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[ABUTALIB]

1) makes no difference if in laws were not Shia, of course it isn't ideal but there is no reason why not so long as actual life partner is on right path.
2) One must try to keep in touch with family (sill-h-raham) one grave sin is to cut off relation who knows your behaviour brings them to think about your religious views

[Myo]

1) no cuz u marry the entire family
2) no

they turn to "yes" if her family is dead

[md. ammar ali]

Myo, on 19 February 2012 - 06:16 AM, said:

1) no cuz u marry the entire family
2) no

they turn to "yes" if her family is dead

hahah

for me her family background is very important

coz i want a hussaini to be born in my family and not yazeedi

[MALANGG]

i will kick all of them no compromise on relegion at all

[alshemary]

1) yep ofc

2) quran 49:13
O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.

I dont know why you would not go back and get to know each other/present what you got to convince.

[abbask]

Ismahan007, on 29 October 2011 - 09:07 PM, said:

Salaams!

1, would you marry a girl if her entire family is a sunni/wahabbi if she's shia
(the reason i ask this is bcos some ppl may not like to have sunni/wahabbi in laws for various reasons)
2, how would you react if the family refused you for only one reason and that is because you're a shia, would you still make an effort to speak to the family and try to convince them you're still a muslim or would you just walk away in fear of future family problems? thanks

1. It depends firstly if she converted to shia islam because she believes its the true path or because she wants to marry me. If for the reason that its the true path, then if she has all the qualities I'm looking for in a wife, then yeah i would marry her. don't know if my family would be happy about it though

2. again it depends on whether she has all the qualities I'm looking for. if she does and i can't find anyone else that meets them to the extent she does, then i would try and talk to the family

[Muhammad47]

alaikoum salam,

1. Family is important of course. Well the parents, brothers/sisters are. So that's a difficult thing. If the family of the girl did not accept her choice to become Shia and they actually start the confrontation all the time, then it would be annoying of course.

2. Well if the family refuses the guy then the guy should really think if he wants to marry her, because it's already not a good start. It's another story if the parents/family prefers a Sunni husband for their daughter. But of course if they don't do anything to stop the marriage then yes you have to accept the family as they are and always try to communicate with them. On the other hand you have Shia families who don't accept a Shia husband for their daughter, because he is not from the same tribe or race. So, always problems

So it depends on how they act. I.E. do they really look for the confrontation or they just don't think that Shiism is right and prefer a Sunni guy.

Edited by Muhammad47, 13 May 2012 - 08:46 AM.

[Ismahan007]

^ I agree with you, family is important esp for me as am a girl its very important to have the support of my family. unfortunately my family don't have enough religious knowledge. little they know about Islam in general so wud be difficult to explain anything about shia unless they themselves wanted to know and started researching which is unlikely to happen. I don't blame them tho cuz they never met a shia in their lives or heard anything from a shia person, all they know about shia they got it from my uncle who's a fanatic wahabi who believes shias r non muslims. he created many problems for me in the past but that's just part of my life that i've moved on now.

[Muhammad47]

hmmm that's always not nice to hear. Wahabis in your family.. How is that now? It's better or not? Hope your parents accept your choice and the relation with them is still good insha Allah. Allah is with you Those people are the most important; parents and brothers/sisters.

Not to change the topic, but for example my family are not Muslim so I can understand how you feel when you are Shia and they are Sunni.

[Ismahan007]

^ to be honest I don't care that much for my bros or sisters. to me its only my mom that's important, I only care what she thinks about me and no one else. I think in every family siblings have their differences, but luckily all my bros aren't religious, its just something they never thought to happen to see me claiming to be a shia LOL and that's understandable I guess. as for my sisters, they're a bit religious but unfortunately they listen to my uncle and think I still need help. at the end of the day, I knew no one will welcome me holding flowers coz I became shia. I have to be patient and pray for them, they aren't stupids, who knows maybe one day they will be guided same as I was, InshaAllah.

