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[LadyNadine]

Tell me why do you think so hard to get married or find someone you want to get married to?

[Haydar Husayn]

Because there just aren't that many people really worth marrying around, let alone ones that are free, the right age, in the right part of the world, etc.

[Marbles]

Our long, never-ending check lists have made it hard for us to get married in this day and age.

Previously, with our ancestors, marriage was so simple and easy. Most couples would see each other for the first time on their wedding nights. And they went on to have great marriages with lots of kids

Anyone here wiling to have a "blind" marriage? I don't think so!

[Crimson]

Because of our society and culture to be honest. Males are females are always separated from each other in Muslim countries so you hardly ever get the chance to meet a girl. When you do meet someone you simply can't go up to them, well you can but it might turn out very bad. For example, if a guy went up to a woman he will either get a bullet in his head by the dad or the female will look at him like "You.. pfft".
And like someone said, in today's age, people have different priorities than marriage and other factors effect the fact if you can get married or not.

[lover of Mola]

because its da life time relationship and all for the good ,happy and peaceful life you need a good partner ,and choosing him and finding him without knowing him is taking risk
so tats y it is really hard

m tried of my search

[thenamelessone]

Our long, never-ending check lists have made it hard for us to get married in this day and age.

Previously, with our ancestors, marriage was so simple and easy. Most couples would see each other for the first time on their wedding nights. And they went on to have great marriages with lots of kids

Anyone here wiling to have a "blind" marriage? I don't think so!

I agree with you, men spend long spans of time or go into debt just to afford a marriage ceremony, 25,000 + just to get married these days not including mahr. I think its time to consider that our families can arrange good quality marriages in our best interest and we need to stop being desirous of so much wealth and extravagance.

Ma'a Salaama

[Smarter Planet]

because its da life time relationship and all for the good ,happy and peaceful life you need a good partner ,and choosing him and finding him without knowing him is taking risk
so tats y it is really hard

m tried of my search

You didn't google well.

[lover of Mola]

You didn't google well.

wish Google can give a good husband

[LadyNadine]

lol well I think we set our list too high or once it is reach some people find any flaw to make it not work out in some ways.

[Al-Hadi]

for females..there just isnt enough mushu's around

[Smarter Planet]

lol well I think we set our list too high or once it is reach some people find any flaw to make it not work out in some ways.

Like a shopping list that wont fit for ones budget during the "Check-out time" : You can say ^

wish Google can give a good husband

Do Amaal-e-Dua-e-Google Hope you will find him Soon

Edited by Smarter Planet, 10 February 2012 - 04:46 PM.

[lalala123]

Well, I don't know about the rest of you, but I just don't seem to be able to find a man worthy of me...

But seriously, there is a chronic shortage of good matches out there and people seem to have weird definitions of 'good match'.

I was watching a programme yesterday about muslims trying to find a spouse in britain. It was following one woman, in her early 30's, a doctor by profession, British Pakistani woman who refused to even consider non-doctors. I mean if that isn't ridiculous, then I don't know what is.

[Smarter Planet]

Well, I don't know about the rest of you, but I just don't seem to be able to find a man worthy of me...

But seriously, there is a chronic shortage of good matches out there and people seem to have weird definitions of 'good match'.

I was watching a programme yesterday about muslims trying to find a spouse in britain. It was following one woman, in her early 30's, a doctor by profession, British Pakistani woman who refused to even consider non-doctors. I mean if that isn't ridiculous, then I don't know what is.

She need a male patient who can be her husband

[lover of Mola]

Do Amaal-e-Dua-e-Google Hope you will find him Soon

[lalala123]

She need a male patient who can be her husband

Yeh. Problem is, I don't think she was a psychiatrist, so I doubt she could find anybody crazy enough to want to marry her.

[BillyJo]

I think we all start with haram ways which leads to nothing because what was built on haram won't last

Although I found the right person alhamdella

[lalala123]

^^ I can't help laughing every time I see your avatar and signature...

