Logical Islam, on 31 August 2012 - 07:40 PM, said:
by the way," mutah should not be forbidden"
sister, it was ENCOURAGED by the prophet pbuh.
why are we tabooing a blessed and beautiful act? God has sent it as a solution
IF the shia school of thought is saying the truth.
mutah with prostitutes are harram.
mutah is only allowed with muslims or ahle kitab houris
Why is it tabooed? Would you like your mum or sister to do mutah with a few men? It's not tabooed, it's a personal choice that if you want to sleep around with people before getting married and you seem happy to do it, then go ahead, hit the sign out button and turn of your computer and go do it than sit here making posts and dreaming about it which only makes your desires worse... No self control or will power what so ever, disappointing.
Most people here don't want to do mutah because they have some sort of mental strength and control their desires rather than let their desires control them so your not actually changing the status of mutah because I know people who are doing it all over the world. You just think it's tabooed because you can't find a partner... yeah most Muslim women would rather save it for their "real" husband and that's their choice.
As for advice take what Inaya said, stop talking about mutah and just women and houris it's the biggest turn off to women to just talk about sex related topics and think about them all the time, so instead of improving anything in your characters focus on this problem, get rid of it, control your desires then get rid of your other problems such as being shy, etc.
Have something different to aim to in your life than women, you making these threads and thinking about them all the time won't get you know where, but to make more threads and stay stuck where you are right now being controlled by your desires. You're not going to get married by doing this at all, which woman wants a man that thinks about sex related topics all the time rather than aiming for other things in life?