Edited by Ismahan007, 13 May 2012 - 05:26 PM.

[Muhammad47]

Insha Allah yes we hope. Where are you originally from if I may ask?

lol now you don't have to worry that you embarrass us by not answering the question. And we don't have to be afraid that you get your 007 lipgloss knife to stab around.

[Ismahan007]

loooooooooool I don't mind to say where I am from. I guess most ppl here know that am from Somalia anyway.

[Muhammad47]

Somalia. Yes now I understand the Wahabi thing you said. Lol Somalians are like Moroccans (well just little bit ). Hard to find Shias there.

[Ismahan007]

^ppl practiced sunni or suffi but the Saudis came to the country and changed the ppl ideologically. unfortunately most 'sunnis' there r affected by the wahabis now.

btw, r u a convert to Islam?

Edited by Ismahan007, 13 May 2012 - 06:23 PM.

[Muhammad47]

yes true I am hamdulilah.

[Ismahan007]

^mashaAllah that's so cool. I hope you enjoying being a muslim

[Muhammad47]

Hamdulilah. Without Him we could never be Guided.

lol you are also a convert from Sunni to Shia then.

[Ismahan007]

yeh born into a 'sunni' family so that wud technically make me a 'sunni' but like u said its Him Allah who guides ppl Alhamdulilah.

btw is ur family Christians?

Edited by Ismahan007, 13 May 2012 - 07:02 PM.

[Muhammad47]

Yes Hamdulilah.

My family is not really religious.. My mother is, but my father isn't So I don't think you can consider them as Christians

[Dam3il Husayn]

In my opinion, I wouldn't marry a woman unless she is a Shia...

[FindingIslam]

I think it would be easier with marriage to another Shia.
Just my opinion.

[Sheraz]

1) Yh i would marry her ... as long as her Saudi funded/Nasibi family didnt try to kill me

2) Errr I would engage in debates ... but it they werent being productive than id jst shurrup.

Edited by Sheraz, 12 June 2012 - 02:39 PM.

[IFK]

Salam,

Hope I'm not off topic..

As a sister, I find this trend very disturbing:
When a girl converts to Islam, everyone is happy and they welcome her to the community etc etc..
But when it comes to marriage, no one wants to marry her because it'll cause issues for him after marriage..this is especially true if the parents are not very happy about the conversion..and just accepted it..or they dont want her to marry a Muslim boy, even though she may be Muslim etc...
How is this fair for the girl who converts and leaves everything behind? That when she needs support, then either the boy, or boys family will not accept, because her parents are nonMuslim...

Can anyone explain this? I guess its the same if Shia/Sunni or Muslim/nonMuslim houses...not sure which is worse..lol..and I dont know if there are similar problems for the revert brothers too.

[AlwaysChangingHisUserName]

Ismahan007, on 29 October 2011 - 09:07 PM, said:

Salaams!

1, would you marry a girl if her entire family is a sunni/wahabbi if she's shia
(the reason i ask this is bcos some ppl may not like to have sunni/wahabbi in laws for various reasons)
2, how would you react if the family refused you for only one reason and that is because you're a shia, would you still make an effort to speak to the family and try to convince them you're still a muslim or would you just walk away in fear of future family problems? thanks

1. Yes!
2. Yes!

[shiaaliibrahim]

Ismahan007, on 29 October 2011 - 09:07 PM, said:

Salaams!

1, would you marry a girl if her entire family is a sunni/wahabbi if she's shia
(the reason i ask this is bcos some ppl may not like to have sunni/wahabbi in laws for various reasons)
2, how would you react if the family refused you for only one reason and that is because you're a shia, would you still make an effort to speak to the family and try to convince them you're still a muslim or would you just walk away in fear of future family problems? thanks

I know my answer is late, but yes to both your questions.  The sister is heroic in the situation you described and deserves a hero to fight for her.   I wish only the best for her and her would be husband.