Mutah_King, on 21 May 2012 - 12:30 PM, said:
Sure, all of that has to be taken into consideration, but if I am willing to go so far as to accept that partly, these teenage marriages end up falling apart because of liberal western practices, then you should also be willing to accept the following:
Bro - you and I can compete on quoting Muta related hadith and I'm sure after a 1000 posts long thread, it will be a tie.
But when it comes to getting other solutions from Islam, why do people balk and wait for Western research.
If we take Islam single dimension, then sure you are going to be a loser. But if you raise your kids as Islamic adults, teach them according to Islam, have your home Islamic, have your Akhlaq Islamic, be a good role model, then it all fits in.
ImAli, on 21 May 2012 - 12:28 PM, said:
The next thread will be about sky rocketing divorce rates
Western research is dependent on science. Nothing wrong with it, but what they learned with trial and error in 1000 years, we already have a perfect message, the absolute truth, the end result. Allah surely knows the teenager mind more than Harvard research scholar knows anyway.
A test in case of Western trial and error, how many of you remember the advisaries from NHS or US Health Dept. of
1. Feed breast milk, - 1970s
2. no, don;t feed breast milk - 1980s
3. no wait - mix it up - late 1980s
4. breast feed only - early 1990s
5. Don't feed honey till a year old
6. Don't feed honey till 6 months old
7. No honey for baies till 2 yrs old
8. go as you will - till now
AliSaleh, on 21 May 2012 - 12:30 PM, said:
Besides at a young age how can u even have a job to support your family? it just doesnt work and so its best not to do it until u r older and ready.
Who is talking about getting jobs at 13. Why can't Muslim parents use their head for once. Why can't they still house the newly married 13 yr olds in their respective parents' homes till they are done with studies, start a career, teach them to not have sex till they are older.
We all are more intellegent than just think of only black and white. Aren't their any shades of grey once Muslims argue????
Maryaam, on 21 May 2012 - 12:40 PM, said:
Also, if I had 3 teen boys – would I be willing to take on the care and responsibility and education of 3 additional teen DIL’s? Don’t think so.
Your 3 new DILs would stay with their own parents till they are ready to move together. Till then kids know they are tied to eachother, they are talking on phone, are halal bf/gf, are acting like adults, thinking more of which top Medical/Law school they ought to go than thinking if Jane next door has sex 3 times a week, and I;m roaming around wtihtout a bf.
Get my point sister. If we as Musilms accept Islam as THE solution,we will find ways to implement it.
If we make up our minds that all what Allah, Prophet and Aimah said was just a vain talk, then we'll be what we are now.
Edited by Waiting for HIM, 21 May 2012 - 12:59 PM.