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[Abu Lulu]

im stuck on this island called Holland. who the hell am i supposed to marry eh? there are no shia within hundreds of miles. so come find me, i'll be waiting... cuz sure as hell i wont be looking!

(i think im destined for a bakri -girl)

Edited by Al-Muntadhar, 26 January 2012 - 03:36 PM.

[Ismahan007]

Salaam786, on 18 January 2012 - 12:54 PM, said:

Anyway now you all have to pray that I find someone like that

Inshallah you'll find sister, everything is beautiful on its own time, don't rush take ur time and make sure you're  choosing the right person for the right reasons inshallah.

Salaam786, on 18 January 2012 - 12:54 PM, said:

What would your perfect man/woman be?

Color isn't an issue for me tbh, He has to have great personality and good looking.
Must have more Islamic knowledge than me ofcourse and better emaan and taqwaa inshallah.

[Marbles]

haidernyc, on 26 January 2012 - 02:53 PM, said:

if only all men around the world had such a mindset. some men are like "you stay home. no work, just clean and cook." -__-

Aww that's so medieval innit?

[Gotham]

Marbles, on 26 January 2012 - 11:11 PM, said:

Aww that's so medieval innit?

YES. most of us arent in some kind of village where theres nothing for a woman to do except make naan all day.
those poor women. no life

[Çåá ÇáÈíÊ]

The Perfect Man is the guy who expects nothing from you except your affection.

And in return, he displays even more affection and gives without you asking.

Edited by Çåá ÇáÈíÊ, 27 January 2012 - 06:23 PM.

[OneNoteSong]

Has a pulse and wants to marry me.

[lalala123]

OneNoteSong, on 27 January 2012 - 11:26 PM, said:

Has a pulse and wants to marry me.

Don't worry.  I'm sure he is out there.  Just stay positive, insha'Allah and i'm sure Allah will reward you with a bit more than just a pulse that wants to marry you.

[AlphaMale_ASAD]

Honestly the this man your looking for is not worth it. Any man who is a carbon copy of hakim will just right. Thank you. Lol

[Christianlady]

Salaam786, on 18 January 2012 - 12:54 PM, said:

The perfect man in my opinion would: live his life in the way of the Ahlulbayt
have a proper beard
know urdu and farsi
be good with kids
recite majalis or nauhas regularly
have had some sort of Islamic Education (maybe in iran)

Anyway now you all have to pray that I find someone like that
What would your perfect man/woman be?

Hello Salaam786,

Cool thread!

I agree with you about the perfect man being good with kids! That's very important to me too.

For me, the perfect man (for me) is my husband!!!

He loves God more than he loves me.
He is funny and likes to see me laugh and smile.
He is kind and does sweet things for other people and me.
He is loving and his family and friends can depend on him for help no matter what.
He is strong and can left tons of weights! (well I don't know how much, but he can lift a lot! He likes working out.)
He is competitve and never lets me win sigh, but I like that. I don't like it when people let me win. I adore challenges.
He is caring and if I am sad, he tries to comfort me.
He is a good driver and a very hard worker, and he is a wonderful provider!
He likes to read the Bible with me and pray together.
He likes to hang out with family and friends together, and go to church and places together.
He doesn't complain when I am moody or senstive or emotional. He just jokes about it.
He likes kids and I think will be a great father someday if God wills!
He is good with finances and with money. I hate both finances and money yuck!
He is responsible, on time, and a man of his word.
He is very handsome and unique in his appearance.
He doesn't scare me, hurt me, or abuse me in any way.
He is not afraid to speak up if someone is doing wrong.
He is a gentleman and treats women with respect and kindness.
He does't curse or use crude language.
He doesn't look at other women.
He is trustworthy and faithful.
His first language is Spanish (I love Spanish!)
He is affectionate and gentle and playful and fun to be with!

He is the perfect man for me.

Peace and God bless you

Edited by Christianlady, 06 February 2012 - 09:25 PM.

[Anarchist]

Christianlady, on 06 February 2012 - 09:21 PM, said:

Hello Salaam786,

Cool thread!

I agree with you about the perfect man being good with kids! That's very important to me too.

For me, the perfect man (for me) is my husband!!!

