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[ya_zeinab]

Salaam alaykum sisters!

Are there any girls here who are on the taller side and feel anxious about finding a spouse, bad because many brothers will not approach them because of their height/find it off-putting? Are there any tall girls with success stories?

I am just about 5'10" myself and tend to carry myself with a straight back too (good posture, thank you yoga/pilates, alhamdullilah) and I am thinner too -- so I just look REALLY tall. For instance if you see someone who is taller, but not really thin, they look more proportional from a distance, versus if you are tall and thin from far away you look like a tree :-). (Hey at least I have a sense of humor about this!)

It makes me worried to be honest sometimes because there are just not very many tall brothers around, unless I decide to marry a convert or somebody from the Netherlands, but as far as in my community I do not see anyone my height or taller. And I worry that the ones who ARE tall will go for somebody shorter!

What are your experiences in this regard? Can somebody offer me some hope here lol

And if you know any brothers who are very tall and single, well you know you can always get in touch with me! Haha

[Golden-crowned]

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 01:50 AM, said:

Salaam alaykum sisters!

Are there any girls here who are on the taller side and feel anxious about finding a spouse, bad because many brothers will not approach them because of their height/find it off-putting? Are there any tall girls with success stories?

I am just about 5'10" myself and tend to carry myself with a straight back too (good posture, thank you yoga/pilates, alhamdullilah) and I am thinner too -- so I just look REALLY tall. For instance if you see someone who is taller, but not really thin, they look more proportional from a distance, versus if you are tall and thin from far away you look like a tree :-). (Hey at least I have a sense of humor about this!)

It makes me worried to be honest sometimes because there are just not very many tall brothers around, unless I decide to marry a convert or somebody from the Netherlands, but as far as in my community I do not see anyone my height or taller. And I worry that the ones who ARE tall will go for somebody shorter!

What are your experiences in this regard? Can somebody offer me some hope here lol

And if you know any brothers who are very tall and single, well you know you can always get in touch with me! Haha

honestly, I wished I was as tall as you! it is only thing tht i am able to tell you sis!

[ya_zeinab]

 Golden-crowned, on 03 April 2012 - 02:27 AM, said:

honestly, I wished I was as tall as you! it is only thing tht i am able to tell you sis!

It's nice sometimes and not so nice other times! I feel if I was 4 inches shorter I would have a much easier time finding a spouse.

[Golden-crowned]

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 03:24 AM, said:

It's nice sometimes and not so nice other times! I feel if I was 4 inches shorter I would have a much easier time finding a spouse.

Dear Sister, you shouldn't be worried about finding a spouse is not you, it is in Allah's hand to show you your spouse.

[muslimah1]

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 01:50 AM, said:

Salaam alaykum sisters!

Are there any girls here who are on the taller side and feel anxious about finding a spouse, bad because many brothers will not approach them because of their height/find it off-putting? Are there any tall girls with success stories?

I am just about 5'10" myself and tend to carry myself with a straight back too (good posture, thank you yoga/pilates, alhamdullilah) and I am thinner too -- so I just look REALLY tall. For instance if you see someone who is taller, but not really thin, they look more proportional from a distance, versus if you are tall and thin from far away you look like a tree :-). (Hey at least I have a sense of humor about this!)

It makes me worried to be honest sometimes because there are just not very many tall brothers around, unless I decide to marry a convert or somebody from the Netherlands, but as far as in my community I do not see anyone my height or taller. And I worry that the ones who ARE tall will go for somebody shorter!

