Faatima_ki_kaneez, on 27 May 2012 - 01:32 AM, said:
no one else in my heart. I probably could keep studying. I know how illogical and unreasonable my reasoning is. I'm not trying to offend any of hte men btw. After seeing the way my mom has lived for hte past 25 years, abused physically and emotionally, I'm afraid of getting married, ending up in the same situation, adn not being able to get out. Especially since her education was stopped to get married, she never continued, and is suffering still. I can't tell my parents this cause i'lll offend my father, and my mother.
If you guys have any hadith from the prophet about women and marriage, their rights, importance of education for women, etc, I'd appreciate it.
If you think this is a topic where there can really be no concrete answer, feel free to say so. you might not have the answer, but neither do i. i dunno what to do. If i dont' do smehting, I will have to get married
Have you ever talked to your Mom and asked her why she stayed in a relationship where she was being abused?
Sad to say, many women of many different beliefs go through this, and it ends up hurting their children as well. And the cycle continues...
Is there a Muslim human rights group or women's shelter in your area that can help you explain to your parents that it is important for you to get your education before getting married?
My Mom and Dad got married when they were both 18 years old. Neither one finished college. My Mom dropped out when she gave birth to me. She is going to university now! (I am so proud of her!) It is possible to continue one's education after getting married (my sister did) but it's really hard, especially when babies come.
Maybe if you encouraged your parents to think in the way of improving the family's situation through you getting your education, that would help? Education is a great gift from God!!!
Peace and God bless you