Question Set 3 of 3
firstly: apologies for the delay. between work and my over active social life, i havent been able to come on sc much these last two days.
lets get cracking!!!!
That’s exactly what my mum says. I felt sort of similar but the reasons are somewhat different. You go to the shrine of Imam Hussain with a certain state of mind, thinking of the calamities that befell on him and his family. Hence the feeling of mazloomiat. In the shrine of Imam Ali, however, you just marvel at his sublimity and grandeur, his battles and sermons. I was literally shaking even before I entered the first gate into the courtyard. I went in the morning and didn’t leave till it closed for visitors.
Edit: I have some interesting things to tell about my ziarat experience so will do in my next post
tell me the interesting things? how do you define interesting? miraculous? dodgy? some sort of conspiracy?
My family paid for the ziarat trips, except Syria. All solo trips are paid by me. I used to put away some money every month in a separate account so when I felt the uncontrollable urge to travel, I just did that.
Being a Pakistani passport holder, I was restricted by Europe visa rules so I had to plan meticulously. I was required to provide exact dates, cities, confirmed air or train tickets and hotel bookings before they let me in. So I always had a water-tight itinerary. I never bought a pre-packaged holiday and booked everything myself. I learned valuable planning skills.
mashallah then it must have been an excellent training ground for you to plan these trips. now that you are used to planning even small details, and are (hopefully) a bit more mature than the youth who decided to visit afghanistan, if you could choose, and visas werent an option, would you "roam free"? if so, what would be your ideal journey? if we were to say you had a similar sort of budget to your previous trips.
Personally, I do like to plan enough to avoid uncertainty and accidents that result from lack of proper tourist info. When I visit the Middle East, I don’t plan as meticulously as I do for Europe.
why the middle east? wouldnt that be the time where you NEED to plan more, because of the dodginess of the countries?
I had very little time in Paris and spent much of it figuring out the horrendous metro maps and finding my way to the landmarks. People didn’t help much either. My only moment of ‘beauty’ in Paris was when I ascended the Eiffel (by stairs) and took a bird’s eye of the Seine!
based only on the cities which you fell in love with, and the "x" factor we talked about, if you could design a town area which would make the average tourist fall in love with the city as you did, how would you do this?
its a real shame about paris; i have a lot of relations there so in high school we used to spend many holidays there in order to improve our french. the metros are impossible but you should try DRIVING there lol. after half an hour my dad demanded my uncles from paris drove us everywhere.
how long did it take you to ascend the eiffel tower?
Ah I know. I missed it. Time constraints.
unlucky yara
Sure. I will search through my lot of pics and get back asap!
awesome
Taliban did NOT dare touch a Pakistani soldier and his hosts even if they were Shia. Remember I am talking about the time when Taliban were bankrolled by the Pakistani army.
bankrolled - past tense? you do not believe the pakistani army still has its hands in the taleban?
Oh wow. Intriguing. You gotta decode it soon man!
insha'Allah
My father had no chance to play a direct role in my development as he died when I was only 7. I don’t know him besides family lore and his own writings. His person and legacy indirectly played a vital role in my later development as I learned to appreciate his collection and writings. Retrospectively, I have all the reasons to thank him for all that he left behind for me.
oh yaar im really sorry to hear this, but it makes a lot of things about your personality suddenly more understandable - most of all your independence. were you the stand-in patriarch of the family when you came of age, or did your fathers family step in on his behalf?
LOL Yeah I guess so
There is going to be a controversial wife-book rivalry at the bed time. Don’t know how I will manage!
bro listen, get into reading comic books, i suggest you start with "the sandman" series by neil gaiman and go from there. soon as you get married the only thing your library will be used for is showing off to her guests.
I almost accidentally read those five books. Three of them were already in my dad’s library. I found the other two myself.
I read all those books during my typically formative years (teenage and early twenties). The books I read later didn’t affect me in the same way as those. There are surely many other great books and authors from whom I have benefitted immensely. For example books like Leo Tolstoy’s War and Peace, John Donne’s poetry, Ibn-e-Rushd’s rationalism, Murtaza Mutahari’s interpretation of Islam, Edward Said’s anti-imperialism and Vladimir Nabokov’s novels. (I hate to say but I hate Harry Potter!
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are you a fan of mutaharis works? what is your opinion of him? my formative years were oddly spent reading books by sun tzu, the 48 laws of power, eMyth and books along that sort of mindset.
