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  1. 14 points
    Heavenly_Silk

    Thoughts 2017

    Ashura procession today in London.
  2. 13 points
    Irfani313

    A Few Muharram Reminders

    It's that time of the year again, where we get a chance to rejuvenate our hearts with the remembrance of our dear Prophet S and his holy Ahlulbayt AS. Here are a couple of things that you could do to magnify the holiness of the months of Muharram and Safar on you. 1. Do wudhu before attending the majlis (gathering) of Imam Hussain AS. If you truly believe that one of the people's of the cloak (ashab -e- Kisa) attend, then you really ought to be in the state of highest purity 2. Make a point to attend at least one such gathering everyday, Youtube is not the substitute of the social aspect of such gatherings 3. From the 1st to the 9th of Muharram, fast and give it as a gift to Imam Hussain AS. Do not fast on the 10th day of Muharram, instead try not to eat anything from Fajr till Asr time in solidarity of the children of Imam Hussain AS who were murdered empty stomach without water for past three days 4. Every day of the month of Muharram, particularly the first 10 days, read 100x Sura Ahad throughout the day and give as a gift to Imam Hussain AS 5. Recite ziarat -e- Ashura each day till the day of Ashura 6. This is a great time to connect with your Imam of Time ATFS. Ever heard the grief is a bigger bond among humans than the good times. He AS is grieving right now more than anybody else. See if you could recite Dua-e-Ahad every day till the day of Arba'een. 7. Put off shopping, birthday parties, lavish dinners, TV, other entertainment, wearing bright clothes, jewellery at least during the months of Muharram and Safar. Imagine your state of mind had God forbid your father, mother, uncles, aunts, brothers and sisters gone through this ordeal in Karbala. Your actions would follow inshaAllah
  3. 12 points
    Ibn al-Hussain

    #8 Muharram Night Plans

    I will be reciting my first lecture series - wish me luck . Wasalam
  4. 11 points
    As Salam Aleykum Hello everyone I am an Australian Christian who two years ago wanted to learn more about Islam because of the climate of terrorism which unfortunately we have a problem with still today. I have read the Qur'an and as I read more of it I believed it to be the words of god. I researched the prophet's life, his teachings and courage all inspired me to believe that his characteristics were that of a true prophet. When I met some Sunni Muslims and asked about Ali and Karbala a event that frequently popped in my research. I was told Shi'a were pagans that believed Ali was a god which these people were my friends so initially I believed them until I researched myself. I found an Islam after the prophet's death that had already strayed off the path of islam. The Arab elites quickly established themselves on top, contradicting the Qur'an with racism and greed. I saw a man named Ali who fought this until he was assassinated and his sons Hussain, Hassan and Abbas had continued to do the same which led me to conclude that Ali and Ahlulbayt were the true successors to the prophet. Now that you know my story I would like to know what steps an individual has to take to convert and confirm his belief in Islam. Thanks you for reading my story, I look forward to your answers.
  5. 11 points
    Islamic Salvation

    Download My Book [PDF]

    With the Grace of God - I have tidied up the Book of Intellect and Knowledge from Vol.1 of Mu'jam al-Ahadith al-Mu'tabara with footnotes. You can download the PDF of an extract of it by clicking here: Direct Download Link Feedback is welcome.
  6. 10 points
    starlight

    Attending Birthdays

    Do what your conscience is telling you. Two simple ways to reach a decision (over anything)if you are in a fix 1.Sacrifice what's lesser in status for the sake of superior. Friend vs Ahlulbayt. 2. Choose what would matter in the long term. E.g Few minutes of pleasure Vs weeks/years of guilt. Perishable dunya vs everlasting akhira.
  7. 10 points
    He's a liar and always will be. Is marriage under false pretenses even a valid marriage? Honestly, I have no problem whatever with polygamy. I have a problem with deception. You will never be able to trust him. Is this how you want to live your life? Also, it sounds like he's content with his family and just wants you as a side woman. That's fine if you and his first wife agree to it, but think about what you are getting into before you agree.
  8. 9 points
    ShiaChat Mod

    Thoughts 2017

    Thank you! @Sindbad05 @LeftCoastMom @shadow_of_light @Islandsandmirrors @Darth Vader @mesbah @shiaman14 @Aquib Rizvi @.InshAllah. @Faruk@skyweb1987 @Mansur Bakhtiari @Khomeinist
  9. 9 points
    wolverine

