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  1. 5 points
    Ali_Hussain

    In laws..

    I don't want to be the harbinger of doom, but with some people, you are damned whatever you do, you get a job and don't give up all your money, you are such a selfish person. You get a job and do less house work, you are such a lazy person. You get a job and spend less time in the house, you are such an anti social person, etc etc, some people can turn anything against you. You need to move out.
  2. 4 points
    http://edition.cnn.com/2016/04/04/asia/pakistan-attack-religious-intolerance/index.html It's biased, deceiving, and blown out of proportion propaganda like this that's destroying our country's image- geared towards proving that everyone in Pakistan hates Christians. Some of the points raised are so ridiculous it's not even funny. 'Strange to see armed men outside a place of worship' !? Have you ever been to Pakistan? Go look at the number of guards outside a Shia masjid. This news piece is making it look like Christians in Pakistan are under some sort of state-sponsored apartheid.
  3. 3 points
    Sumerian

    Hamza Yusuf and Black Lives Matter

    Comments by brothers @Abu Hadi, @baradar_jackson and @roya1b100d on the following thread is similar to where I stand. http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235039813-muslims-in-the-west-seperation-vs-integration/?page=1
  4. 3 points
    narsis

    Memorising Surahs..

    Bismillah. Salaam. I mention 11 tips for memorizing the Qur'an that are based on educational experiences: 1- Ikhlās; The first step for beginning memorizing is your intention that has to be purely for the sake of Allah (s.w.t.). 2- Correct pronunciation and reading; This step is achievable through listening a lot to good reciters of the Qur'an. In this step I suggest you to have a good teacher who is able to read and teach Arabic well. 3- To set the daily limit for memorizing the Quran; For example set one page for your daily memorization and do it in a certain time (for example 10 a.m. every day and set another time for practicing and repetition. 4- Do not exceed your limitation! It is not recommended to begin new portion/chapter unless you memorize the current part well that is attainable through repetition during your day. It is also suggested to recite the memorized parts loudly in order to gets inscribed in your mind. It is also useful for you to practice your memorized parts with someone who is also doing that. 5- Only use one version of the Qur'an; It is because your mind begins to used to the handwriting of that version and that handwriting is going to be carven in his mind. To change it will end to confusion. 6- Try to understand the meaning of what you are memorizing; The best way for memorizing the Qur'an is to comprehend it. So it is so recommended to have a good Tafsīr and use it for understanding the meaning and the logical relationship between the verses. It will help you to inscribe what you've memorized in your mind for a long time. 7- Do not begin new portion before your previous one gets fluent; Do not also begin new Sura unless you memorize a Sura completely. 8- Recite what you've memorized for others and ask them to correct you; The person who is also memorizing the Qur'an is recommended one. 9- Repeat what you've memorized continually! 10- Be aware of the similar passages; "God has revealed the best reading material in the form of a Book with similar passages which refer to each other and make the skins of those who fear their Lord shiver. Then their skins and hearts incline to the remembrance of God. This is the guidance of God. He guides whomever He wants. No one can guide those whom God has caused to go astray." (39:23) The Qur'an consists of 114 Sura and 6236 Ayah in which there are similar verses and the memorizer person has to be aware of those in order not to confuse them with each other. 11- Golden ages for memorizing; The best period for memorizing the Qur'an is until 23 years old due to the freshness of mind. With Duas. Narsis.
  5. 3 points
    HayderM

    [LAWS]Makeup with hijab?

    3. Beautification of Women 3. Is a woman allowed to line eyes with kohl, to put mascara on her eyelashes, and to wear rings in both hands? A woman is allowed to put kohl or similar cosmetics on her eyelashes and also to wear rings provided it is not done with the intention of drawing lustful attention of men towards herself. http://www.al-islam.org/hijab-muslim-womens-dress-islamic-or-cultural-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/common-questions-about-hijab-and
  6. 3 points
    starlight

    In laws..

    @certainclarity yes, tactfully, but also quickly and efficiently. Once resentment starts to build up then things get difficult to fix. The overall atmosphere in the house is not inclusive and welcoming towards the OP, she is feeling like an outsider in a place that is supposed to be her home, not a good environment for a marriage to thrive.
  7. 3 points
    starlight

    In laws..

