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[AidAsSadik]

For me is not important physical beuty,but beauty of soul.Of course i mentioned beuty girls,but if they have bad Akhlak,and they dont have inside beuty,i'l back up.If some girl was not so beauty in physical way,but it's good person,i will love to hang out with her in limits of Shariah.Because every human need wife with wich he wants,establish a family,rise up childern,and geting old with her.Outside beuty will pas away,but inside beuty will stay,and long therm watchig,inside beuty is more imoprtant in my opinion.Salam

[Muhammad47]

Beauty is important. But I think I care more about natural beauty and not the make up beauty. It's something important, but it depends on how you look to things in life. Depends on your interests in life. Some can fully focus on inner beauty and religion, while others need to have that attraction to a beautiful Muslima (I.E. body, face, etc.). I think the guy should observe his way of looking to things in life and don't ignore it, because if you like beauty and you think that you must look for her Imaan only, then it could become dangerous for yourself and maybe after a while you will look to other women. Which is not a good idea I think

If I look at myself then I would like to find the balance insha Allah. So, beauty and Imaan. Maybe sounds like the perfect woman, but that's not true, because for me she doesn't have to be a supermodel. She must have 'that beauty' (nice way of looking/smiling) and also someone with some brains.

But again beauty is not for everybody the same. Beauty can also be her way of looking, etc. I think it is a combination of looks/smile and inner beauty. Also there is 'shallow beauty' (I.E. her physical form).

Finally in marriage you will develop the attraction towards inner beauty. So make sure you look for the balance

About the woman that was beautiful 100 years ago.... I think that's something you develop in all those years living together. As they say; beauty is temporary. Yes that's true, but you can look for it when you are 'young' and then you both grow in your marriage and when the couple gets older, the body gets older. BUT then, if you did it right, in all those years you turned the attraction towards inner beauty and the 'used to' beauty (used to all aspects of your spouse).

[Alejandro Sosa]

I could not imagine myself marrying somebody unattractive, or a lot less attractive than me. I know that we should Islamically go for akhlaq and deen first and foremost, but for me, looks and attraction are very important, alongside the other two.

[Ismahan007]

Alejandro Sosa, on 13 May 2012 - 10:02 AM, said:

I could not imagine myself marrying somebody unattractive, or a lot less attractive than me. I know that we should Islamically go for akhlaq and deen first and foremost, but for me, looks and attraction are very important, alongside the other two.

somebody who may not be ''attractive'' to you, can be the most attractive to some body else lol... that's where the problem lies. everybody has different definition for what they think is beautiful. but bottom line, one should not marry someone they find unattractive to them even tho the religion side maybe perfect... this is also what the prophet advice us to do, he AS said to marry someone we r pleased when we see and vise versa...

Edited by Ismahan007, 13 May 2012 - 10:25 AM.

[Thurston]

We dont care about trivial things like beauty. We care about more important things like if she is any good at playstation and xbox.

[Muhammad47]

Thurston, on 13 May 2012 - 11:41 AM, said:

We dont care about trivial things like beauty. We care about more important things like if she is any good at playstation and xbox.

lol! and of course if the remote control works on her. Cook! Clean!

[Aqua]

Thurston, on 13 May 2012 - 11:41 AM, said:

We dont care about trivial things like beauty. We care about more important things like if she is any good at playstation and xbox.

LOL well that's great because I'm good at both plus Nintendo!

[Goku]

Aqua, on 13 May 2012 - 02:44 PM, said:

LOL well that's great because I'm good at both plus Nintendo!

your set then, go get married! lol

[gogiison2]

WA wr wb,

Beauty is all relative. A thin woman with good hygiene will likely pass as attractive to any man (barring a few exceptions). I say this because pretty much all of you are capable of this.

Edited by gogiison2, 13 May 2012 - 03:32 PM.

[Thurston]

Aqua, on 13 May 2012 - 02:44 PM, said:

LOL well that's great because I'm good at both plus Nintendo!

Brilliant. Thats your dowry sorted.

[gogiison2]

Shoot...if I'm a Ferrari, I can't be courting a Geo Metro. lol

that's a joke, you still have hope. i lower the bar every eid.

that was another joke.

[Aqua]

OMG looooooool

[AR2011]

i do a lot of people watching and i have observed that western men oggle at almost any woman with a slim physique, nice features (i dont think i need to be explicit here) and who is dressed in revealing clothes. even if her face isnt so attractive.