    Thoughts 2017

    Thanks to #ShiaChat members who were popular contributors last week. Thank you for replying to guests! @Sindbad05 @AfricanShia @ali_fatheroforphans @Salsabeel @Islamic Salvation @Irfani313 @Islandsandmirrors @shiaman14 @skyweb1987 @M.IB @Zavon @Ibn al-Hussain @Inner Peace @Ron_Burgundy
  10. 9 points
    notme

    girl doesnt love me back

    Forget her. Move on with your life. She said no. It's her choice, she has a right to reject you, just as a man has a right to reject a potential wife.
  11. 8 points
    Assalamu alaikum, I converted to Islam from Protestant Christianity and I have practiced Islam since June 2001 as Allah as willed. I have typically considered myself as being a Sunni due to the sources of my Islamic knowledge and the Muslims ho I have associated with. I have long had an issue with the conflict between Ali and Muawiyah and have been troubled how I perceive Sunni Muslims as silently accept Muawiyah and Yazid as legitimate rulers and refuse any negative talk about them or their rule. I have read a few books that have given me an understanding on the Sunni-Shi'a split. These books are: 1) "Destiny Disrupted: A History of the World through Islamic Eyes" by Tamim Ansary, 2) "After the Prophet: The Epic Story of the Shia-Sunni Split in Islam" by Lesley Hazleton, and 3) "Nahjul-Balagha: Path of Eloquence" by Ali ibn Abu Talib and translated by Yasin T. al-Jibouri. As a result of reading these books, I believe that Ali was the rightful successor to Muhammad (saaws) and that his right to lead the Muslim Ummah was usurped by others from the very beginning.However, I also see that rather than rebel against the first three "elected" caliphs, Ali accepted their leadership albeit reluctantly, especially at the beginning. I see that Abu Bakr and Umar reasonably adhered to Islamic principles, but that the rule under Uthman became corrupted with gross nepotism and injustice under the influence of Marwan. I see that Ali was finally chosen as the fourth Caliph but that he was unjustly opposed by Aisha, Talha, Zubayr and Muawiyah who rebelled against him and they were responsible for Muslims shedding the blood of other Muslims. From what I know of the life of Ali and his son Husayn, I see strong consistency with my understanding of the Islam practiced by Muhammad while my perception of the lives and rule of Muawiyah and his son Yazid is the very antithesis of Islam and more representative of those rich Meccan rulers who opposed Muhammad (saaws). This is the essence of my present internal struggle. I know little about the Shi'a practice of Islam, but I see Ali as being a wealth of knowledge that is largely ignored in Sunni Islam. I am interested in learning more about the differences between Sunni and Shi'a so that I can make an informed decision as to whether I want to stay Sunni or become a Shi'a. I understand there is a difference between Sunni and Shi'a in the athan, 3 versus 5 daily salah, the mourning of Husayn's martyrdom, question of Ali's receiving secret knowledge from Muhammad as he was dying, temporary marriage, infallibility and inspiration of the 12 Imams, etc. I will appreciate open and honest discussions to help me in my decision.
  12. 7 points
    shadow_of_light

    Khomeini fatwa

    I dont have much knowledge about their opinions but I found the narrations below: قال: سألت أبا عبد الله عليه السلام يتمتع من الجارية البكر، قال: لا بأس به ما لم يستصغرها. Someone asked Imam Sadiq-a- about taking pleasure from a virgin girl and he answered "there is no problem if she is not considered a little child". عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام قال : «تستأمر البكر وغيرها ولا تنكح إلا بأمرها» Imam Sadiq (a) said that marriage to a virgin or non-virgin has to take place with her permission. سئلته عن الجارية يتمتع منها الرجل؟ قال: نعم الا ان تكون صبية تخدع. قال: قلت: اصلحك الله وكم الحد الذى اذا بلغته لم تخدع؟ قال: بنت عشر سنين Someone asked about having pleasure from a virgin girl. Imam replied "yes unless she is a girl who is deceived". The man asked at which age the girls are not deceived and Imam replied "at the age 10". لا توطأ جارية لاقل من عشر سنين فان فعل فعيبت فقد ضمن Imam said "having intercourse with a girl younger than 10 is not permissible...".
  13. 7 points
    Ibn al-Hussain