    Salam Revert sister, You don't have to live with them . So ask your husband to move out. and it's not a matter of if he wants to move out or not, it's his responsibility towards you. It's your right to have your own place to live.. I disagree with You don't have to prove your love by working like a servant.It's not her job to cook and clean for his family If he recognises her efforts and sees how she is suffering then he better do something about it.
  8. 3 points
    Ali_Hussain

    Memorising Surahs..

    Wa alaykum assalam, It depends how intensively you want to do it, but if you upload the Qur'an to your phone and listen to the surah that you are trying to memorise that helps, along with reading it a few times a day. It is also beneficial to listen to the preceding surah so that it is already in your head and listen to the one or two after it that you would have already memorised so that you retain them better. Start with the shorter ones and move through the Qur'an backwards. If you can put aside 15 minutes a day to intensively try and memorise 5 verses that also helps. These are the kinds of things that I do when I'm trying to memorise new surahs and my memory isn't very strong, it might go quicker for you if your is. Good luck insha'Allah
  9. 2 points
    Ali_Hussain

    A ShiaChat Reunion?

    I suppose it depends, statistically, more people are logging into facebook than ever before. I was basing my answer on having spoken to a brother who used to be very active here, I was trying to get him to come back, he said that he was happy on fb as Islamic pages were more active than sc.
  10. 2 points
    hayaah

    A ShiaChat Reunion?

    Hardly anyone uses facebook these days....
  11. 2 points
    Ali_Hussain

    A ShiaChat Reunion?

    That is part of the reason, however I believe that the forum died due to moderation issues, there were many, many occasion in which new members would come and ask a question only to have the thread locked and them to be told to just use the search engine. What did the mods think was going to happen? That kind of behaviour, first of all comes across as rude, and secondly doesn't allow the user to develop a taste for what this forum is supposed to be about. There are of course other issues, such as facebook being such a popular platform.
  12. 2 points
    In debt management circles the 'light bulb moment' is when someone hit with the problems of managing debt and related financial problems suddenly realises that the solution lies within them and their spendthrift lifestyle. Following 'the lightbulb moment', the individual chooses a lifestyle that does not involve so much consumption and thus improves their personal finances. But arriving at the lightbulb moment is a challenge. People have been brainwashed to believe that they must have xyz products and services and woe upon anyone who dares to suggest that these are luxuries and not necessities. We have, today, a prevailing ideology that other people should not be criticised for their lifestyle choices. People are said to be free to choose whatever it is that makes them happy and as long as it is 'legal' it is ok. Of course if enough people do something illegal it becomes possible to reclassify it as legal, but that is another story. We've therefore evolved into a society where the people who wish to take advantage of the emotional and rational frailty of others are given a free hand. The countervailing forces are stymied. In contemporary society a significant means by which people express their choices is via the market in terms of what they buy. In a politically correct world the only parties to the buying and selling are the customer driven by their internal desires and the seller driven by the need to make a profit. All too often the seller does their work with ruthless efficiency, and if they don't they go bust. And if the customer makes poor choices, political correctness again weighs in and it isn't acceptable to criticise them. Neither the people around them can do this and neither can government. The market itself sometimes imposes restrictions, bad behaviour can result in higher insurance premiums, and an inability to manage debt can result in fewer credit card issuers willing to do business - but the focus here is on protecting the sellers' businesses rather than the customers' welfare. In some extreme political circles the case is made, that people who are on e.g. foodstamps should not be allowed to buy alcohol, but this is often seen as unfairly restricting the freedom of the poor. Occasionally the issue becomes overwhelming and government can't avoid taking its responsibilities and it does run campaigns against specific products such as tobacco, salt and now there is a proposed sugar tax in some countries. But that is rare. Certainly no government can recommend that people spend less, for fear of destroying the consumer economy. Another factor driving change has been the impact on public health finances of those people making poor lifestyle choices and in some areas of the UK, the health services are trying to restrict the amount of (free) healthcare given to people who are obese or who smoke. This approach is commonsense. People can either take the Islamic approach to controlling their nafs, or they can take the economic approach and suffer the financial consequences - but the end point will be the same. Perhaps the 'free-to-choose' ideology was just an artefact of a society that could afford this luxury and if times become more straitened, they'll also become more enlightened?
  13. 2 points
    Dhulfikar

    What is Salafism?

