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[Marbles]

zameena, on 04 May 2012 - 01:43 AM, said:

You don't have to be scared. I was like you. Don't take advices from people who tell you to practice with males before marriage. You will learn once you start having emotional bond with your husband. Initially he will be doing all the work, you will just reciprocate involuntary. It will be a reflex action to something you feel good about. You are worrying about a very foolish thought. Possibly because you don't know. Once you experience you will laugh at yourself. My worry is don't get involved in sins before marriage, just because you are scared and want to prepare yourself. You don't need any preparation.

First, you are assuming too much.

Second, you are a guy pretending to be a girl.

Third, just give up.

[Haydar Husayn]

La fata illa Ali, on 01 May 2012 - 12:34 PM, said:

sorry sorry i shouldnt be in here but someone needs to guide u women folk.

Not a single hadith mentioned so far just shows ur lack of development on SC...tsk tsk


to the OP, one hadith should clear up ur doubts:


"The best woman
among you is the one
who discards the armor of shyness
when she undresses
for her husband,
and puts on the armor of shyness
when she dresses up again."



Imam Muhammad al-Baqir

The fact that you think ahadith can have any bearing on real life shows your lack of development on shiachat...

[ImAli]

Haydar Husayn, on 04 May 2012 - 07:40 AM, said:

The fact that you think ahadith can have any bearing on real life shows your lack of development on shiachat...

No....it is not that. You are making her feel like a bad person by throwing this into a young inexperienced girls face while she is feeling a wide range of emotions and scared out of her wits about being alone with a husband (or any male for that matter) for the first time in her life. This hadith can come into play after she knows her husband better and is more comfortable around him at all times....it can't be expected right away.

Edited by ImAli, 04 May 2012 - 08:25 AM.

[zameena]

Marbles, on 04 May 2012 - 03:40 AM, said:

First, you are assuming too much.

Second, you are a guy pretending to be a girl.

Third, just give up.

those that vote to like your comments are your multiple ids, get out of sisters place.

like a cockroach, gets kicked in the butt, falls on its back, gets up, crawls to the same place to be kicked again !

[pepsi]

^ another one of those confused kids....man you guys are damn countless.

[Ismahan007]

why are guys commenting on 'sisters' only thread anyway? its scary cos I won't be posting anything on this section anymore if I only wanted 'sisters' comments

[leylagrim]

salaam sister,

congrats!!! remember, he is your hubby, you can hold him, kiss him, spank him, anything you want to do. you guys are forever linked!!! he is yours and you are his. if you feel weird, tell him! share with him , because that will allow you build a bond with him. trust me he has been waiting for this day as much as you have.

[Marbles]

zameena, on 05 May 2012 - 04:11 AM, said:

those that vote to like your comments are your multiple ids, get out of sisters place.

like a cockroach, gets kicked in the butt, falls on its back, gets up, crawls to the same place to be kicked again !

Ah I hit the raw nerve And as usual, you come up with your familiar smiley of "cockroach" *yawn*. At least change your style so that you aren't recognised.

As for multiple IDs, I have lost count of how many you have made, so stop projecting.

Now listen to me: Grow up, stop pretending to be a girl, and get out of this place.

Edited by Marbles, 06 May 2012 - 09:41 AM.

[ImAli]

Marbles, on 06 May 2012 - 09:39 AM, said:

Ah I hit the raw nerve And as usual, you come up with your familiar smiley of "cockroach" *yawn*. At least change your style so that you aren't recognised.

As for multiple IDs, I have lost count of how many you have made, so stop projecting.

Now listen to me: Grow up, stop pretending to be a girl, and get out of this place.

Please fill me in....what are some of the other accounts?

[~Zee Zee~]

leylagrim, on 05 May 2012 - 11:58 PM, said:

salaam sister,

congrats!!! remember, he is your hubby, you can hold him, kiss him, spank him, anything you want to do. you guys are forever linked!!! he is yours and you are his. if you feel weird, tell him! share with him , because that will allow you build a bond with him. trust me he has been waiting for this day as much as you have.

i would further like to add hitting him with a wooden spoon in the face and also punching his left kidney out does wonders  at the honey moon. Don't forget to make fun of his appearance, and let him know how awful he dresses. Put him down every chance you can, and every time he wants to eat from the kitchen make him beg for it, so he  appreciates your home making. Also take out the toilet roll in the bathroom so he is again dependent on you and knows how important you are in his life.