*sigh* I know. I loved my YouTube channel. I had hundreds of rare classical gems posted on there over the period of 3 years. I couldn’t believe when my channel became # 6 most viewed in the UK! It’s a pity it was closed.
I KNOW! punkassho's

your abida parveen man kun to maula is still one of my favourite videos ever. she is/ was simply sublime. so much soul in her voice. i love her bulleh shah one, you know the one where she reads "masjid dhade mandir dhade" etc? that used to be my tagline before stupid shiachat shrunk the length you were allowed to post, so i condensed the whole thing into "dont break anyones heart; your rabb lives there" which is a poor replacement i feel.
Rahat has good voice. He has command over raags. But he is so busy with Indian music scene that he has reduced his qawali singing to bare minimum. I have listened to his older qawalis. He is nowhere near his mentor Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan.
no....NFAK was probably unique in our lifetimes. the term "maestro" is thrown about too casually these days, but for one like him who spent literally every moment of his life for the best part of 40 years perfecting his art....what else can you call him?
rahat will probably become a multi billionaire at the hands of the indians, but his qawallis? no. you are right. even his good qawallis (jaane ya ali) were not 1/1000th of NFAK. if you compare "dam hamma dam ali ali" by the maestro and the same thing by rahat, its like watching a professional against a rookie.
and when are rahats balls gonna drop man? his voice is like a little girls.
Pretty much. In a new place, among new people, with no friends and relatives around, and no girlfriend either (!!!), I turned to SC and a couple other forums to find the company I sought. Though all my forum activity has been now reduced to SC.
yeah well, stands to reason. the man, the legend who is MDM populates this forum, why would you NEED to go anywhere else
It’s good but difficult question to answer. I have had no father figure whose example I could emulate or at least try to compare to. So it is entirely up to me to frame my relationship with my kids (if and when I have them inshallah)
I, however, know what kind of father I do not want to be. I don’t want to think as if I own my children as some kind of moveable property. I don’t want to impose my ways and thoughts on them. It will not be either my way or high way. My children are from me; they are not me. So I believe in relative independence of children from their parents’ control as they grow up.
there was a study in america of girls who had sex before marriage. those that chose to wait for marriage had a significant factor in common - their closeness to their father/ father figures. how would your relationship with your daughter be, and do you think you are in danger of the "madonna wh0re" complex that most "old school" fathers have of their daughters?
I don’t think it is dying any time soon. New, younger members replace old members every six months or so. Quality may be a problem but SC, as they say, is alive and kicking.
why do you think saddos like me and you stuck around so long?
Lol I will show my true colours later. Right now I don’t want to scare him away!
heeheeheehee give him the talk once you know he cant run away, tell him you own a pet leopard or something to freak him out.
A few personal belongings from my mother’s side of the family. My great-great-grandfather’s old style coat made with silver thread and studded with gems, his passport to Europe dated 1901. (He went overland to Liverpool from India on a business trip via Ottoman lands!), a circa 200 years old sword which was last used against Ranjit Singh’s Sikh army in 1830s, gold coins from the time of British Raj, minted in the name of Queen Victoria and a few Edwards and Georges who succeeded the queen (I forgot their serial numbers).
wow! mash'Allah! can i request some pictures (if possible)?
The elders of our family just decided that the juloos will pause at his courtyard before proceeding further and he can’t do anything about it.
lol i found this hilarious
No, obviously not. I only meant swift and determined action to wipe out the bad guys. The bad guys in our case are the Wahhabi Deobandi militants.
can you explain to me the difference between a run of the mill "wahabbi" and a "deobandi" does it mean "two" something?
If I ever teach something, I will teach history of Subcontinent and British Empire. But personally I don’t fancy going into teaching professional. I’d rather write.
i think you would make a fantastic tutor bro. seriously. one of the old fashioned ones who dedicated themselves to one family for the whole childs life.
what prevents you from writing a book? you obviously have all the things you need
I’ve never heard of PBL. Would like to know. I think self-teaching is fine so long as you have a strong mentor to direct you. I believe a mentor or a supervisor or whatever other name you give that person is needed for direction and your refinement
its good in terms of instantly getting rid of those who arent dedicated. theres no hand holding at all. so the mentor basically tells you what to learn and thats it. it probably needs refinement.
problem based learning
lol ummmm I think I will choose to be a circle; round and even, gol gol. The shape of a circle is the building block of civilization. It’s a metaphor of motion. Wheel, sun, moon, orbits, balls, cups, plates, pens… there is a round shape involved somewhere.
deep man. deep.
i have three 1p coins on my desk. what is the most ingenious thing i can do with them?