May Allah grant us all the tawfeeq of doing everything
purely for His sake. I am happy to hear about sisters wanting to guard their modesty and wear abayahs. Where I am, we take wearing an abayah for granted. It's standard practise for anyone who is baligh. However, how properly it is worn, or whether it is worn for the purpose of hijab is an entirely different matter.
About worrying what effect it will have on your career, society etc... I think it must go back to the question of WHY we choose to adopt a certain lifestyle, and how ready we are for the consequences of it. Let's say we are worried about getting a job while in abayah - isn't our rizq already guaranteed? Why should we then waste an opportunity of safeguarding that which is not yet guaranteed (our faith, modesty and chastity) at the expense of something we are guaranteed to get (our rizq)? Also, we must remember that it is impossible to please all the people all the time. So it's better to please the One whose standards never change, and whose path is already clear for us. For society, their standards always change. Just look at what tennis players wore in the 20's and 30's
I am not able to post what they wear today. It is simply shameful and disgusting. Who knows what society will deem "acceptable" in the next 10 years, perhaps people won't need to wear anything to play sports "properly" naudhbillah. The standard of modesty never changes. Use that as your measure, not society or democracy. These two are far from being a stable or reasonable measure, sadly.
Parents and their objections - I agree with Naz that wearing a form of hijab should not be done at the expense of your parent's blessings, EXCEPT if they are forbidding you from dressing modestly at all. E.g if they do not allow you to wear an abayah but allow you to dress in baggy, loose clothing, cover all the required areas, observe social hijab, then why anger them, or belittle their wisdom in not wanting you to wear a certain form of abayah? Appeal to their logic and wisdom slowly, through your good conduct, and insha'Allah they will come round to your way of thinking sooner or later. Being rebellious to them in order to observe hijab could put them off the hijab, and reinforce the idea that people who wish to observe hijab in a certain way are simply extreme.
Reactions from non-Muslims: It would be good if every sister equipped herself with bibilical verses on modest wear so that you are able to answer the misconception that hijab, in the sense of cover all attire and a modest demeanor is an oppressed arab woman thing. for example:
The bibilical standard is:
For if a wife will not cover her head, then she should cut her hair short. But since it is disgraceful for a wife to cut off her hair or shave her head, let her cover her head. 1 Corinthians 11:6
Also, why should a Muslim woman be made to feel like the person in "that big black thing" while if a nun wears something similar, she is an inspiration, an epitome of modesty? Know your facts, and have them at your finger tips for when you need them.
Why should this be seen as modest:
And this as terror fit inducing:
that was too long a post. I wanted to mention social hijab, but alhamdulillah, I am sure you are all already aware of it and practising it
May Allah perfect our imaan and taqwa.
Edited by habib e najjaar, 26 March 2012 - 02:22 PM.