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[Gypsy]

shiaaliibrahim, on 19 June 2012 - 06:31 PM, said:

Ok sisters. you have this great education, what are you doing with it for the Shia?  If you answer plenty, Alhumdullah, but otherwise, what is the purpose of your education?  The education system in the west systemically turns out more women graduates than men across all societies.  This is true in EU countries, Far East Asia, USA and Canada.  The result is the same, educated women complain about a situation that if they did their research, they would have known produces a highly educated and dissatisfied woman.  

Stop complaining and dumb yourself down and get a man.  That's what the smart sisters do.

What's wrong with you? Women don't need to dumb down in order to get a man.

If a woman need to change any of her good part in order to liked by a man, then she's with stupid.

Sisters, please remember to mark your topics as [sisters only] so you are not constantly barrage by immature responses and anti-woman postings.

[shiaaliibrahim]

Gypsy, on 20 June 2012 - 06:40 AM, said:

What's wrong with you? Women don't need to dumb down in order to get a man.

If a woman need to change any of her good part in order to liked by a man, then she's with stupid.

Sisters, please remember to mark your topics as [sisters only] so you are not constantly barrage by immature responses and anti-woman postings.

There is nothing immature or anti-woman about my post.  First of all, have a sense of humor and secondly read the post carefully.  It is foolish to complain about a situation that is obvious from the start.  My point is that women are first in education throughout the entire world.  To complain about a predictable situation is foolish and unproductive.  Also, without examining the reasons why the situation is the way it is is frankly anti-male.  The complaint implies some natural superiority and or nobleness in Shia women lacking in Shia males.

[ImAli]

shiaaliibrahim, on 19 June 2012 - 06:31 PM, said:

Ok sisters. you have this great education, what are you doing with it for the Shia?  If you answer plenty, Alhumdullah, but otherwise, what is the purpose of your education?  The education system in the west systemically turns out more women graduates than men across all societies.  This is true in EU countries, Far East Asia, USA and Canada.  The result is the same, educated women complain about a situation that if they did their research, they would have known produces a highly educated and dissatisfied woman.  

Stop complaining and dumb yourself down and get a man.  That's what the smart sisters do.

I can tell you the purpose of my education! If anything ever happens to my marriage due to divorce or me becoming a widow I can easily get a job in the health care industry. Then I won't have to just take any man who comes along......I will be able to support myself and my children.....and I wont' have to rely on welfare or hand outs.

[Marbles]

ImAli, on 20 June 2012 - 07:46 AM, said:

I can tell you the purpose of my education! If anything ever happens to my marriage due to divorce or me becoming a widow I can easily get a job in the health care industry. Then I won't have to just take any man who comes along......I will be able to support myself and my children.....and I wont' have to rely on welfare or hand outs.

The absolute necessity of modern education for females in our times is even more justified in societies/countries where state welfare or hand outs are nonexistent. (In fact, looking at the bigger picture, only a few people in the world have access to state benefits of such kind).

Imagine having to spread your bowl in front of the extended family or friends. Even if those unfortunate one get some support, they loose their self-respect and independence. Not a life worth living.

Whether men go for higher education or not, girls must get complete formal education with employable skills, even if they don't immediately start a 'career'. They can always use their education to stand on their feet if need arises. A Masters or equivalent should be bare minimum.

One of your scenarios (death of the husband) became true in the case of my mother. She had no degrees to rely on and no employable skills to count on, but thanks to my father who left us with enough assets so that we remained independent and self-sufficient throughout our collective family life. But this is an exception. Very few have properties and bank balance to spend without havng an earning hand over a long period of time.

[1472Maryam]

That is true.  And even if the marriage is not dissolved by death or divorce, a spouse could become disabled, lose his job, business go under, you get the picture, so it is always good to be prepared to be self supporting.

[Queen Yoda]

A woman should always have the ability to earn her own money. And to be honest I don't just think its Shia women doing better educationally than men as women generally outperform men in both school and university ( I teach in both)

[yukapuka]

Gosh, people are so full of animosity towards everything, themselves included. Educations this, male/female that, why all this unhealthy competition?

[ORLITHDM]

i have seen women that will post on their profile that they want a highly educated man or sayed only... there are so many undereducated women snatching up the educated brothers that the ones that ARE educated are being over looked. i say so long as you dont rub it in the mans face he shouldnt be passing you up just because you have the education and money. your children would benifit5 grately by having a mom that is educated and your husband will have the benifit of being able to get an education while he praises his wife for being a strong woman. but sadly so many men are looking for young impressionable women that will be turned into baby factories that are stuck at home....