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[UmmAhmad]

If they had a pregnancy group/Mom group that was closed and only accessible for sisters. I know there are a lot of single sisters here, but I am sure that there are also pregnant/mom's here as well.

When I was pregnant I didn't have any one to talk to. My family is far from me and my husbands family is over seas. I didn't really care for the secular networks either. Now that I have a 6 month old, I wish I knew a sister that I could share his milestones with, or knew of a sister who has a baby the same age as mine. What do you sisters think?

[Ruq]

I dont think theres enough demand for a sub-forum, why not just post here? and why should it be restricted to women? open discussion is a healthy thing, its good for boys and men to educate themselves about the concerns of women and to not live in ignorance about things like the realities of pregnancy.

[UmmAhmad]

~Ruqaya, on 14 July 2012 - 01:30 PM, said:

I dont think theres enough demand for a sub-forum, why not just post here? and why should it be restricted to women? open discussion is a healthy thing, its good for boys and men to educate themselves about the concerns of women and to not live in ignorance about things like the realities of pregnancy.

Well, sometimes questions about pregnancy are personal and it would be nice to not have to worry about a brother reading. It would be embarrassing for me if a brother read an inquiry about some of thos unpleasant moments of pregnancy.

[Chaotic Muslem]

I’d rather see umahmad keep posting here than to lose another sister in this forum
I don’t think the environment of this forum would be good for such idea, I’ve seen this sort of groups being formed in another forum that is more homogenous, yet it ended up with a failure, moms had to relocate to a blog they formed for the group
it is the nature of large forums that make these ideas some time very uncomfortable , can be even harmful if it ended up with someone leaving
I don’t know how many active female members are there now in forum nor how many of them are active in the social topics (apart from trolling) but I do have a feeling that their numbers are declining though I do hope that my feelings are wrong

[Ruq]

UmmAhmad, on 14 July 2012 - 02:21 PM, said:

Well, sometimes questions about pregnancy are personal and it would be nice to not have to worry about a brother reading. It would be embarrassing for me if a brother read an inquiry about some of thos unpleasant moments of pregnancy.

Not trying to be confrontational, but why? i dont get why ppl want these protected forums, why is it embarrassing?

[UmmAhmad]

~Ruqaya, on 14 July 2012 - 03:50 PM, said:

Not trying to be confrontational, but why? i dont get why ppl want these protected forums, why is it embarrassing?

Why wouldn't be embarassing unless you have no shame or modesty?

[Ruq]

What is shameful about it? and what is immodest about it if youre writing and reading? we're adults arent we? its reality.

Edited by ~Ruqaya's Amal~, 14 July 2012 - 04:12 PM.

[UmmAhmad]

~Ruqaya, on 14 July 2012 - 04:09 PM, said:

What is shameful about it? and what is immodest about it if youre writing and reading? we're adults arent we? its reality.

I am not go to share personal things where non mahram men can read it.

[Abdullah88]

lol a convert schooling a born Muslim on proper etiquette..loving it.

[Ruq]

UmmAhmad, on 14 July 2012 - 04:16 PM, said:

I am not go to share personal things where non mahram men can read it.

Then why post at all? even if you made a forum password protected its not going to stop men from reading it if they want to. Most of the mods (if not all?) are men.

[UmmAhmad]

~Ruqaya, on 14 July 2012 - 04:28 PM, said:

Then why post at all? even if you made a forum password protected its not going to stop men from reading it if they want to. Most of the mods (if not all?) are men.

Why don't they have any female mods?

[Ruq]

I dont think its deliberate, Gypsy used to be a mod.

Id volunteer, but no one in thier right mind is going to make me mod :s

[Queen Yoda]

I think a female mod is a good idea Ruquaya you should go for it. I would nominate you.

As for having our own password protected subforum it sounds like a good idea, some things would be inappropriate to discuss when men are about, who knows what kind of weirdos stalk the sisters forum

[Ruq]

^ ty for the vote of confidence.

[Queen Yoda]

~Ruqaya, on 14 July 2012 - 10:06 PM, said:

^ ty for the vote of confidence.

Hopefully it will encourage you to step forward

[UmmAhmad]

Yoda1, on 15 July 2012 - 08:00 AM, said:

Hopefully it will encourage you to step forward

Yes yes! I agree!

[titumir]

alhindi, on 14 July 2012 - 04:25 PM, said:

lol a convert schooling a born Muslim on proper etiquette..loving it.