What are your experiences in this regard? Can somebody offer me some hope here lol

And if you know any brothers who are very tall and single, well you know you can always get in touch with me! Haha

Salam sister
DONT BE WORRIED!!
I'm not not tall so I can't really give u first hand encouragement lol but I have a friend actually 4 friends that are really tall like that and supper skinny so they look taller and they all had no trouble finding someone, just relax ur spouse will come and he will be the perfect height inshallah

[ya_zeinab]

 Golden-crowned, on 03 April 2012 - 03:57 AM, said:

Dear Sister, you shouldn't be worried about finding a spouse is not you, it is in Allah's hand to show you your spouse.

 muslimah1, on 03 April 2012 - 04:16 AM, said:

Salam sister
DONT BE WORRIED!!
I'm not not tall so I can't really give u first hand encouragement lol but I have a friend actually 4 friends that are really tall like that and supper skinny so they look taller and they all had no trouble finding someone, just relax ur spouse will come and he will be the perfect height inshallah

haha inshAllah...jazakAllah khair

[Marbles]

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 01:50 AM, said:

Salaam alaykum sisters!

Are there any girls here who are on the taller side and feel anxious about finding a spouse, bad because many brothers will not approach them because of their height/find it off-putting? Are there any tall girls with success stories?

I am just about 5'10" myself

Two of my sisters are the same height as me, that is, 5'10". (I'm a guy by the way). We are in the process of finding a suitable guy for the elder 5'10" and it's turning out to be somewhat frustrating. She personally doesn't want a guy shorter than her. The minimum is the same height as her but, of course, slightly taller guys are preferable. The trouble is that we are having to rule out quite a few good, educated guys only because of their height. As it appears, most of them, too, don't want to marry a girl taller than them. The mother of one of the guys said so clearly and I thought it was so nice of her to tell us that in plain words.

So my sister, and I, empathise with you. All I can say is that hold on to the rope of the hope steadfastly. Even though the average height of men of late has gone down, there must be enough 5'10" or taller to match up with you. Inshallah.

Edited by Marbles, 03 April 2012 - 06:09 AM.

[ya_zeinab]

 Marbles, on 03 April 2012 - 06:07 AM, said:

Two of my sisters are the same height as me, that is, 5'10". (I'm a guy by the way). We are in the process of finding a suitable guy for the elder 5'10" and it's turning out to be somewhat frustrating. She personally doesn't want a guy shorter than her. The minimum is the same height as her but, of course, slightly taller guys are preferable. The trouble is that we are having to rule out quite a few good, educated guys only because of their height. As it appears, most of them, too, don't want to marry a girl taller than them. The mother of one of the guys said so clearly and I thought it was so nice of her to tell us that in plain words.

So my sister, and I, empathise with you. All I can say is that hold on to the rope of the hope steadfastly. Even though the average height of men of late has gone down, there must be enough 5'10" or taller to match up with you. Inshallah.

Glad I am not alone. inshAllah best of luck to me, your sister, and all the tall girls of the world lol. Yes I am the same actually height is pretty much the only real deal breaker for me (in terms of purely superficial, worldly things, if he is a Mu'min [a real one], height is still a deal breaker...). I guess we will see.

 Monad, on 03 April 2012 - 05:32 AM, said:

(guy)

are you serious?, silly to be paranoid about your height. Your height is normal and more likely to land you success too. I see many tall women around and it looks great. Personally over the years I have lost some height and trying to get it back too. ( stretches ),

Just find a guy, who likes tall girls or is taller then you.

Salaam

I suppose really I should be thankful I am blessed with my limbs. InshAllah . Perhaps a 6'2-6'4 Shi3a Sheikh Charming will appear in my life!

[ireallywannaknow]

My sister is around 6 feet tall and has been married twice to men taller than her so there's hope for you!

On a side note, my other sister who is 5' 8 or 5'9 was married twice to men shorter than her.

[Marbles]

 Inception, on 03 April 2012 - 07:21 AM, said:

Don't worry, you are just fine, I think you are just going through a phase where you want to blame anything for not being married

I am curious to know exactly what in the posts of the OP has made you think she is blaming "everything" for not being married?

She only raised one issue: her height. And if she wants someone taller than her than it definitely reduces her chances by few percentages.