    Ammar Nakshawani on sex slaves

    Sayyid Ammar is an immensely popular speaker (and no doubt a very good one) and has done a lot of good as well, but majority of his audience are mere sheep - although this isn't limited to just Sayyid Ammar - since majority of the Western Shi'i audience have no ability to research, read or critically think. I blame this largely on the Western scholars/preachers who have presented and taught a very self-contradicting, wishy washy understanding of Islamic history, Islamic law and even Islamic ethics in the last 2-3 decades. I don't usually go around pointing out mistakes from people's lectures (since most lecturers make minor blunders all the time), but this lecture was too much. Anyone who has studied basic Shi'i Fiqh will tell you how flawed this whole speech was and how much of a joke it was. I had a good laugh as the lecture was filled with flawed analogies, blatant mistakes, was highly misleading, but the poor audience of course has no ability to verify anything. Wasalam
  14. 7 points
    Irfani313

    Which masum would you meet?

    Hz. Fatima Zahra SA.... ...and then I'll just sit on her door and wait and wait because I know Prophet S visits her every day and all Imams return to her because she is the center of them all (Hadith Kisa) This way I'll meet all of them AS eventually InshAllah ..
  15. 7 points
    Heavenly_Silk

    Have you gone to Karbala?

    I have only ever been in my dreams, but I am hoping they will become a reality very soon insh'Allah.
  16. 7 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    Have you gone to Karbala?

    I do work part-time. I'm gonna try to save up for Karbala inshallah.
  17. 7 points
    Hameedeh

    Have you gone to Karbala?

    For those who have been to Karbala, they have been truly blessed.
  18. 7 points
    They're just upset of the fact that Nakshawani has converted hundreds of Sunnis to Shi'ism over the years from his lectures. Hijab and his minions don't even deserve attention, we shouldn't be advertising their falsehood videos.
  19. 7 points
    Bakir

    Western Islam

    Coming from a country in which West and East, as concepts were rather imposed and forcibly differentiated, I don't see Western Islam, going by notme's approach, anything wrong. In the second hand, if anything defines the best of the West today properly, that is probably science (a discipline which had its grounds on the early islamic thinkers and intellectuals). That should prove that Western societies, back then, had no problem in being influenced by the East. Rather, they searched for that influence. How many travelled to the East or al Andalus for the sake of gerting knowledge? Thus, avoiding influence of the West, merely because is different, is just ignorance. An intelligent person would separate the good from the bad and welcome influence from any culture. Especially in this globalized world. I honestly believe we should not only avoid resisting the good influence we may achieve, but search for it. As for the bad influence, that's up to our level of stupidity and lack of control. We can't blame other cultures and societies for it (it's like those people who say Youtube is haram).
  20. 7 points
    Hameedeh

    A Few Muharram Reminders

    Salam. Thank you for the reminders about the sanctities of the Holy Month of Muharram. For those who need the Dua Al Ahad, here is a youtube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WB2HrLcaEic Dua Al Ahad - Aba Thar Al-Halwaji - ابا ذر الحلواجي - دعای عهد
  21. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Urgent Dua for Burma

  22. 6 points
    Hi guys. Matt from America here. Just wanted to let you know that I don't know ANYBODY over here who wants the USA to go to war with Iran. We've got enough problems as it is!
  23. 6 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Thoughts 2017

    Yes, Imam Ali ibn Husayn (as) , also known as Zayn al Abidin and Imam Sajjad. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ali_ibn_Husayn_Zayn_al-Abidin https://www.al-islam.org/life-imam-zayn-al-abidin-baqir-shareef-al-qurashi/publishers-preface Here's the prayer book that he is famous for: https://www.al-islam.org/sahifa-al-kamilah-sajjadiyya-imam-zain-ul-abideen I hope that I didn't overwhelm you with too much information but these links will give you a general idea who the great-grandson of Muhammad (saws) was, his tribulations and how he guided the Ummah.
  24. 6 points
    Wow, congrats on your path to Haq . May God always bless you. I would say to recite the Shahada, and then perhaps go to a Shia mosque and let him know that you wish to become Muslim. I believe the Shahada is done in front of witnesses. Then, I would suggest to incorporate Islam (like praying) into your life slowly, without overwhelming yourself. Start by praying Fajr for a certain period of time, then, when you’re ready, pray zhuhr. And repeat this until you feel comfortable and ready to pray the five daily prayers in one day. Always remember that people are here for you, and take it slow.
  25. 6 points
    Darth Vader

