You meet a girl in school (or at work ) who you think has a good personality. She is practicing the religion, is muhajibat, and you have had a few relgious based discussions with her. So this goes on for a few months, then one day she asks you about the topic of marriage generally, and then drops some hints so you get the message that she is interested in marrying you. So you consider it, and say you will go talk to the father.
You talk to the father, and he gives his enthusiastic approval . Before you 'take the plung' you ask him if you can see her in normal cloths, without hijab. He resists at first but finally agrees. So you see her in jeans and a t shirt and notice that she is a little on the hefty side of things. You do the calculations in your head and figure that after a couple of kids she will blow up like a water baloon. So after ,this you give some lame excuse to leave and later tell her that 'you are just not ready to get married' and that you will revisit the idea in a few months. She gets the message.
You see her a few years later at the shopping mall and she has taken off her hijab, is dressing trashy and flirting with guys. You come to find out that she stopped doing salat, going to the masjid, etc. So same question. Would you feel bad ?
Sisters don't answer or I'll send my little annoying cousins over to your house to break your lamps and get everything messy.
BTW, I already voted. Yes, I would feel horrible. This is not a real scenario (that I know of)
Edited by Abu Hadi, 26 June 2012 - 06:23 PM.