    This is an good video from Jonathan Brown about "What is Salafism". I think it is just an basic description, so there is no deep detail on Salafism belief.
  14. 2 points
    sakura1994

    [LAWS]Makeup with hijab?

    Allah is beautiful and he love beauty just don't put too much make up that make you look like clown
  15. 2 points
    Tell him if time and space are creations God does not rely on time and space they rely on him and an absence of evidence doesn't mean a lack of evidence.
  16. 2 points
    Noor al Batul

    [LAWS]Makeup with hijab?

    lol, she asks a question in the Sisters' forum and all the answers, till now, were provided by brothers... Alhamdulillah, sister. It is good to hear that you started wearing the hijab (I assume you mean the head-covering?). Keep in mind that hijab is not limited to your head-covering alone. Therefore, the aforementioned answers should be helpful, I hope. The plainer you keep it the better though, I understand that if you just recently started observing the hijab it might be a bit difficult for you, right now. But we all struggle in the process to please Allah - keep Him always in your heart and mind and try Ma`asalama.
  17. 2 points
    RevertSister

    In laws..

    @starlight jazakAllah for what you've said I Deffo agree with you! once just because I didn't clean the bathroom floor and went to my mums house. I came back and his mum started shouting at me in Gujarati. She was angry cos she had to clean but the day before I cleaned everything in general, the floor didn't even need washing. Then she complained so much to my husband about how she had to clean :S and then she said I can't go to my mums house. I put my foot down and said to my husband and said I'm allowed to go to my mums whenever and how many times I want. My husbands mum wasn't happy she said I had to go to my mums when it suits her and when she doesn't have any plans. When this happened I knew I wanted my own space, I'm not a child and my husbands mum sure made me feel like one. Also made me feel I can't do as I please within reason of course. In Shaa Allah I do move out because I don't see this living arrangement working.
  18. 2 points
    Shaikh Hakim

    In laws..

    Sister, I'm not defending your husband and more importantly, I don't want to turn you against him. Choose wisely. Divorce is the last solution. Maybe you accepted his situation before marriage. Maybe he appreciates your efforts and he is going through hard time and you should help him. Or maybe he is an unfair person. he broke his promises etc. There are possibilities. Guys, we are not here to run a human right campaign for her. I express my condolences for her though. we must offer her a feasible solution Sister, I'm just saying Choose wisely.
  19. 2 points
    Shaikh Hakim

    Memorising Surahs..

    Salam The best way to memorize the holy Quran is to recite it too much . Reflect on the meanings and improve your recitation and try to recite it as much as you can. I know people who memorized the holy Quran this way.
  20. 2 points
    Al-Hassan

    Hadith Of The Day

    ـ حدثنا أحمد بن محمد [ بن ] السناني ـ رضي‌الله‌عنه ـ قال : حدثنا حمزة بن القاسم العلوي العباسي ، قال : حدثنا جعفر بن محمد بن مالك الفزاري ، قال : حدثنا محمد بن الحسين بن [ ي ] زيد الزيات ، قال : حدثنا محمد بن سنان ، قال : حدثنا زياد بن المنذر ، عن سعيد بن جبير ، عن عائشة قالت : قال رسول الله صلى‌الله‌عليه‌وآله : علي سيد العرب فقلت : يا رسول الله ألست سيد العرب؟ قال : أنا سيد ولد آدم وعلي سيد العرب. قلت : وما السيد؟ قال : من افترضت طاعته كما افترضت طاعتي The Prophet Muhammad(saw) said: 'Ali(as) is the Sayyed(master) of the Arabs. 'Aisha said: O Allah's Messenger, are you not the Sayyed of the Arabs? The Prophet(saw) said: I am the Sayyed of the sons of Adam(as) while 'Ali(as) is the Sayyed of the Arabs. 'Aisha said: And what is a Sayyed? The Prophet(saw) answered: The one whose obedience to becomes obligatory just as obedience to me became obligatory. [Ma'ani al-Akhbar]
  21. 2 points
    Ali_Hussain

    GINGER!

