Do you need your wife's permission to go to the bathroom and what if she didn't grant you?
Is it your wife or your lord ?
And why would she stick her nose in a relationship between you and another female where she is nOt a party to it? And instead of helping you And facilitating for you to marry and get closer to god and follow the sunnah of the masoomeen she actually rejects it? Why would that be the case unless she had serious problems?
Why should a third party dictate over Others and prohibit the lawful?
Prohibiting the lawful is regarded kufr according to imam ali in nahjulbalagha .
Is it your body and your needs and wants plus the second wife's or is it the first wife's ?
Just be logical how is that favoring men? That's just giving them Thier natural right so we don't end up with adultery like the famous monogomous role models bill Clinton and prince Charles and the rest.
If there is a fear of potential sin the second marriage becomes wajib so how would god give the authority to another human beings from disabling what's wajib?
Isn't the famous fish law stating
No obedience for the created in disobeying the creator
So how would god allow the wife to he obeyed in disobeying him?
As for deciet and lies and hypocrisy Islam prOhibits that. So if you do behind her back you can't lie about it. You can either tell her that it's not her buisess or announce it. You have no excuse to be a canard from humans resulting in disobeying god as that's a form of shirk where you following your wife's rules and not gods.
Announcing marriage is ideal as Islam makes it mustahab to announce marriage to promote it
If the wife is a Muslim she wouldn't take offense from legitimate behavior and would not transgress upon the god given rights of her husband and his otherwife. If she is a transgressor then her transgressing feelings should not be encouraged nor respected.
If She is rejecting it would be out of jealousy because no sane person would reject a good thing where another person is added to Thier family making Thier family bigger and more bonds and more support and more happiness for everyone bringing them closer to god and avoiding the risks of adultery and perversion that your monogamist role models constantly face. Who in Thier right mind would reject such project?
If her reasons are jealousy which is in almost every case then imam ali said in nahjulbalagha the jealousy of the female kind is kufr and the jealousy of the male kind is emaan .
So it's offensive for you to respect kufr as kufr is something to be rejected
And this law does not favor men as you claim because the man is naturally polygynist and the woman is naturally monogamist so Allah allowed and encouraged polygyny yet he prohibited polyandry. Allahs system is fair but the false enforced monogamy is harmful to both genders and all the evidence are pointing to this direction
We as Muslims don't have monogamist role models . All our madwomen role models are polygynist. So who are your role models? And who is the role model of the wife that rejects polygyny and prohibits the lawful?
Edited by alimohamad40, 09 July 2012 - 05:07 PM.