Men Only!: Controlling Sexual Desires?
Posted 18 June 2012 - 08:36 AM
Now, surely, sincere obedience is due to Allah (alone) and (as for) those who take guardians besides Him, (saying), We do not serve them save that they may make us nearer to Allah, surely Allah will judge between them in that in which they differ; surely Allah does not guide him aright who is a liar, ungrateful. [Qur'an 39:3, Shakir translation]
Posted 18 June 2012 - 08:46 AM
when you accomplish this there is many superb benefits that you will receive
your memory will become immaculate
your understanding and wit will become sharpened
and your vision will become so good that you will be able to spot things which others cannot, which in turn will result in a superb hand and eye for art
a calculative mind for arithmetic
and a superb sense for reading behaviour of others
there are many benefits if you achieve this mark of forty days
try it and you will be amazed at the results, and i didnt even mention the spiritual benefits you atain, because they are according to your other qualities
some people achieve dream interpretation, others might get their future revealed to them each night when they sleep and so many other benefits both spiritual and material
however you will get tested by God with other perspectives which doesnt mater right now
just one one more thing
just because you might achieve to eliminate this(if you achieve it) doesnt mean that hardship will go away, in fact hardship will come even harder at you, and sometimes you might even wish to be tested with the easier hardship(your currently facing) as opposed to what might come if you conquer this first few steps of the self
so dont think that in conquering yourself that life gets easier, rather it gets harder(unless your limit stop there at that point of the self)
Imam Ali Naqi dua after fajr prayer
Posted 18 June 2012 - 11:18 AM
Speaking from experience of living in a Western, overly-exposed and sexual society, and not being in a postion to get married, here's the advice I can give:
First and foremost, make dua, sincere dua daily (multiple times a day if possible) that Allah (swt) keeps you safe from this sin. Make sure you ask Him to keep your believing brothers safe as well, as I notice when I make dua for others and then myself, they are more likely to be answered, and I believe there are ahadith on this as well.
Secondly, do your best to look away. The moment you see something haram, look away as soon as possible. Try not to register what you just saw as a thought, and completely ignore it. Over time, it will be much easier to look away and ignore these things, but it will be difficult at first.
Thirdly, fast as much as possible. Especially in these holy days of Rajab and Sha'baan where fasting has quite a bit of reward to it, fast as often as you can, at least once or twice a week. (I suggest Mondays and Thursdays, but see what works for you.)
Lastly,do what you can to get married, as these are all temporary solutions. If you cannot get permanently married, perform temporary marraige, there are even websites where you can meet people to do this. If your intentions are pure, and you want to fulfill this desire as a means of staying away from sin, surely Allah (swt) will help you.
Fi aman Allah, and you're in my duas inshaAllah.
Also, always remember, Allah (swt) would not try one with a problem He does not believe the person can handle. So if Allah (swt) believes you can beat this, why don't you?
Edited by AlAbd AlThaleel, 18 June 2012 - 11:19 AM.
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Posted 16 November 2012 - 10:27 PM
Moreover i convince myself that the more i try keeping away from haram sexual activities Allah will reward me with "awesome" sexual life with my wife in future ..
Remember that its your brain , you control your desires and not the other way round .. Have faith in Allah and on his reward .
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