    Apple and ginger juice is a great combination.
  22. 2 points
    If it were up to me, I'd use stoning as a last resort. I'd hang or use the guiliotine, swifter, quicker and equally as frightening as stoning. I don't feel bad for people who rightfully deserve to get stoned, my main concern is people getting wrongfully convicted and stoned based on hearsay rather than forensics.
  23. 2 points
    Salaam, In all honesty the man you named is not the only one in this world who preaches wrongful messages and calls for wrongful actions. I feel as though you'll always have such individuals everywhere you go. The best thing we can do is pray and make rightful choices. And I'm sure authorities across the globe would be on a look out for him if he had some influence in the Boston bombing.
  24. 2 points
    von Lohengramm

    Edoardo Agnelli

    W/s Having given up his vast wealth, converting to Shi'a Islam (out of all religions/sects), it's very unlikely. Further, I think it was his uncle or some friend that said he'd never commit suicide. The documentary explains it a bit more. Like with many prominent figures in history, there'll always be people who'll conjure up some bs in order to defame the individual.
  25. 2 points
    StrugglingForTheLight

    Making Dua For Each Other

    Salam everyone Despite clear proofs and clear knowledge of the truth of the religion, my mind is wondering off to look for reasons to disbelieve in the true religion for purely my lower desires and uncertain opinions. Pray that I overcome this pitiful state, and don't give up what I know for what I don't and not give up on what is certain for what is doubtful.
  26. 2 points
    NormaL_UseR

    Seek Life

    Dear soul Won't cure your woes Through empty words Can't you hear, can't you feel Your heart is weak Find a cure before you die For this heart is the key to life Where to look, whose help to ask The city of knowledge Roam it's wondrous streets Renew your love, with every step Feel that heart beat once more Seek life dear friend,
  27. 2 points
    S2 Ali

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    Allah Humma Salle Ala Muhammadin Wa Aal-e-Muhammad, Wa Aj'jil Faraja Hum
  28. 2 points
    Hameedeh

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    Allah Humma Salle Ala Muhammadin Wa Aal-e-Muhammad, Wa Aj'jil Faraja Hum
  29. 2 points
    notme

    Do you talk out loud to yourself?

    When I talk, I'm the only one who listens whether I'm alone or not.
  30. 2 points
  31. 2 points
    Hidaren

    I have to pay for it

    My suggestion is if you cannot attract someone to love you with your face then try it with kindness and beautiful actions such as helping others and smiling all the time conjoined with respect. These days people are searching for someone who is beautiful from within. And do not forget praying, Allah will help you. Never allow others to convince you with sins.
  32. 2 points
    Ali_Hussain

    Hadith Of The Day

    1547 / 17 - جامع الأخبار: عن النبي (صلى الله عليه وآله) قال: " أفضل الزهد في الدنيا ذكر الموت، وأفضل العبادة ذكر الموت، وأفضل التفكر ذكر الموت، فمن أثقله ذكر الموت، وجد قبره روضة من رياض الجنة " Jami' al-Akhbar: From the Prophet, peace be upon him and his family, he said: the best asceticism in this world is the remembrance of death, and the best worship is the remembrance of death, and the best contemplation is the remembrance of death, so he who burdens himself with the remembrance of death will find his grave like one of the gardens of Paradise. 1548 / 18 - عوالي اللآلي: عن النبي (صلى الله عليه وآله) قال: " ان القلوب تصدأ كما يصدأ الحديد، قيل يا رسول الله وما جلاؤها؟ قال: قراءة القرآن، وذكر الموت 'Awali al-Laali: From the Prophet, peace be upon him and his family, he said: verily hearts rust the way iron rusts, it was said: O Messenger of Allah and what is its polish? He said: the recitation of the Qur'an and the remembrance of death. Mustadrak al-Wasa'il, v.2, p.104
  33. 2 points
    The concept of Imamah rests upon the principle of divine justice. Divine justice dictates that God will do whatever he can in his power to bring us closer to him in the best of ways without ruining the "test of the dunya." So for example, he won't send us down an angel as that would ruin the test, however, God will do everything he can in order to help us best in our religion. If this is the case, then having an Imam who is ma'sum (an Imam who teaches Islam without error) would be considered a grace from Allah towards us in order to preserve the religion in the best form. Having an Imam is superior to having no Imam, or having an elected fallible Imam, so logic dictates that Allah will do whatever is best. The 12 Imams are mentioned in authentic Sunni works such as sahih muslim. Narrated Jabir Ibn Samura: The Prophet (S) said: "The matter (life) will not end, until it is passed by twelve Caliphs.”He then whispered a sentence. I asked my father what the Prophet said. He said, the Prophet added: "All of them will be from Quraish." Sunnis today admit they don't know who the twelve are.
  34. 1 point
    RevertSister

