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[Walkin' Fashion Statement]

Awww
Inshallah all of you out there get married

[Queen Yoda]

Abu Hadi, on 22 January 2012 - 07:10 PM, said:

Attend as many majalis, conferences, Shia events as possible. I find these are the best places to look for a wife. Allah(s.w.a) is blessing the gathering because His(s.w.a) name is being remembered and also you will find the quality of sisters at these events higher than at some random place. The internet is not bad as long as you are careful, meet the family, do some background investigation before marrying. There are alot of single sisters on ShiaChat. As long as you are respectful and don't harass them (one pm that is not responded to doesn't need a follow up). I can't openly encourage that but nudge, nudge, wink, wink, its one of many options, but seriously there are better ones.

Ah, you sound like a bit of a romantic

[Sapphire]

W F S, on 17 July 2012 - 06:20 PM, said:

Awww
Inshallah all of you out there get married

[ali1988]

bump

[kim.tinkerbell]

Loool about sunnis find it easier to find someone.....

Reminds me of a sunni lecture I attended once, the guy was rapping about marriage, how he want to egypt and got rejected......
He was a convert, poor thing needed to get married.

I wonder if he did get married after that funny rap.

[Mutah_King]

Yeah I recommend trying shiachat pm services.

Do come to the chatroom so I can recite the nikkah in front of a humble e audience.

[Propaganda_of_the_Deed]

The generic answer people give is "go to your local mosque" - like has that ever worked? You can't exactly chat to the sisters anyway, and even if they wanted to chat with you, they gota put on a coy and shy act to uphold their rep etc so no chance of that happening....can't exactly asking the imam to hook manz up would work either.

Yeah stick with ShiaChat, it's brimming with singletons. Married folk aint got time for forums, at least one would think so.

[smak786110]

I guess we all are tired and depressed in finding a right spouse !
am 25, and still on prowl ..... (LOL)

Believe me, I had a terrible and the most heart breaking experience with an online shia matrimonial website !
(well, am not discouraging, sometimes its just ones bad luck...)

I was thinking of what can we as youths can do to crub such a problem in our community and shia/muslim world at a large !
Am sure, there are countries where there are females who cant come out and find a good spouse....
and there are males,who are studying or working in a secluded area and cant find someone suitable !

We need to come up with an idea, a logical idea... which can help our young generations !

My idea of creating a WEBSITE of Matrimonial, but it should be somehow different...
Because a matrimonial website, is something like a "last resort" or a "taboo" for many young girls and even some males !

We need to make a website, which is a unique and in itself, shouldnt sound like a dating and match making website !

[ali1988]

smak786110, on 13 December 2012 - 05:48 AM, said:

I guess we all are tired and depressed in finding a right spouse !
am 25, and still on prowl ..... (LOL)

Believe me, I had a terrible and the most heart breaking experience with an online shia matrimonial website !
(well, am not discouraging, sometimes its just ones bad luck...)

I was thinking of what can we as youths can do to crub such a problem in our community and shia/muslim world at a large !
Am sure, there are countries where there are females who cant come out and find a good spouse....
and there are males,who are studying or working in a secluded area and cant find someone suitable !

We need to come up with an idea, a logical idea... which can help our young generations !

My idea of creating a WEBSITE of Matrimonial, but it should be somehow different...
Because a matrimonial website, is something like a "last resort" or a "taboo" for many young girls and even some males !

We need to make a website, which is a unique and in itself, shouldnt sound like a dating and match making website !

i think it wouldnt be a bad idea to have a sub forum on here where the single  brothers and sisters post a few things about themselves and then if someone is interest could PM them , i think your right with the matrimonial websites they seem to come off as  last resort/desperate

[Waiting for HIM]

I know below post is silly to the nth degree but would cheer up all single shia chatters! Just received it from my family's wannabe teenager poets, I don't know how they stooped to this from planning to start writing nohas.

Poem Written By
Husband And Wife..! (This is the best & most civil way to have a fight between husband & wife instead of resorting to physical force...!

WIFE:
I wrote your name on sand, it got washed.
I wrote your name in air, it was blown away.
Then I wrote your name on my heart & I got Heart Attack!
HUSBAND:
God saw me hungry, he created pizza.
He saw me thirsty, he created Pepsi.
He saw me in the dark, he created light.
He saw me without problems, he created YOU!

WIFE:
Twinkle twinkle little star
You should know what you are
And once you know what you are Mental hospital is not so far!
HUSBAND:
The rain makes all things beautiful.
The grass and flowers too.
If rain makes all things beautiful
Why doesn't it rain on you?!

WIFE:
Roses are red; Violets are blue
Monkeys like u should be kept in the zoo!
Don't feel so angry you will find me there too
Not in cage but outside, laughing at you!!

HUSBAND:
I think I need someone else besides you
A muta wife, a concubine, anybody will do
As long as it is not you

WiFE:
From now on, no more lunch for you!!!!!!!!

I know it's very lame...

Edited by Waiting for HIM, 16 December 2012 - 11:17 AM.

[pyaro]

Salaam Alaykum,
I am 24 and still not successful in finding somebody. As Ali1988 said it may not be so bad of an idea to have a sub forum where we introduce oursevles.
Will help a lot I feel.

Edited by pyaro, 16 December 2012 - 03:01 PM.

[Shia_Debater]

Although I am a brother, I was given this advice by a sister in regards to someone I know wanting to get married, the advice was for the brother to get more involved in the Community, in the Ahlul Bayt Societies (if you can) - I think the reason was because you will then be more known in the community, and therefore it would be more likely, also you would know more sisters and it would make it easier in that way too.

Another thing you could do is perhaps ask any friends that you have who have sister(s) or who are married, because they could ask around and see if they know anyone who is looking to get married.

[Hot hot]

Visit in iran phew

[Quranist]

Aabiss_Shakari, on 21 January 2012 - 09:44 PM, said:

Recite two Rak'at prayer with the niyah of Namaz e Hajat and pray to Allah for a good spouse. This is what is taught by Mola Ali a.s. You will be blessed with a good wife within six months Inshallah. (Experience is a good teacher ).

It has two benefits.

1. Your search will end soon that it is Allah only who decides and His decision is always best. It may happen that you do not like some one or some one do not like you but Allah will make best match of you.

2. As your spouse will be the gift of Allah after your prayer therefore, your spouse will be loyal and loving because Allah does not give defective gifts

your posts are always meaningful...

[Quaint]

Propaganda_of_the_Deed, on 12 December 2012 - 07:47 PM, said:

The generic answer people give is "go to your local mosque" - like has that ever worked? You can't exactly chat to the sisters anyway, and even if they wanted to chat with you, they gota put on a coy and shy act to uphold their rep etc so no chance of that happening....can't exactly asking the imam to hook manz up would work either.

I know what you mean.  Imagine walking up to a girl in the midst of all the other ladies and going "Salaam, can I talk to you for a sec?"  I'm pretty sure you'd be obliged (by law) to inform people in that area that you moved in if you ever moved some place new after that.

And how exactly would the sheikh help?  How would he know about the single girls in the community?  Your best bet would be to contact the old match-making aunties that I'm pretty sure all communities have.  They've got entire rosters of girls just waiting to be picked.

Edited by Quaint, 22 December 2012 - 03:04 PM.

[yukapuka]

what comes easy goes easy, if u get a wife just like that, based on the sole need of a wife, well i think its not so promising future, make the wife fidn you, do something thats monumental so that people are attracted to you