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[Abu Hadi]

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[AliSaleh]

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

[AlgerianShia]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 03:34 PM, said:

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

it is absolutely haram.

[macisaac]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 03:34 PM, said:

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

What a strange question.  If someone murders someone, it's better than if they raped and then murdered them right?

[Makaveli]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 03:34 PM, said:

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

Brother here you can have all the answers to your questions in Khomeini's green book, just click in the net and you will see.

[AliSaleh]

macisaac, on 20 November 2009 - 10:35 PM, said:

What a strange question.  If someone murders someone, it's better than if they raped and then murdered them right?

I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

[macisaac]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 11:37 PM, said:

I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

May He strengthen you and keep you on the right path.

[gogiison2]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 03:34 PM, said:

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

i often say this is similar to saying 1 day in hell is better than 2. ya you may be right, but is that what you really want? but understand that it's reported that Imams say don't look at how big or small the sin but look at who you're disobeying.

this disconnection from Allah should be enough to keep you away from these sins iA. ponder over this.

[gogiison2]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 11:37 PM, said:

I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

iA and there are plenty of ways of dealing with this. watch what you lay your eyes on. understand you'll be tested. if it was easy, believe me everyone would be in the masjids lining up. this is the way of the world. i think once we better understand this the more successful we can be in following our deen iA. if you need a more personalized reply, feel free to message me any time. try you best. Allah knows best those who strive in his way and who is better to reward than HIM?

[Aabiss_Shakari]

Masturbation is a Major Sin. It is like doing Zina with oneself. Spirituality, regular Namaz with complete sincere devotion, and Quran recitation is the solution.

This is what i understood from "Jihad bin Nafs". You think that you are standing in war field fully equipped with Sword and Arrows of your Character. Whenever Shaitan or your Nafs e Ammara attacks you, just attack the Shaitan and your Nafs e Ammara with your swords and arrows. Recite "Tauz" and seek refuge from Allah against your worst enemy Shaitaan e Laeen. Inshallah it will have positive effect on you and Shaitan will have no control over you whatsoever he (laeen) do. Whenever Shaitan or my Nafs forces me to do something i just imagine myself waving sword on Shaitan and just push him away and raise the slogan Allah o Akbar then sooner or later i become the controller of my deeds with the help of my Allah and the Shaitaan runs away. Try it and do this Jehad. May Allah give you success.

Also try to act on this beautiful hadith of prophet . Prophet said "Whoever does his deeds with complete devotion in compliance with the orders of Allah and with complete Taqwa and piety for continuous 40 days. Allah makes a spring of wisdom in his heart and his tongue starts telling the words of wisdom to others"

May Allah help you in controlling your Nafs and doing Jihad bin Nafs.

[AliSaleh]

thank you brothers for your great advice and warm thoughts

[hazarakid]

I have the same problem but i just abstain myself from doing masturbating everyday....... like i masturbate on average 2 a week bcoz I am afraid of Allah (s.w.t) When i wanna masturbate i have this feeling of fear inside and i can feel my good deeds get lost in my bad deeds....... So My brother all you have to do is fear Allah and abstain yourself as much as u can.......... Trust me u can not let go of Masturbation at once I noe this bcoz i've done that!!!!

[khuram]

just think , will it please you or Allah ? n i think it is forbidden just to force you to marry

[Abu Hadi]

hazarakid, on 29 November 2009 - 03:19 PM, said:

I have the same problem but i just abstain myself from doing masturbating everyday....... like i masturbate on average 2 a week bcoz I am afraid of Allah (s.w.t) When i wanna masturbate i have this feeling of fear inside and i can feel my good deeds get lost in my bad deeds....... So My brother all you have to do is fear Allah and abstain yourself as much as u can.......... Trust me u can not let go of Masturbation at once I noe this bcoz i've done that!!!!