    In laws..

    I know this is quite personal but I'd like to share this to get some advice as have no one to ask for advice from. It's coming up to one year now since I got married and moved in with my in laws. My husbands mum dad, sister and her daughter live here. They speak little English, so most the time I don't speak majority of the day as no one speaks to me. If they do it'll be in Gujarati. But it's not the same as I can't have a general conversation with anyone except my husband. I just feel sad sometimes when family come over and they all speaking laughing and joking and I'm just sat there not knowing what's going on. I knew his family didn't speak much English before we got married but I thought it wouldn't be such a big issue, I guess it's completely different when your in the situation. I don't work at the momemt currently looking for a job, I think that will help at least then I can get out the house and have abit of a social life. I feel that I can't really do my own things in the house too, or else they will take it bad. I'd like to move out, would you say this is a wise idea? My husband is the youngest and he says he wants to look after his parents. But you don't need to live with them to look after them? Do you?.. He did agree it will be nice to get a place of our own. Right now they are more than capable of looking after themselves and being independent. His sister that lives with us has her own flat that she likes to go to during the day, chills there then comes back to our house to sleep etc. She never helps around the house. She leaves everything to me, even all the cooking, I don't even know how to cook Indian food. I have learnt a few dishes by using YouTube to help me but the fact that she can cook and doesn't, I don't like this attitude. Also that she doesn't share chores with me, just feel as though she takes advantage of me. If it was vise versa I'd never do that to my sister in law. The fact that she does, hurts me. My other sister in law that doesn't live that far away, even she's noticed how I do all the house chores and was saying it's not fair on me and why doesn't She help me. So sometimes I do feel quite stressed that why am I doing everything while she's just being lazy. I know she has a daughter, but everyone in the house helps look after her so can't use her as an excuse. I just feel that I need my own personal space because in this house hold I feel like the odd one out, don't feel at home. Makes me miss my parents so much and wish I could move back in with them! What would you do if you was in this situation?
  35. 1 point
    Yes this is correct. To suggest that something can be sourced from nothing to akin to saying 2+4=482, its just illogical. From nothing, nothing comes. Everything must have a material cause, when God brought matter into existence he had no need for a material cause but only a sufficient one, i.e. he used his infinite power to create something by nothing.
  36. 1 point
    A miracle is something that is impossible to happen but will happen with the command of Allah swt. The reason why the atheists do not believe this is because God has put a veil on their eyes and make them dumb, another miracle of God.
  37. 1 point
    Sumerian

    [LAWS]Makeup with hijab?

    Yes, but things like lip-stick, or that thing on the cheek should all be avoided.
  38. 1 point
    RevertSister

    In laws..

    @John Algar Salaams. I have learnt some Gujarati to help me reply to things his mum may ask me and to try get on with his family better.
  39. 1 point
    certainclarity

    In laws..