[Muhammad47]

AR2011, on 13 May 2012 - 04:28 PM, said:

i do a lot of people watching and i have observed that western men oggle at almost any woman with a slim physique, nice features (i dont think i need to be explicit here) and who is dressed in revealing clothes. even if her face isnt so attractive.

Well inspector gadget that's the shallow beauty. And also to show others that he has a 'nice' woman.

[AR2011]

^ i think this is the carnal level of attraction and as a result i think it is present in every man...to largely disregard the facial beauty and concentrate on the physique. the faithful man may suppress this carnality.

[Muhammad47]

yes you are right, but for some it has more value than for others.

[gogiison2]

AR2011, on 13 May 2012 - 04:39 PM, said:

^ i think this is the carnal level of attraction and as a result i think it is present in every man...to largely disregard the facial beauty and concentrate on the physique. the faithful man may suppress this carnality.

Facial beauty (without makeup) is good. Many people nowadays mistake a made-over face for actual beauty, because once that makeup is removed...lol

I mentioned hygiene because it shows that a woman takes care of herself. A real man needs a real woman.

[Aly ReZa]

nice thread

for me yes beauty plays a signifacant role for choosing the spouse, if you will be not attracted to her offco you will not have a better relationship and understanding
but the beauty should be natural not the comsetics one.

if the look doesnt matter i am sure many niggas would  get the foriegners
and the indo pak pepl would happily marry africans

[Darth Vader]

Aqua, on 17 March 2012 - 12:02 AM, said:

A lot of people tell me that the first thing the opposite gender notices about you is your looks. I know looks are a really important factor when choosing the person you want to spend your life with. I wouldn't marry anyone I wasn't initially attracted to. I've heard that men in particular tend to put a lot of focus on how a woman looks when they choose a spouse. I don't know how true this is in application to each individual man, it's just what I've heard. I do know that my brother VERY much cares about looks as well as other young guys I know.

So, my question for you brothers is how much does beauty matter to you in regards to when you are looking for a wife? Is it a huge factor for you? Do older men care about the level of beauty as much as younger men? Do your tastes change as you get older?

Answer away, I'm not going to judge anyone for their preferences so be totally honest. Just please remember to be respectful.

There are many kinds of beauty. Physical beauty or attractiveness, facial or "looks", beauty of character and faith, beauty of an individual's nature. When searching for a life partner all these beauties matter to the more intelligent individual. If someone lacks physical beauty they may have a extraordinarily beautiful nature or level of faith. I've never met a person who has all mentioned qualities in abundance.

Physical beauty does have its merits especially to younger people who are mostly thinking with the help of their hormones because these hormones are in greatest abundance at the on-set of youth. Even later in life it may be imperative to some. But imho physical attractiveness sometimes may have a cost in the form of social problems especially if the level of faith and character / integrity of the person is not good enough.

In any case, remember: birds of a feather will always flock together. Its something like when the Qur'an says that there are vile men for vile women and pious men for pious women. So the guys are not all alike. If some seek one quality and prioritize it above all else then some others will prioritize some other quality.

IMHO the beauty of the soul is what matters the most. If you partner is loving, caring and feeds and grows on love, and answers love with love, and then your relationship strengthens and evolves as a result of that, then you are among the luckiest people on earth because then you have something, love, that is extinct among human beings. You get understanding, support, sacrifice, and an easy and pleasant journey with a partner who is able to love and knows its value.

This is all mere speculation though. In practice, people usually end up in trouble when they have high and wrong expectations. So good luck. ^^

[AlAbd AlThaleel]

To be honest, beauty is always a factor, at least to some degree. For me personally, I much prefer a pious, mu'mina girl who has moderate looks, to a beautiful, physically attractive girl who doesn't know the first thing about her religion. There should still be some physical attraction, but at the end of the day the piety and faith of the girl is much more important.

(Plus pious girls often have noor coming from their faces, so that is sufficient )

[shiaaliibrahim]

Looks are very important.  I have to be very attracted to her to marry her, but if her character is weak and a less attractive woman is the only option available I would marry them both.  

[Hasan0404]

the only lasting beauty is the beauty of heart, dont know who said that but.....

[fightingsoul001]

Beauty matters for first few days but once you become a little close apparent beauty fades away. Apparent beauty is replaced by an other beauty.

People who are not beautiful from the inside despite have most beautiful face look so ugly.

This is my observation.

So apparent beauty does not matter to me that much. Because apparent beauty is for those people who don't know that person. But to those who are close it does not matter much because he always see inner beauty.

At least this is true for me.