FreedomFiter, on 25 May 2013 - 10:02 PM, said:
Because a girl and I want to perform Mutah, have decided to talk to our parents about it, but recently she came and said that it is haraam unless the girl is a widow or her husband is at war and is haraam for anyone who has not been married before.
I have never heard of this. We are bot students and want to perform Mutah for the duration of about ~2-3 years until we both graduate and then perform Nikah. Are these special conditions true or not?
No, that is not true at all. No such conditions exist. Ask her who told her this and tell her that these conditions are not true. It seems it may have been her parents who told her this. If that's the case then you might be a tough situation, especially if they told her this so she wouldn't do it but they may just innocently have thought these are actual conditions. Either way, don't make assumptions until you have enough facts. If her parents did tell her this then you can just show her the actual conditions listed by scholars and if you need too you could talk to her parents about it, I guess. I suggest you both read this: http://www.sistani.o...&id=48&pid=2350
Also depending upon your situation and Marja you may or may not even be required to seek the permission of the father. However, if possible and if it would not prove detrimental in anyway I would suggest you still request the fathers permission or at least make him aware of what's going and you're intentions. The last thing you'd want is some nut case looking for you because you've married his daughter without his permission even if Daddies permission wasn't required... You don't want to put the girl in a difficult situation either. eg, the father could find out that you both did Muta and he isn't happy with it for whatever reason and he takes his frustration out on the girl or spread rumours about you two in the community or something like that. Do what you feel is best and most appropriate and always trust in Allah. Insha'Allah if both you're intentions are pure it should work but keep in mind sometimes things like this don't work out the way you hoped and planned. We can plan all we want but Allah is the best of Planners so insha'Allah you both have beautiful future together with much blessings.
Edited by Ali Musaaa :), Yesterday, 10:50 PM.
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(al-Kafi, Volume 2, hadith 3113)