    Salam, Sorry to hear about your situation. Though I am not from the subcontinent culture, I am very familar with the " cultural desi mind set ". Unfortunately what you are facing is very common is sub asian continent cultural specially, and you cant do much with set attitudes. This is something you will have to tolerate, specially if your husband is not a bad man over all. Finding a job is the best solution for you. These are some of the struggles in marriage, specially if you have married into a traditional mind set. Try your best finding a job/hobby, so you will be occupied, then slowly you can encourage to get a place of your own....a year is too early to move out from, " the traditional perspective " Every situation has its ups and downs, those who are not married want to get out of their parents place,those who are married want to go back...this is very common for the first 2 years of marriage. Thats all I can say. I wish you all the best, in this struggle. Wasalam
  40. 1 point
    Well, the FBI for one. They probably assigned 11 people to do 100 pages each and have produced 11,000 pages of analysis. Which is safe for the Feds to do. With the healthcare benefits the feds get and we-the-people do not get, each employee will have their own therapist help them deal with SC themes and logic. We Are the 52,000.
  41. 1 point
    starlight

    Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]

    I am never staying up all night again. Ten hours in the chatroom were fun surely, but now I have barely any energy to drop the kids off to school.
  42. 1 point
    notme

    Do you talk out loud to yourself?

    Once I was walking home and having a big discussion with myself. When I turned the corner at my home, I saw that a woman had been walking behind me, I don't know how long. So if you talk to yourself out loud in public, check behind you! I always think people talking on wireless headsets, especially when their hair, hat, or hijab hides it, look crazy, so maybe nowadays if you get caught talking to yourself out loud, you can pretend you were on the phone.
  43. 1 point
    Bakir

    Further question on Homosexuality

    Yet baradar what qualifies you to deem that "movement" illegitimate? Some fields, such as TV entertainment, don't necessarily show tons of gays because a specific gay agenda. I work in a university where fashion design is taught, and most if not all teachers and students there are gays. I don't think they are following any agenda, it would be ridiculous to think so. They just seem to have a preference towards that field. As for what you say on animals, you have a point, definitely xD! As for what Andres said, sexual orientation is most likely not set in stone, but not easy to change. Sexual behaviour and activities are somehow controllable. Thus, if a gay holds firm to a set of beliefs (Islam, for instance), he could technically marry and have offspring. Of course, it's hard for me to imagine that person happy, unless acting according to his beliefs is the only thing that makes him happy. Lastly, it is up to the individual. As I said, a gay muslim doesn't need approval (he will find it elsewhere more quickly). If he is firm on his beliefs, he will do what it takes to act according to his beliefs, and there is no need to justify why it is wrong. It is part of his set of beliefs and that's the end of it. There are gay men who decide to take this path because it's their choice, not forced upon them. Guess they deserve that bit of respect and recognition too.
  44. 1 point
    http://m5.paperblog.com/i/48/487196/searching-for-beiruts-tastiest-manoushe-the-r-L-5e9rky.jpeg
  45. 1 point
    It's basically an 'Aloo ka paratha' minus the spices
  46. 1 point
    Dear sister, we, as human being have to learn how to accept what God Almighty has given/made us. Greed is from Shaiton. We have to learn how to accept who we are, whether we are white, black, brown, poor, rich, different nationalities etc. Dark people want to lighten their skin, lighter people want to darken their skin, why cant we just be thankful to Allah s.w.t for how he made us human beings instead of changing our looks for greed/Shayton..... Its the inner beauty that makes the outer beauty shine. Wasalam.
  47. 1 point
    Some laws are preventing laws like cutting finger. Most of the thieves will stop stealing if they are told you will lose your fingers, But few of them will keep stealing, these thieves will steal from people if you imprison them for hundreds of times and release them,but people's possessions most be kept safe thus in this case they the thieves most be forced and cutting finger will disable them from stealing again. In case of beating women I don't have enough information.
  48. 1 point
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    Allah humma salli ala muhammadin wa ahli muhammadin wa aj'jil faraja hum.
  49. 1 point
    zainabamy

    Making Dua For Each Other

    Salam everyone, So I've been really sick for about a week now with no signs of getting better I've got a horrible fever, feel dizzy and a chesty cough and its stopped me during my Uni work which is worrying me considering its the busiest time of year. Alhamdulilah a doctor gave me some antibiotics today but I could really do with your du'as right now. Thank you in advance and may Allah grant you all good health.
  50. 1 point
    they're not a fashion trend. go away.
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