    #10 Battle Poll

    Karbala would be like a door to the highest place in heaven hence my vote. Its certainly not an easy choice if considering for real but we all have to die one day and what better place and time than with Imam Hussain (as) and the Ahl al Bayt (as)? I think one can not choose this honor rather it chooses you if you are so worthy. Jamal was just sad for Imam Ali (as). Not many people may know this but the Imam cried the night before battle. Since he was not easy at all with the idea of there being the only option of sending to hell misguided people in the conflict and fighting the first muslim civil war in history. Its sad if we think about it. Lifetimes of sacrifice, devotion, education, selfless service, care and all the feats of humanity for a nation and it all gets wasted on so many of them.
  26. 6 points
    In general, Shi'as do not believe in the concept of a completely authenthic - or sahih - book of hadith as a whole. Specifically with regard to the sihah sitta which our Sunni brothers believe in, our position is the same. We do not believe any book of hadith is 100% accurate. Moreover, we do not also partially accept them and they are, more or less, completely rejected in terms of their authority to act as a hujjah or proof on a Shi'a. That is to say, if one of these books has a specific narration of event recorded in it, which for example say X is wajib, we would not be obligated to do X action. We may look at them as auxiliary sources of information in providing a historical context of the era or as a tool in our discussion with Sunnis but they are not binding proof for us personally. We may also choose to accept something recorded in them if it corresponds with our own texts and does not contradict them or the Qur'an. There are several reasons for this. The first and foremost is the intellectual argument, which necessitates caution when faced with a supposition that a book compiled and collected by a human is 100% accurate. Only the Qur'an can be found to be true to that standard and even that is only due to Allah (SWT)'s own promise that He will protect His Word. The second is ilm al rijal as Sunni narrators of hadith are obviously looked at with a certain degree of scrutiny by Shi'a scholars - and the same is true of Shi'a narrators among Sunni scholarship for the most part. Then, there are people like Abu Hurayrah, who is one of the principle narrators of a book like Sahih Bukhari and whose narrations comprised, if I'm not mistaken, 1/3 of that book but there are narrations within the sihah sitta themselves which raise doubts about his credibility, with Aisha calling him a liar. As such, one cannot trust the word of such a man and if a book is largely comprised of narrations by such a man, then it is logically imperative upon us to also treat such a book with a great degree of caution and suspicion. Lastly, we don't, as I've mentioned before, subscribe to the idea of a sahih book in general. We also have compilations of hadith that are revered above others, and some of these were also written by their authors with the intention of only containing the most reliable of narrations, but Shi'i scholarship in general has rejected the notion of a man-made book being completely devoid of flaw. Even if the author had set out with that intention, and was an individual of great standing, his own personal belief regarding the accuracy of his creation is not an authoritiatve proof upon subsequent generations of scholars. Thus, we accept neither sahih books from the Sunnis nor from the Shi'as. All narrations should generally be checked individually for their chain in order to determine the likelihood of their veracity.
  27. 6 points
    Hameedeh

    An irrelevant point to me

    Sunni speakers -- who do not mention Ahlul Bayt AS in their speeches or khutbas -- are the ones that get the big financial aid money to travel and speak. They get loads of publicity on the Internet. Every time someone posts one of their videos at ShiaChat OR sends a text or email with the link to a Sunni video (to a relative or friend), it promotes something that makes it harder for us to spread the peaceful message of Shia Islam.
  28. 6 points
    mesbah

    Can atheism be forgiven?

    W Salam After that "one day he starts to love Islam" he can marry you. "Do not marry a pagen (atheist) before he believes, verily a Muslim slave is better than a [free] pagen, even if the pagen impresses you. They invite to hellfire and Allah invites to paradise and his forgiveness." Quran 2:221 As much as I realized the person you talking about is a fitri apostate (a person who was born in a Muslim family, yet abandoned Islam) there's no remedy for your case except your patience or his repentance.
  29. 6 points
    von Lohengramm

    #10 Battle Poll

    As-salamu alaykum, Karbala. Why? Because of these words: "Hal min nasirin yansurna!".
  30. 6 points
    Reza