[OneNoteSong]

Because ppl have stupid conditions, like that their spouse be sayyid.

[BillyJo]

^^ I can't help laughing every time I see your avatar and signature...

Lol thank you my hard work thinking of a good signature has paid off

[lalala123]

Because ppl have stupid conditions, like that their spouse be sayyid.

or non-sayyid...

[hkmohamad]

I dont find marrige that hard , i could get married right now actually , but i wont because i know i wouldnt be able to support my wife and i hate taking money from someone makes me feel like i owe them my life or something :PP

Am sorry to say this i am a sayyid and i belive its wrong ! but who ever says i wont marry except if its a sayyid you are not going to find anyone i guess because if you are so narrow minded and the only thing that you want is a sayyid then i think Allah wouldnt give you that.

You must be willing to search and experience different girl to be able to marry the right one.

Guys also if you think money is an issue , i was listne to Sayyid Falli speaking during ramadan he said that

Prophet Mohmmed married the Greatest woman ( May God Forgive me if my information is wrong and the muhr was only 100 $!!!! so i dont think we are any better

[LadyNadine]

I dont find marrige that hard , i could get married right now actually , but i wont because i know i wouldnt be able to support my wife and i hate taking money from someone makes me feel like i owe them my life or something :PP

Am sorry to say this i am a sayyid and i belive its wrong ! but who ever says i wont marry except if its a sayyid you are not going to find anyone i guess because if you are so narrow minded and the only thing that you want is a sayyid then i think Allah wouldnt give you that.

You must be willing to search and experience different girl to be able to marry the right one.

Guys also if you think money is an issue , i was listne to Sayyid Falli speaking during ramadan he said that

Prophet Mohmmed married the Greatest woman ( May God Forgive me if my information is wrong and the muhr was only 100 $!!!! so i dont think we are any better

well money comes in to make marrying hard. Now days, if u don't have money, forget about it. You won't marry that girl.

[hkmohamad]

well money comes in to make marrying hard. Now days, if u don't have money, forget about it. You won't marry that girl.

I understand but did you know that our Prophet married the greatest woman that had all the most money in the world for just 100 $ ? if you really did want to get marry and fulfill the other half for muslims money wouldnt be the issue because you have your faith in Allah.

a Story that Sayyid Falli said :

A woman once came into the mosque where Our prophet was sitting with a few guys , and she told him i want to get married and the Prophet ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì instead of shouting at her or telling her what is this disgrace ask her for what her name is , and then he asked the fellows sitting with him who would want to take this girl for marrige one guy said i would and the Prophet said what do you own ? He answered him back with nothing , but he said i know Sura al bakara , so the Prophet said the muhr would be teaching her sura al bakara and now i pronounce you husband and wife - SALO 3ALA MUHAMMAD WA ALY MUHAMAD

This is how i remeber the story ( Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or missing in the story )

[LadyNadine]

I understand but did you know that our Prophet married the greatest woman that had all the most money in the world for just 100 $ ? if you really did want to get marry and fulfill the other half for muslims money wouldnt be the issue because you have your faith in Allah.

a Story that Sayyid Falli said :

A woman once came into the mosque where Our prophet was sitting with a few guys , and she told him i want to get married and the Prophet ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì instead of shouting at her or telling her what is this disgrace ask her for what her name is , and then he asked the fellows sitting with him who would want to take this girl for marrige one guy said i would and the Prophet said what do you own ? He answered him back with nothing , but he said i know Sura al bakara , so the Prophet said the muhr would be teaching her sura al bakara and now i pronounce you husband and wife - SALO 3ALA MUHAMMAD WA ALY MUHAMAD

This is how i remeber the story ( Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or missing in the story )

it is a nice story. Those times, no one was materialistic. Everyone has money on the mind. If you don't own anything or have any income, the family will not accept the marriage. Even for the guy, he will not have the most pleasant life with her. Because to girls, money bring security.

For myself. I do not care if he is rich, just as long as he can stand on his two feet.