36 replies to this topic

[apples69]

Did mutah with a non muslim lady, but starting to feel guilty and dirty about it all, is it normal to feel like this, btw i'm not married anymore

[shiaLife2592]

i recently just did Mutah with a guy. we decided to keep it verbal with no physical interaction. no one in my family knows, and i'm a girl of 18 years, he is 19. although in the eyes of God we are halal for eachother, i feel guilty.. and almost dirty. But don't husband and wives talk to eachother in seductive ways? if we are married temporarily, this should feel okay. Me and the boy both have been friends for a while and wanted to talk on a more personal manner since we could guess that we both like eachother. Why do I feel so guilty about what god has made halal? is it because there has been so much taboo on the topic?

[Çåá ÇáÈíÊ]

There is absolutely nothing to regret or feel guilty about. It's all psychological. You have been preconditioned by cultural assumptions. You have done something legitimate. You shouldn't feel dirty.

[shiaLife2592]

if my parents dont know about it, i think thats whats contributing to my guilt..

[Deen]

shiaLife2592, on 31 December 2011 - 10:23 PM, said:

if my parents dont know about it, i think thats whats contributing to my guilt..

Salam,

If your parents don't know about it, your marriage might not be valid(unless you were married before this relationship)... hence the guilt

[Marbles]

*turns troll-detector on*

[Quranist]

Marbles, on 04 January 2012 - 12:44 PM, said:

*turns troll-detector on*

correct

[comrade]

Trolls need to get a life.

[Ruq]

Marbles, on 04 January 2012 - 12:44 PM, said:

*turns troll-detector on*

xD now youve detected one you can turn it off, that constant flashing light can be quite irritating i find

[labbaikkhamenai]

shiaLife2592, on 29 December 2011 - 04:54 PM, said:

i recently just did Mutah with a guy. we decided to keep it verbal with no physical interaction. no one in my family knows, and i'm a girl of 18 years, he is 19. although in the eyes of God we are halal for eachother, i feel guilty.. and almost dirty. But don't husband and wives talk to eachother in seductive ways? if we are married temporarily, this should feel okay. Me and the boy both have been friends for a while and wanted to talk on a more personal manner since we could guess that we both like eachother. Why do I feel so guilty about what god has made halal? is it because there has been so much taboo on the topic?

tsk tsk.. stop wasting your parents money on mobile phone bills

Regards
AA

[~Zee Zee~]

apples didnt u say u were married for 7 years and wanted to do mutah but u didnt know what to do just about a week ago ...now your not married and this post is in june ....

[ImAli]

LebanesePrincess, on 08 January 2012 - 08:25 AM, said:

apples didnt u say u were married for 7 years and wanted to do mutah but u didnt know what to do just about a week ago ...now your not married and this post is in june ....

Yes....OH how original, an inconsistent mut3a troll.

Edited by ImAli, 08 January 2012 - 03:59 PM.

[yasirzaidi18@yahoo.com]

shiaLife2592, on 29 December 2011 - 04:54 PM, said:

i recently just did Mutah with a guy. we decided to keep it verbal with no physical interaction. no one in my family knows, and i'm a girl of 18 years, he is 19. although in the eyes of God we are halal for eachother, i feel guilty.. and almost dirty. But don't husband and wives talk to eachother in seductive ways? if we are married temporarily, this should feel okay. Me and the boy both have been friends for a while and wanted to talk on a more personal manner since we could guess that we both like eachother. Why do I feel so guilty about what god has made halal? is it because there has been so much taboo on the topic?

First have to know about your marital status

if you are unmarried and did a mutah with out your parent permission than guilt and dirt is a natural response

[yasirzaidi18@yahoo.com]

apples69, on 19 June 2011 - 02:36 AM, said:

Did mutah with a non muslim lady, but starting to feel guilty and dirty about it all, is it normal to feel like this, btw i'm not married anymore

first we have to know the notion of mutah  ?
why we need mutah for non muslim lady ?
Why not shia needed lady /

[shiaLife2592]

2438. In order to become Mahram (with whom marriage contract becomes haraam and is treated to be one of the close relatives), a father or a paternal grandfather can contract the marriage of his na-baligh son or daughter with another person for a short period, provided that it does not involve any scandal or moral lapse.