    Welcome to Muharram 2017 Season

    All: To commemorate this blessed and tragic time, ShiaChat is announcing: 1. A special site color change. 2. The Muharram subforum is back on the home page. 3. New and updated polls and featured images. 4. More to come. Any suggestions or feedback is welcomed. - SC Team
  31. 6 points
    @Smiles786 I don't see what the brother has done to deserve such harsh words from you. @KulluNafsin Based on what little information you gave I cannot give specfic suggestions but what but here are some general tips. 1. Don't involve family,particularly mothers, both yours or her. 2. Don't push for intimacy yet. Infact stop pursuing her for anything. I know it can be frustrating when you feel unheard but for now,take a deep breath and back off for a bit. Overwhelming the other person causes her to shut down even more. 3. Sincerely apologise to her for whatever has offended her no matter how small it seems to you,it hurt her greatly. 4. You and her seem to be in a negative cycle. To break that you need to treat her with love and kindness unconditionally.I know it's not easy when the other person is not reciprocating but nothing breaks emotional barriers like unconditional love.
  32. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Nouman Ali Khan was always overrated

    He wasn't for me personally, but I know many people who have benefited from his talks. I don't think he claimed to be a scholar (correct me if I'm wrong), he's a preacher/speaker that, like our speakers, will have some good and some bad. One of the difficulties of public speaking is that most people will look at you with disdain simply for opening your mouth or sitting on a minbar. You must be ready to have your looks, style, voice, lecture content, and pronunciation criticized. There's as much shaykh-hatred as there is shaykh-worship. There is also jealousy. So now there's all these people who are celebrating NAK's downfall, people that have questionable histories themselves, as a way to "get back" at the Muslim community.
  33. 6 points
    shiaman14

    What Happened?

    Salaam, Within 50 years of the Prophet's (saw) demise, his grandson gets brutally killed in Karbala along with his family and friends. The Prophet's (saw) progeny is made captive, dragged across the Ummah's domain and imprisoned. One would think that every single Muslim would ask this question - what happened? Instead, all we get are fingers pointed at us about how not to remember the Progeny of the Prophet (saw). Based on the Sunni propensity for violence over cartoons and movies, is it going too far to say that my sunni brothers would have held protests,cried foul and screamed for justice if Yazeed's forces just drew cartoons of the Progeny of the Prophet (saw)? At the very least, my sunnis brothers would have asked, "What happened?"
  34. 6 points
    wolverine

    Thoughts 2017

    Thank you to Team members. We salute you. @Hameedeh @notme @Heavenly_Silk @Hassan- @Abbas. @Haji 2003 @ShiaChat Mod @Qa'im @Dhulfikar @Gaius I. Caesar @starlight
  35. 6 points
  36. 6 points
    Salsabeel

    Have you gone to Karbala?

    Alhamdolillah, yes.
  37. 6 points
    This truly is a tragedy for Hugh Hefner. Not because of his death, but because of the eternity he faces.
  38. 6 points
    Nobody can say he's in a better place now.
  39. 6 points
    Khomeinist

    The Night Love

    When Imam as-Sajjad (as) used to gaze up at the night sky, he would address his Lord saying: O' my Lord! The stars of your sky have set, and the eyes of your creation have closed to rest. Kings have locked their gates, but your gate is always open to those who ask. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى in the Holy Qu'ran reminds us of how he close is to his servants: وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ O'Muhammad and when my servants ask you about Me, indeed I am close. I answer the supplication of the one who supplicates. My dear brothers & sisters, Allah is near, but we have not appreciated the joy of divine proximity. Muslim philosophers maintain that the goal of God's creative activity, is not as some might think for simply to be a World out there, but rather for Allah and his loved ones to come together as we were before creation. This is the underlying message of the phrase: إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ We belong to God, and to Him we shall return The famous persian poet Rumi explains this scheme of love. All of us used to be fish, swimming in the ocean of towheed. Unaware of our difference from the water. Then Allah threw us upon dry land, the realm of seperation, longing, pain and suffering. Only by tasting seperation, can we remember the joy of water and desire to return to it. Once we return, we will swim in the ocean of Towheed again, with full awareness of the joy of consummated love. In a famous tradition Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى reveals to Musa (a) saying: ذَبَ مَنْ زَعَمَ أَنَّهُ يُحِبُّنِي فَإِذَا جَنَّهُ اللَّيْلُ نَامَ عَنِّي ، أَ لَيْسَ كُلُّ مُحِبٍّ يُحِبُّ خَلْوَةَ حَبِيبِهِ O'Musa! The one who claims to love me, speaks a lie. For when night sets, he sleeps and forgets me.. is it not that every lover wishes to be alone with his beloved? My dear brothers & sisters, let us take advantage of the night and whisper to our Beloved because the night is when the lovers meet and it is imperative that we make Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى the object of our love... Wa sallallahu ala Muhammad wa ala tahirin.
  40. 6 points
    Qa'im

