be extra attentive,kind and humble towards your husband. Take good care of his needs. 5.Make it a habit to recite surah Naas and Surah Falaq at least every morning and night and ask Allah's protection from the evil plans of people. 6. There are some good and easy Amaals on duas.org for increasing love between spouses. Pick one or two and start doing them. May Allah ease your difficulties.
  40. 2 points
    Fakeha

    should i do Muta?

    @molaayi_from_lahore i am sorry for all the harsh words... But seriously brother you need to work out for your own emotions... If above are all the excuses you are making to justify your "no more feelings" for her then don't make them.. Don't involve her brother!! Its you and only you and you know that well... If you don't love her anymore then go straight through it, you want to have loving wife then go you have full permission from Allah.. But don't disrespect her even if your heart don't misses a beat by seeing her!! Respect her for the sake of those years which you guys spend together,protect her infront of people.. Tell her that you want another wife she won't stop you if she respects your feeling don't break her completely by hiding your second marriage..she is the mother of your children, don't make it difficult for your childeren...
  41. 2 points
    Im gonna start tomorrow. Finished with the treatment today alhamdulillah.
  42. 2 points
    starlight

    should i do Muta?

    Then make peace with the fact that you can't have everything A wife can't make 'rotis' for you and your family and then take care of other needs too.
  43. 2 points
    Inshaallah, I hold my wedding in a mosque. The reason is that I DO NOT want to see any sin at my wedding. That's all I can spend now BTW
  44. 2 points
    Irfani313

    should i do Muta?

    @molaayi_from_lahore Lastly, why don't you marry a widow from Quetta, Karachi, or Parachinar, whose husbands have become the victim of Shia genocide in Pakistan? In all seriousness, why not marry one from each city, start with mutah and then make it permanent nikah? You asked my method of doing mutah, my experience is that any marriage that doesn't give me spiritual growth, I consider it a waste of my money, time, and emotions. A humble advice, never seek marriage for "only" satisfying your desires, utilize this wonderful and one of the most beautiful and most forgotten sunnah (at least on Ind/Pk/Iran Shias) of our Prophet and Aimah (may peace and blessing of Allah swt on them eternally) as a ladder to get closer to Allah swt and his Chosen Ones. Peace -
  45. 2 points
    starlight

    should i do Muta?

    [MOD NOTE] If you don't have anything useful to add to the discussion,then stop with the insulting comments. He asked something, you have made your opinion known. You might not agree with him but that's no excuse to start insulting the OP.
  46. 2 points
    E.L King

    The hijab

    You might not like this answer, but you will be regarded by the shari'ah as an open sinner. It's great that you fulfill all your obligations as a Muslimah and may Allah reward you for that worship, but that doesn't mean that other sins are justified. May Allah help you sister.
  47. 2 points
    Islandsandmirrors

    The hijab

    This is just a test. Bear it with patience. Keep in the shade and stay indoor places like malls and such. Do not take off your hijab.
  48. 2 points
    E.L King

    Thoughts 2017

    I think people should be straight shooters when they speak. No beating around the bush. If you're gonna say something say it exactly how it is, without being pc.
  49. 2 points
    بسم الله الرحمن الرحیم السلام علیکم @Zavon في الكافي، بإسناده عن محمد بن مسلم قال: سألت أبا جعفر (عليه السلام) عما يروون أن الله خلق آدم على صورته فقال: هي على صورة مخلوقة محدثة اصطفاها الله و اختارها على سائر الصور المختلفة فأضافها إلى نفسه كما أضاف الكعبة إلى نفسه فقال: «بيتي» «و نفخت فيه من روحي». The above Hadith teaches that "His Spirit" is analogous to "His House", where because the House is the choicest of houses, so it is associated with Him, and similarly the Spirit is of the choicest of creatures, so it is associated with Him. God is not composed of "spirit"; no substratum composes Him. God's essence has no parts and is not shared and is not transferable and will not be described or circumscribed or partitioned or delimited. و عليكم السلام
  50. 2 points
    Hameedeh

    How Shiachat helped me..

    Many years ago when I joined, I was very opinionated but did not realize it. Over time, I understood that other people have a different opinion on some issues, and I began to try to see things from their point of view. This is how ShiaChat helped me.
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