He loves God more than he loves me.
He is funny and likes to see me laugh and smile.
He is kind and does sweet things for other people and me.
He is loving and his family and friends can depend on him for help no matter what.
He is strong and can left tons of weights! (well I don't know how much, but he can lift a lot! He likes working out.)
He is competitve and never lets me win sigh, but I like that. I don't like it when people let me win. I adore challenges.
He is caring and if I am sad, he tries to comfort me.
He is a good driver and a very hard worker, and he is a wonderful provider!
He likes to read the Bible with me and pray together.
He likes to hang out with family and friends together, and go to church and places together.
He doesn't complain when I am moody or senstive or emotional. He just jokes about it.
He likes kids and I think will be a great father someday if God wills!
He is good with finances and with money. I hate both finances and money yuck!
He is responsible, on time, and a man of his word.
He is very handsome and unique in his appearance.
He doesn't scare me, hurt me, or abuse me in any way.
He is not afraid to speak up if someone is doing wrong.
He is a gentleman and treats women with respect and kindness.
He does't curse or use crude language.
He doesn't look at other women.
He is trustworthy and faithful.
His first language is Spanish (I love Spanish!)
He is affectionate and gentle and playful and fun to be with!

He is the perfect man for me.

Peace and God bless you

This is how every husband should be.

[struggling_On]

I just prayed who is in need of perfect man/woman, may find " the way they wished asap" ................................

so now its u r turn to pray for me too   ............ especially in your night prayers.............

Edited by Strugling_On, 07 February 2012 - 11:34 AM.

[Christianlady]

Anarchist, on 07 February 2012 - 09:02 AM, said:

This is how every husband should be.

Hello Anarchist,

Except not every husband needs to speak Spanish. (though Spanish is such a beautiful, romantic language!)

I am glad people are praying for other people, that God gives them wonderful husbands! My Mom prayed for me a lot. I agree with Strugling on... may God bless women who are wanting to get married with wonderful husbands, and may God help men to be wonderful husbands and women to be wonderful wives!

Peace and God bless you

Edited by Christianlady, 07 February 2012 - 12:04 PM.

[lalala123]

He's so perfect...

[AlphaMale_ASAD]

lalala123, on 08 February 2012 - 02:25 PM, said:

He's so perfect...

Thanks

[zeds]

Wow tough question

But will try to put in a short answer that makes sense.

For me a Woman that knows and sticks to the basics, and strives to do better

As if they cant do the basic things there aint much hope the much else imo.

Some one always willing to learn more, to compromise and understand and see things for the bigger picture

To explain, and be resonable.
thats the gist of it.

[BaqiyatullahY]

Shi3at Ali, on 07 March 2012 - 10:23 AM, said:

p.s. i did find him, these men exist! alhamduliah

As my all family say: the perfect man/woman doesn't exist..
BTW i'm not agree with this,  but there are always something wrong with him/her: if she has a great aklaq and family, she is not firm in Islam, if she is a good muslim, her family is not good and their aklaq also.. always something wrong..

[Ya_Bab_ul_Hawaij]

Salam; inshaAllah pray that everyone is well.

Okay so have had a long read; sometimes inspired, sometimes disappointed :-/

So it's a shame that apparently the guys' threads on The Perfect Wife were apparently a bit dull and shallow but sisters, it's a bit unfair to generalise. Since you're asking:

The Perfect Wife: [in no particular order]
1. Supportive of her husband
2. Soul-mate; confidant; friend; intimate.
3. Hijab-practising [physical + social]
4. Understands Islam; knows her obligations, just as she expects he husband to know his.
5. Has conquered her feminine nafs, just as she expects here husband to have conquered his i.e. not wasting away in front of the television watching sports on a Saturday when he should be taking his kids to the park or helping his wife. The same way, a pious wife won't demand her husband to spend his earnings on buying her expensive clothes/lifestyle, when her husband would much rather give his money in charity.
6. Thirsty for knowledge of Islam, and doesn't mind her husband studying Islam even though he works hard in a busy profession. Would study alongside him, and would aid him in community-endeavours (preaching, madressas, leading the local mosque etc.)
7. Doesn't mind helping her husbands mother and family in basic household chores, because she knows it will bring her jannah (need I mention the hadith).
8. Will appreciate her husband's love, affection and worry for her, even though his life is so hectic that she can't imagine (studying, working, caring for parents, maintaining ties with relatives, going to the mosque, playing an active role in the community, political activism, preaching Islam, keeping up wajibaat etc. etc.).
9. Will not let the negative aspects of culture tear apart her family;
10. Will make herself look pretty and be beautiful when her husband is around, since this brings chemistry and fun to a relationship. Her husband would therefore take special care of his appearance/grooming when he was around her. Those who say that being beautiful isn't important seriously need to come down to reality; it definitely is.
11. Would like to go to Iran/pilgrimages/hajj all the time.
12. An important one: will bring up her husband's children as true soldiers of the Imam; for this, her husband would treat her like a Queen.