No, its a convert schooling a convert on Muslim etiquette.

[ImAli]

If it's possible to open a password protected forum for these topics I think it would be a good idea. Strange and embarrassing things happen to your body during and right after pregnancy and also when breastfeeding. It would be nice to share experience, motherly advice, and mom tricks without certain people popping in. In case this idea never happens I am free and happy to answer any questions that people may have in private about pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding, etc. (I used to work as an R.N. in labor and delivery).

I also think it would be a good idea to have a password protected forum for some of the brothers topics because I have stumbled upon some of those brothers topics in the "view new content" area and they are outright embarrassing....I have to cyber-run out beet red and full of shame ....most sisters just don't want to know about it.

[UmmAhmad]

ImAli, on 15 July 2012 - 11:44 AM, said:

If it's possible to open a password protected forum for these topics I think it would be a good idea. Strange and embarrassing things happen to your body during and right after pregnancy and also when breastfeeding. It would be nice to share experience, motherly advice, and mom tricks without certain people popping in. In case this idea never happens I am free and happy to answer any questions that people may have in private about pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding, etc. (I used to work as an R.N. in labor and delivery).

I also think it would be a good idea to have a password protected forum for some of the brothers topics because I have stumbled upon some of those brothers topics in the "view new content" area and they are outright embarrassing....I have to cyber-run out beet red and full of shame ....most sisters just don't want to know about it.

I absolutely agree with you!

[Walkin' Fashion Statement]

Yeah men have no shame jk

[ImAli]

HMMMMM it seems IP board can open password protected forums (I guess this includes subforums?)

http://www.invisionp...rd/features.php



UmmAhmad your idea is good because during my pregnancy the women on those websites like babycenter and justmommies used to annoy me to death. Even now when I read their parenting advice I become annoyed.

[UmmAhmad]

ImAli, on 15 July 2012 - 12:29 PM, said:

HMMMMM it seems IP board can open password protected forums (I guess this includes subforums?)

http://www.invisionp...rd/features.php

IP.Board - Features.jpg

We can dream!

ImAli, on 15 July 2012 - 12:31 PM, said:

HMMMMM it seems IP board can open password protected forums (I guess this includes subforums?)

http://www.invisionp...rd/features.php

IP.Board - Features.jpg

UmmAhmad your idea is good because during my pregnancy the women on those websites like babycenter and justmommies used to annoy me to death. Even now when I read their parenting advice I become annoyed.

That and there is too much gossip! When you really need help no one is there to answer your questions. They are all on the posts of, "I have 6 kids and am only 20, now boyfriend left me, oh what am I going to do?" posts.

[ImAli]

Yeah I remember a post on one of those about a woman pumping her milk for 24 hours to make sure there wasn't anymore alcohol in her milk....she was trying to see if there was a way to know if any of it was remaining.

I mean poor baby....the poor thing's mother chose to go out and drink instead of stay home and take care of her child. I used to always leave those sites feeling heartbroken and worried about their children.

Edited by ImAli, 15 July 2012 - 12:42 PM.

[UmmAhmad]

ImAli, on 15 July 2012 - 12:38 PM, said:

Yeah I remember a post on one of those about a woman pumping her milk for 24 hours to make sure there wasn't anymore alcohol in her milk....she was trying to see if there was a way to know if any of it was remaining.

I mean poor baby....the poor thing's mother chose to go out and drink instead of stay home and take care of her child. I used to always leave those sites feeling heartbroken and worried about their children.

Yes some moms are so sad and pathetic. Since my LO left the NICU he has always been with me and my husband. I don't think he has ever been out of my sight for more then 30 minutes since he came home. How old are you children?

[ImAli]

My girl is 4 and my boy is almost 2

I've never been away from the boy for more than a few hours and the only other person he has ever stayed with is my mother in law. As for my girl, I was away from her when I was in the hospital after having the baby....she stayed with my mother in law for 2 days (she too has only stayed with my mother in law). However we are alone now because my mother in law went home and my mother is in another state...so it's been a long time since they have been away from me. I go crazy when I don't see them. My daughter is naughty...she hid under a pile of blankets I needed to fold after I was finished in the kitchen!. I went crazy I couldn't find her...I was running round the house screaming for her and even went outside ROFL. My husband found her under the pile of blankets laughing.

I forgot to add the boy likes to hide in the bottom cupboards.....he made me crazy once doing that, but I caught on so I always find him the first time.

Edited by ImAli, 15 July 2012 - 12:55 PM.