I think most of you heard the famous saying, it was said on Mt. Sinai to Prophet Musa(a.s) when he was speaking with Allah(s.w.a). It is recorded in Bihar Anwar and the source is Imam Sadiq(a.s). It is a long ahadith, but there is one part that says 'The good deed is rewarded seven times and the penalty of one sin is perdition'. In other words, if something is haram, it is a sin, and the main consequence of sin is seperation from Allah(s.w.a). And since Allah(s.w.a) is the source of all hope, goodness, strength, hapiness, etc, when you are seperated from the source you in fact have nothing and depression is a physiological response to this but the spiritual response is much worse. So try to avoid any and every sin so that you will have security against seperation. That is the best way I can explain it.

[naro]

macisaac, on 20 November 2009 - 10:35 PM, said:

What a strange question.  If someone murders someone, it's better than if they raped and then murdered them right?

congratulations you win the award of the worst comparison of the decade

[.K.A.R.R.A.R.]

Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

[leboJnoubi]

AliSaleh, on 20 November 2009 - 11:37 PM, said:

I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

umm. me 2 and i know alot of [edited - be careful not to backbite] masturbate, they do it because their cool? im in the puberty age, and i have refrained from this sin, alhamdullillah, i hope the same for you inshallah

[Basim Ali]

Zombie110, on 21 December 2009 - 04:22 PM, said:

Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

If you actually read the article, you'll know it says more than just that it's wrong.
It has become a serious problem for many, and SC's playing it's part on helping such people.

It might also benefit people who are not trapped in the habit, as they can help others.

wa
Basim Ali Jafri

[salmanfars]

Zombie110, on 21 December 2009 - 04:22 PM, said:

Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

salam brother Zombie 110

yeah of course its wrong but its still an issue, an issue that every Healthy male HUMAN has.

[HellHound]

Zombie110, on 21 December 2009 - 04:22 PM, said:

Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

Whenever such a topic (that is, a topic concerning sexual morality) comes up, people always say things like "SHHH! how dare you talk of such a ghastly matter?" or "This is taboo!"

This is exactly why many Muslims today suffer from a lack of sexual education. How else will we educate ourselves if we don't discuss it with others? By reading books? I think people are more inclined to discuss matters rather than read about them. There's NOTHING wrong about discussing an issue because it is a part of Islam. Are we in any way disrespecting our religion by doing so?....... doubt it.

Fi Amanillah

[Shabbar-E-Shabbir]

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Man, specially teenagers, should know about the dangerous effects of masturbation (istimna) and the islamic view of it. Yeah, you think that everybody knows that it is haraam, but for example, myself didn't know until 13. I think that masturbation and pornography are two issues that affects almost all youths nowadays. We should, at least, warn about these. Making it a taboo won't make them disappear.

Good point. Items such as sex education is taking place for students who are 11-13 years of age, it is targetted to them that early, Islam needs to deal with the issue way, way before.

[leboJnoubi]

Bakir, on 16 January 2010 - 04:34 PM, said:

Man, specially teenagers, should know about the dangerous effects of masturbation (istimna) and the islamic view of it. Yeah, you think that everybody knows that it is haraam, but for example, myself didn't know until 13. I think that masturbation and pornography are two issues that affects almost all youths nowadays. We should, at least, warn about these. Making it a taboo won't make them disappear.

Regards,
Bakir

someone i know(not gonna mention) masturbates. i told him its haram. he said no. then he said because it cleanses the sperm. where the hell did he get that from

[HellHound]

labaykah ya husayn, on 16 January 2010 - 06:28 PM, said:

someone i know(not gonna mention) masturbates. i told him its haram. he said no. then he said because it cleanses the sperm. where the hell did he get that from

Ignorance (or perhaps stubbornness) at its finest... That's all I can say about this guy you know.

[Bakir]

We can't blame him, what can he do with all the western propaganda?

[Cubanshia]

Masturbation is Haram. Find a Christian girl and perform temporary marriage. And if you can't do even do that and you know you will fall in the masturbation sin, then do a temporary marriage with a prostitute.