Just a few thoughts; us guys aren't all bimbos are we?

[Inception]

OneNoteSong, on 27 January 2012 - 11:26 PM, said:

Has a pulse and wants to marry me.

what if he doesn't have a pulse?? will u reject him ONLY because of that?! and you call yourself down to earth!! teasing ya

haidernyc, on 26 January 2012 - 03:00 PM, said:

sister, is this for real? or a candid camera thing?? I mean that the guy laughing to his voice like this???

[Inception]

cendrillon, on 23 January 2012 - 12:52 PM, said:

but you have to deserve the perfect man/woman..

sooooo true...

[lalala123]

The perfect man has gone awol.....

[Ya_Bab_ul_Hawaij]

Salaam786, on 18 January 2012 - 12:54 PM, said:

The perfect man in my opinion would: live his life in the way of the Ahlulbayt
have a proper beard
know urdu and farsi
be good with kids
recite majalis or nauhas regularly
have had some sort of Islamic Education (maybe in iran)

Anyway now you all have to pray that I find someone like that
What would your perfect man/woman be?

Okay so have had a long read; sometimes inspired, sometimes disappointed :-/

So it's a shame that apparently the guys' threads on The Perfect Wife were apparently a bit dull and shallow but sisters, it's a bit unfair to generalise. Since you're asking:

The Perfect Wife: [in no particular order]
1. Supportive of her husband
2. Soul-mate; confidant; friend; intimate.
3. Hijab-practising [physical + social]
4. Understands Islam; knows her obligations, just as she expects he husband to know his.
5. Has conquered her feminine nafs, just as she expects here husband to have conquered his i.e. not wasting away in front of the television watching sports on a Saturday when he should be taking his kids to the park or helping his wife. The same way, a pious wife won't demand her husband to spend his earnings on buying her expensive clothes/lifestyle, when her husband would much rather give his money in charity.
6. Thirsty for knowledge of Islam, and doesn't mind her husband studying Islam even though he works hard in a busy profession. Would study alongside him, and would aid him in community-endeavours (preaching, madressas, leading the local mosque etc.)
7. Doesn't mind helping her husbands mother and family in basic household chores, because she knows it will bring her jannah (need I mention the hadith).
8. Will appreciate her husband's love, affection and worry for her, even though his life is so hectic that she can't imagine (studying, working, caring for parents, maintaining ties with relatives, going to the mosque, playing an active role in the community, political activism, preaching Islam, keeping up wajibaat etc. etc.).
9. Will not let the negative aspects of culture tear apart her family;
10. Will make herself look pretty and be beautiful when her husband is around, since this brings chemistry and fun to a relationship. Her husband would therefore take special care of his appearance/grooming when he was around her. Those who say that being beautiful isn't important seriously need to come down to reality; it definitely is.
11. Would like to go to Iran/pilgrimages/hajj all the time.
12. An important one: will bring up her husband's children as true soldiers of the Imam; for this, her husband would treat her like a Queen.

Just a few thoughts; us guys aren't all bimbos are we?

[Inception]

ohhcuppycakee, on 21 March 2012 - 09:40 AM, said:

Hmm.

Practicing Muslim.
Financially stable.
Moderately attractive.

Like these points...

plus...

has a PS3 and xbox360



and would take me to world cup in football (I dont want to die before doing that )

[baradar_jackson]

ohhcuppycakee, on 21 March 2012 - 09:40 AM, said:

Cannot vote republican.

What if Ron Paul wins the GOP nomination?

[Quranist]

ohhcuppycakee, on 21 March 2012 - 09:40 AM, said:

Hmm.

Practicing Muslim.
Financially stable.
Fluent in English.
Moderately attractive.
Allows me to have freedom and independence.
Cannot vote republican.

many girls have told me this, but i really dont get it.....

what does this really means? what kind of freedom?

Edited by yamolaAlimadad, 22 March 2012 - 01:13 AM.