[ImAli]

LebanesePrincess, on 06 May 2012 - 06:50 PM, said:

i would further like to add hitting him with a wooden spoon in the face and also punching his left kidney out does wonders  at the honey moon. Don't forget to make fun of his appearance, and let him know how awful he dresses. Put him down every chance you can, and every time he wants to eat from the kitchen make him beg for it, so he  appreciates your home making. Also take out the toilet roll in the bathroom so he is again dependent on you and knows how important you are in his life.

LOL I always said I wouldn't want a co-wife but you have given me second thoughts LOOOOOOOOOOL

Will you join our family hhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[~Zee Zee~]

ImAli, on 06 May 2012 - 06:58 PM, said:

LOL I always said I wouldn't want a co-wife but you have given me second thoughts LOOOOOOOOOOL

Will you join our family hhhhhhhhhhhhhh

lesh la?  After its failure with American Muslim, Dearborn needs a new reality tv show. We can call it  Co Wives .

[ForeverMM]

LebanesePrincess, on 06 May 2012 - 07:05 PM, said:

lesh la?  After its failure with American Muslim, Dearborn needs a new reality tv show. We can call it  Co Wives .

They already have the sister wives for the mormons...watch it and its good enough...

[samarobin0]

Dont be afraid! You will looooove it later God has given us a gift of pleasure, even more strong then a mans pleasure, something so amazing that without respect it can become addictive.... just remember that your body is built by God to enjoy your husband & to feel the pleasure he has just for you. You dont want to make him feel weird about you, be strong and be sexy for him so he is comfortable too. You want to remember the first times as romantic not frightened. You are getting married because you are a woman, feel it and act like it because you are not a child anymore!

[AnaAmmar1]

baji dont worry.

you will figure it out urself.

[Waiting for HIM]

samarobin0, on 07 May 2012 - 11:10 PM, said:

Dont be afraid! You will looooove it later God has given us a gift of pleasure, even more strong then a mans pleasure, something so amazing that without respect it can become addictive.... just remember that your body is built by God to enjoy your husband & to feel the pleasure he has just for you. You dont want to make him feel weird about you, be strong and be sexy for him so he is comfortable too. You want to remember the first times as romantic not frightened. You are getting married because you are a woman, feel it and act like it because you are not a child anymore!

Excellent advice:

Could some one teach this to women belonging to Iran and South Asia (Pk, India), having sex is sort of punishment for them and they seem do it like a nun, afraid and with an immense feeling of guilt.
For God's sake somebody rub the Arab or Western women with them.

..... Compliment for Arab and Western women as they seem to be more liberal about this Allah bestowed rahma of sexuality.

^^^ this is based on my literally and listening experiences, I'm not a mutah king by any measure

P.S. Sister samarobin0, you really ought to start a separate thread about this sexual liberalism among women. Would help lots of sexually deprived Iranian and Paki brothers.

Edited by Waiting for HIM, 07 May 2012 - 11:26 PM.

[Gypsy]

Brothers must resist commenting in Sisters only thread. Must resist.

[AnaAmmar1]

Waiting for HIM, on 07 May 2012 - 11:22 PM, said:

Excellent advice:

Could some one teach this to women belonging to Iran and South Asia (Pk, India), having sex is sort of punishment for them and they seem do it like a nun, afraid and with an immense feeling of guilt.
For God's sake somebody rub the Arab or Western women with them.

..... Compliment for Arab and Western women as they seem to be more liberal about this Allah bestowed rahma of sexuality.

^^^ this is based on my literally and listening experiences, I'm not a mutah king by any measure

P.S. Sister samarobin0, you really ought to start a separate thread about this sexual liberalism among women. Would help lots of sexually deprived Iranian and Paki brothers.

and now i am more convinced to marry an arab girl.
i dont know why but few days back when i was in beirut during gmj,the females there really attract me.

in pakistan i dont even bother them

[fahimah18]

I don't understand why guys are posting on a sister only thread??

Edited by fahimah18, 08 May 2012 - 12:19 PM.

