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kim.tinkerbell, on 24 January 2012 - 02:40 PM, said:
No one wants to live alone, so you dont need to say stuff that havnt been said but thats what majority of muslim do including you say stuff that no one said and this is the second time you do this. So I take it its part of islam to twist and add words? Or culture?
We are born to be with eacherother but when we are physical and mentaily ready ,then we should enter a relationship. If your not ready and you enter it then you feel trapped. They can hold you back, say you wanted to go out to do something vitul but he says no and you walk out, then you have hurt him and god will not be happy with you and you would feel gulity but you felt the need to go. Then you have the contract that you have agreed to go by yet you cant or arint ready to do one of the things.
The person might not want you to do certain things that you been doing for years, then if your not ready to change some things its best if you dont enter it , you will hurt him and yourself...
Its a fear within us , some one else is with you and the action you do can affect them. Yor very narrow minded , so you wouldnt get what others mean.
You shouldnt really talk about acting or thinking like muslim because no one is perfect and no one is in a position to speak or shame others, look at your self 1st then tell others.
Theres no point explaining to you because your still in a box and you think that all people are influnced by culture and you eliment perference. When khadja ra ask for the had of the propht(pbup) was that culture or peference ? This idea is used more in the west does that mean she had a west mentality?
Seriously some of you need to stop with throwing all the ways people think on culture and move out of the cave your in, look at the bigger picture....
Majority of muslims fail to do this...........
I wasnt adding or taking anything out of context. I was merely trying to understand what getting married would hold you back from. Also, sister, we're on an Islamic site. I don't see the need to repeatedly attack me like that.
Of course we're supposed yo get married when we are both physically and mentally ready and I didnt say anything that opposes this idea.
It's all about when and to whom you get married to. I didn't say that you had to get married at a young age to some guy that you don't know.
When someone chooses to get married, they should know who they're getting married to.
It doesn't matter WHEN you get married, there will always be something that one of the spouses will disagree on. For example, a woman wants to go on a cruise and her husband is against the idea. He's insistent on it. So does that mean she should walk out?? Just leave him because he wouldn't let her do this right? Everyone is going to have to learn how to sacrifice sooner or later and it would be very absurd for a person to hold back on marriage because he/she is too selfish.
As I already said, one should be careful in choosing his/her spouse.
I apologize if you felt as if I was shaming others. I try my best everyday be the best Muslim I can be. No one is perfect but if everyone would try everyday I think we'd be a lot better off as a Muslim ummah. My comment was very vague and general. You're taking them personally.
People are strongly influenced by culture. I see it everyday.
And actually, here in America is it very traditional for a man to get down on his knee and propose.
This is a perfect example of culture influencing people to the point that they forget that it isn't haram! If a woman were to propose to a man nowadays, the woman would be frowned upon and even shamed! Akin to a woman who has commited a sin. Why is that kim? Khadijah,
one of the most chaste women in the world, proposed to the prophet, surely she didn't commit a sin...Honestly, to me, anyone who has to forget Islam to make way for culture is the one in the cave.
was amazing and out standing , she truly showed signs of independent woman thats stronge and outstanding. She a role model.....
