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[Hajar]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of house-keeping they did when they were younger. When men notice this,they should try not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation.

When I chucked my job and took early retirement a year ago, it became necessary for Nancy to get a full-time job both for extra income and for health insurance benefits that we need. She was a trained lab tech when we met thirty some years ago and was fortunate to land a job at the local medical center as a phlebotomist.

It was shortly after she started working at this job that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper.

I try not to yell at her when this happens.Instead, I tell her to take her time. I understand that she is not as young as she used to be. I just tell her to wake me when she finally does get supper on the table. She used to wash and dry the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on
the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.

Our washer and dryer are in the basement. When she was younger, Nancy used to be able to go up and down the stairs all day and not get tired. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Sometimes she says she just can't make another
trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday's lodge meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club or to Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening
to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog, vacuuming, or dusting. Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this allows her to gut and scale the fish at a more leisurely pace.

Nancy is starting to complain a little occasionally. Not often, mind you, but just enough for me to notice. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean.

When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods than she used to have to take. A couple of weeks ago she said she had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard.
I overlook comments like these because I realize it's just age talking. In fact, I try to not embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she
can talk with me until I fall asleep.

I could go on and on, but I think you know where I'm coming from. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Nancy on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. My purpose in writing this is simply to suggest that you make the effort. I realize that achieving the exemplary level of showing consideration I have attained is out of reach for the average man. However guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.

[i:post_uid0](This was written by the deceased husband of a friend of mine! He mysteriously passed on shortly after writing this. The cause of death is still under investigation).[/i:post_uid0]

[Hablillah]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]Bismillah..

Assalaam Alaikum

LOOOL oo that was just too funnny!

Alhamdolillah Alhamdolillah Alhamdolillah for Islam! our men would never act like that.

no seriously.. religious.. I mean R-E-L-I-G-I-O-U-S.. muslim husbands are soooooo great....sometimes I wanna cry just thinking about it. And same goes for those R-E-L-I-G--I-O-U-S muslim wives that are really practcing the rules.  I know of one couple like this.  They've been married for quite some time.. but they're both always soo humble and have utmost respect for each other and speak soo nicely to one another. It's soo beautiful  I admire them soo much!!! I want to have a marriage just like that one day, Insha'Allah!! I dont think its THAT hard

Wasalam

[kumail]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]Salam Alaykum,

that was funny really lol

i was wondering after i read ir, how on earth did that guy write this ? like was it true or just made it up.

if it were true then i would say he is slack and should feel ashamed for himself for doing that to his wife.

but the greater possibilty is that its just made up and think the guy that wrote it is smart

salam

[Aamir]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]lol, his wife might have wrote that.

[shiarose]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]Asalaamu Alaikom:

  I finally got through this article after much rolling of my eyes head and snapping my fingers with a bunch of lil noises.. I was totally dismayed at how this guy acted.. If I was Nancy this dude would totally be washing the dishes cooking the food as well as the Laundry. But unfortunatly I know someone like this man that thinks that the world basically revolves around him and My friend is very much like Nancy. She works and cleans and cooks and laundry.. YOu name it she does it. Anyhow She is quite beautifull (both inside and out) but he always tells her she is ugly When I know she could be a model if she wanted. Anyhow They are both non-Muslim and she sometimes tries to pride herself on her (so - called liberations) If that is what it is like to be liberated I'd rather stay an "opressed" lil housewife that has all my rights.

[American Muslim]

[color=#000000:post_uid0]lmho!