[Waiting for HIM]

AnaAmmar1, on 08 May 2012 - 11:57 AM, said:

and now i am more convinced to marry an arab girl.
i dont know why but few days back when i was in beirut during gmj,the females there really attract me.

in pakistan i dont even bother them

Sorry sisters that we are trolling on your side of fence..

Brother not so fast. Some Arabs (not all) are bunch of the most racist people I've met. They won't marry you if they have an iota of materialism in them.

On the other hand, If you find a perfect momina among Arabs, they would more likely be willing ... But again they may have other likes such as one of my Arab friends had a hard time finding a wife from Karbala because no Karbala woman was ready to leave Karbala for a life of relative luxary in Europe.

WIth that said, about my comment - apparently sexual liberalism is also relative to the regions as well. There is a famous event of Prophet (s) that Meccans used to be much more sexually liberal than Madina people. So when companions migrated (the famous Hijra) and once they married with Madina women, they complained to Prophet (s) that Madina women would not let their husbands try various positions. And then the hadith keeps going, you can read the rest in the book "Marriage and Morals of Islam". [By the way Sister OP - this is a good book for you and your husband as well - and see this is the kind of advice you miss once you make a sister's only club]

But overall, Arabs, men and women both, seem to be more sexually and relationship liberals than Paks, Indians, and Westerners (its just my experience with friendship with Arabs). Iraqis, Hijazis, Kuwaitis seem to be the best of breed. Lebanon, Syria, North Africa may still have lots of European influences.

In Pak/India, sexuality for women borders almost a constant guilt trip, and among Westernerns, any sexually liberalism touches the extreme perversion which makes it totally unfair to the women anyway.

So I guess this leaves a smaller pool of Arabs for you. Oh well...that's life

OK Ladies, handing the ball back to you - my apologies.

Edited by Waiting for HIM, 08 May 2012 - 04:15 PM.

[zameena]

Marbles, on 06 May 2012 - 09:39 AM, said:

Ah I hit the raw nerve And as usual, you come up with your familiar smiley of "cockroach" *yawn*. At least change your style so that you aren't recognised.

As for multiple IDs, I have lost count of how many you have made, so stop projecting.

Now listen to me: Grow up, stop pretending to be a girl, and get out of this place.

u r like a dog following the girls everywhere. keep out of sisters place

[pepsi]

^ you've got BIG issues, girl.

[3laweyaZainabiya]

LOL this was...interesting.

Anyways, congratulations sister!
May Allah bless you two and best wishes from me to you insha'Allah

I say talk to an adult you can trust if it's something you seriously can't get over although I have a feeling it's just a newly wed kinda thing. I bet this happens to every girl when she's first married.

[Sapphire]

Waiting for HIM, on 08 May 2012 - 04:04 PM, said:

Sorry sisters that we are trolling on your side of fence..

Brother not so fast. Some Arabs (not all) are bunch of the most racist people I've met. They won't marry you if they have an iota of materialism in them.

On the other hand, If you find a perfect momina among Arabs, they would more likely be willing ... But again they may have other likes such as one of my Arab friends had a hard time finding a wife from Karbala because no Karbala woman was ready to leave Karbala for a life of relative luxary in Europe.

WIth that said, about my comment - apparently sexual liberalism is also relative to the regions as well. There is a famous event of Prophet (s) that Meccans used to be much more sexually liberal than Madina people. So when companions migrated (the famous Hijra) and once they married with Madina women, they complained to Prophet (s) that Madina women would not let their husbands try various positions. And then the hadith keeps going, you can read the rest in the book "Marriage and Morals of Islam". [By the way Sister OP - this is a good book for you and your husband as well - and see this is the kind of advice you miss once you make a sister's only club]

But overall, Arabs, men and women both, seem to be more sexually and relationship liberals than Paks, Indians, and Westerners (its just my experience with friendship with Arabs). Iraqis, Hijazis, Kuwaitis seem to be the best of breed. Lebanon, Syria, North Africa may still have lots of European influences.

In Pak/India, sexuality for women borders almost a constant guilt trip, and among Westernerns, any sexually liberalism touches the extreme perversion which makes it totally unfair to the women anyway.

So I guess this leaves a smaller pool of Arabs for you. Oh well...that's life

OK Ladies, handing the ball back to you - my apologies.

You make me sick saying such things about Pakistani & Indian women. You have no idea what they are capable of in terms of pleasing their husbands. How can you be so judgmental?