According to sistani, it says PERMISSION IS NEEDED FOR NA BALIGH DAUGHTER.. I'm older than 9 lol and baligh... so do i still have to ask permission?

[89jghur32]

shiaLife2592, on 06 August 2012 - 02:06 AM, said:

2438. In order to become Mahram (with whom marriage contract becomes haraam and is treated to be one of the close relatives), a father or a paternal grandfather can contract the marriage of his na-baligh son or daughter with another person for a short period, provided that it does not involve any scandal or moral lapse.

According to sistani, it says PERMISSION IS NEEDED FOR NA BALIGH DAUGHTER.. I'm older than 9 lol and baligh... so do i still have to ask permission?

No, not when you both give up rights for sex. Go have a nice time chatting, you love birds.

[Haydar Karrar]

apples69, on 19 June 2011 - 02:36 AM, said:

Did mutah with a non muslim lady, but starting to feel guilty and dirty about it all, is it normal to feel like this, btw i'm not married anymore

1...Mut'a with non Muslim lady is allowed (Jews and Christian).....no reason to feel guilty.

2....Good Will Apples, go see a psychiatrist.....SC people are fools, they know nothing.

[ילדת מלך]

Haydar Karrar, on 10 August 2012 - 04:47 PM, said:

1...Mut'a with non Muslim lady is allowed (Jews and Christian).....no reason to feel guilty.

2....Good Will Apples, go see a psychiatrist.....SC people are fools, they know nothing.

It's a bit late for the advice, I suppose ---thread is almost a year old--- OP must have been over his guilt trip by now---

[Hoper]

Salam Aleikum!

About this specific issue I would like to say the following:

In the Quran Allah orders Muslims in Sura 2, Ayat 282 to write down any monetary transaction that takes place between the two parties, so imagine your close friend comes and says to you, " Can you give me 10$ to buy a burger" the natural reaction is " sure, here you go." Now imagine you or your friend say " wait, before the money is given lets write it down." This will for sure make you or your friend or both of you feel at least very awkward if not uncomfortable, but the demand of writing it down is totally legitimate, its want the Quran says. Its just our built-in cultural or societal norms that do not let us function outside of our comfort zones.

The same applies to temporary marriage, because we live in the global environment totally opposed to Allah and His commands we are victims of ingrained non-Islamic thoughts and habits. So when we do somethings against Islam we feel ok, bcs we grew up with it, and sometimes when we do things by Islam we feel weird bcs we were not raised in an enough Islamicaly minded environment.

IsnAllah this helps you all understand why we feel awkward after some things we do by sharia.

[Shia_Debater]

Haydar Karrar, on 10 August 2012 - 04:47 PM, said:

SC people are fools, they know nothing.

They aren't fools

[Haydar Karrar]

Shia_Debater, on 13 August 2012 - 01:46 AM, said:

They aren't fools

Ha, sure they aren't .

Haydar Karrar, on 10 August 2012 - 04:47 PM, said:

1...Mut'a with non Muslim lady is allowed (Jews and Christian).....no reason to feel guilty.

2....Good Will Apples, go see a psychiatrist.....SC people are fools, they know nothing.

OH [Edited Out].....I didn't even notice, well....no harm done.

[Shia_Debater]

Haydar Karrar, on 13 August 2012 - 03:43 AM, said:

Ha, sure they aren't .

Some might be, but most of them aren't.

[Haydar Karrar]

Shia_Debater, on 13 August 2012 - 03:48 AM, said:

Some might be, but most of them aren't.

Look, I know why your angry.....you are not one of them....nor am I....nor are a lot of people on here....if you classify yourself as a SC person....your a fool...I am not talking about individuals, I am talking about the masses (of fools).

[ßÑíã]

Çåá ÇáÈíÊ, on 29 December 2011 - 06:09 PM, said:

There is absolutely nothing to regret or feel guilty about. It's all psychological. You have been preconditioned by cultural assumptions. You have done something legitimate. You shouldn't feel dirty.

Say no more.

[Logical Islam]

if its halal...why on earth are you guilty?

To be fair..it seems to good to be true.

I could technically go out with so many non-muslims (christians or jews . or female muslims who arent that serious.

It's better than dating o.o you don't have to fear being burnt badly in hell lol.