[md. ammar ali]

donot worry tall women taller men are there for you

[Abu Lulu]

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 01:50 AM, said:

It makes me worried to be honest sometimes because there are just not very many tall brothers around, unless I decide to marry a convert or somebody from the Netherlands

A 6'1 shia-guy from Netherlands you say? If you only knew

[Inception]

yeah true, why from netherlands, cuz u live there? otherwise, i find them not handsome at all, just tall, we had an exchange class from netherlands for a semester,and the whole bunch, both girls and boys were like..taaaaaall. I felt so tiny and cute around them hehehe

[Quranist]

 Inception, on 03 April 2012 - 12:14 PM, said:

yeah true, why from netherlands, cuz u live there? otherwise, i find them not handsome at all, just tall, we had an exchange class from netherlands for a semester,and the whole bunch, both girls and boys were like..taaaaaall. I felt so tiny and cute around them hehehe

[Inception]

 yamolaAlimadad, on 03 April 2012 - 12:20 PM, said:

Lol
Yeah I felt pretty much like this! hehe thanx for the clarification in case people didn't understand Tiny and cute

[Marbles]

 Inception, on 03 April 2012 - 09:02 AM, said:

Marble you made me look baaaaad here!!!

Oi I am sorry then. I am sure you were not being a tiny and cute meanie!

And it's Marbles

[Inception]

 Marbles, on 03 April 2012 - 12:41 PM, said:

Oi I am sorry then. I am sure you were not being a tiny and cute meanie!

And it's Marbles

Damage is already there, the OP thinks Im mean..and I'm not..I was just showing her I understand her feelings and trying to make her relax and not think about it anymore...

and sorry for the SSSSSSSSSSSSSS I will not forget that again

[Marbles]

 Inception, on 03 April 2012 - 12:55 PM, said:

Damage is already there, the OP thinks Im mean..and I'm not..I was just showing her I understand her feelings and trying to make her relax and not think about it anymore...

Don't overdo it. You're stressing her out

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and sorry for the SSSSSSSSSSSSSS I will not forget that again

Apology accepted

[ImAli]

Polygamy will solve all of your problems.

[ya_zeinab]

Don't worry about it Inception, you didn't offend me... in fact the only thing I retained from your message was that you think 5'5" is tall at all after I said I was 5'10" lol! Trust me girl that's not tall .

[Gotham]

bah, i wish i was that tall
maybe look outside of your community? i hear there are tall guys in chicago... must go visit
but honestly, if anything, a guy could wear heels to make himself look a little taller

[_jen_]

im 5'6 and a bit so considered quite tall.......but 5'10 wow....i feel ur troubles man. To me it seems the taller the guy, the shorter the girl they want. If I was in your situation I'd seriously consider marrying revert just for their height.....being with a shorter man should be illegal.

[ireallywannaknow]

 Inception, on 03 April 2012 - 04:21 PM, said:

hehe yeah nice that u have such a lovely and kind personality..

Yes, I didn't dare to say it out loud, but I don't think 5.1 is tall at all Honestly its a CUTE length

my eldest cousin is around 155 cm and we all find her very cute and always young looking

we still give her hard time for being a shorty lol

I think you're a little confused. The OP is 5 feet 10 inches not 5 feet 1 inch. Big difference

Edited by tazaabha, 03 April 2012 - 05:16 PM.

[Inception]

 tazaabha, on 03 April 2012 - 05:15 PM, said:

I think you're a little confused. The OP is 5 feet 10 inches not 5 feet 1 inch. Big difference

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhh hahahaha Now, I get it...you just made me realize it...

I thought I converted 5.10 and it showed 155cm...so I was like...this girl, is she kidding???

I never checked the no. in feet...LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Epic FacePalm...

Sorry Ya-zeinab

I think I will take my lousy comments and go to a universal topic that doesnt need conversion

sorryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy












and I will remove my posts loooooooooooooooooooool, girl

 ya_zeinab, on 03 April 2012 - 02:02 PM, said:

Don't worry about it Inception, you didn't offend me... in fact the only thing I retained from your message was that you think 5'5" is tall at all after I said I was 5'10" lol! Trust me girl that's not tall .

Now I get you hehehehe lol lol lol lol

Edited by Inception, 03 April 2012 - 05:49 PM.