    Less work in Shia Hadith

    I picked out the narrations from al-Kafi Volume 1 that are considered mu`tabar (reliable: sahih, muwathaq, and hasan) according to `Allamah al-Majlisi and translated them here: http://www.imamiyya.com/hadith/usul-kafi Of course, different scholars will have different standards of reliability. I don't see the use of just throwing out narrations that some may consider weak, the books should be kept as they are.
  41. 6 points
    Can't recall how many times I have repeatedly heard/read this lie. I have not read your entire post but stay away if it is not too late. And I can understand every time when individuals say, 'I have developed strong feelings.... it is hard to let go'. But trust me, you'll laugh at these feelings one day if you choose to be patient and wait for that special someone in your life who is honest from the beginning. I cannot claim as a matter of fact that the person you have mentioned is, by all means, deceitful. But at the very least he has displayed poor character and lack of maturity which should be enough for sisters to be cautious nowadays, especially on the internet.
  42. 6 points
    You should find out more about his family before you do something like share a picture of yourself.
  43. 6 points
    hasanhh

    10,000

    Assalamallikum, lt is Sunday,24Sept17 ~1930hrsEDT and this is my 10,000th Post. Does this confer upon me a Certified ShiaChat Addict award ? Does this make me eligible for Rehab ? Will SC pay for it ? Will Rehab's psychiatrists recommend something other than reconstructive cerebrum surgery ? 10,000 ! "l'm worried... ...and happy l did it." EDIT: Your ShiaChat Addict badge is awarded. @hasanhh
  44. 6 points
    Clearly, she has PTSD from the experience. Now leave her alone, her decision has nothing to do with you.
  45. 6 points
    Bakir

    Thoughts 2017

    May Allah guide and be pleased with us all, especially during these days of reflection and mourning. Astaghfurillah for all of our short comings.
  46. 6 points
    alHussein

    Thoughts 2017

    Oh my goodness I haven't been here for a while, salam alaikum everybody. Ps, Idk where to post this sooooo.....
  47. 5 points
  48. 5 points
    Salaam Alaykum Brother, I am a person who was suffered from serious family problems. My father didn't do his duties the way he should do, and my mother didn't too. Sometimes when I think about this, I see that I don't love them that much JUST because they didn't follow religion. Providing for family and respecting wife and children are the father's duty, and submission to husband especially in sex is a woman's duty (I didn't say these are the ONLY duties. I'm just talking about my case). Every single time that my mother rejected my father (of course they didn't ask it in front of us, but you realize it gradually), there was a big fight in the house that was supposed to be a peace place. I DO KNOW how you suffer. I'm single. I know it's even HARDER for you. For the sake of Allah, try to be more patient. Probably she would change her behavior in future. Try to show your feelings towards her even though I know it's a BIG JIHAD with all of that rejections, with all of that nights that your ego and your role as husband in the house were deteriorated. Be more patient and try to show love, patience, and your care to her. Don't lose your temper even only one time, since it ruins all of your previous efforts. Start over. Pray two Rakaats Salah and after your Salah tell Amiralmuminin that you want to do this Jihad to show your love to your wife. It's difficult and I need your help. Make her my Fatemeh. I have a word with women regardless of being single or married: Men are totally different from what you have in your mind. NEVER never reject them in their sexual needs. Be more stronger and don't use their need in sex as a weapon to punish them. A Shia Muslim never does that. Be confident and change your husband by your Islamic Akhlagh not by using a weapon against their natural desires. I also want males to understand this that when your wife submits to you it's because they love you, so be considerate to this love feeling. All of these comments and my past experience is a listen for me and to all wise people.
  49. 5 points
    Bakir

    girl doesnt love me back

    Though I am more concerned with your orthography, for the sake of this unknown girl, we shall focus on semantics: "No" means no.
  50. 5 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    Thoughts 2017

    Thanks for this inspirational verse. This assures me that Allah is aware of what I'm going through.
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