@ sister bi_ithnillaah, sister, i agree with you for the most part, but you also shouldn't assume that nothing a bit "unethical" (for want of a better word) goes on in religious circles, I'm not sure if this story was authentic http://iwpr.net/repo...a-establishment it was the one about Sayed as-Sistani's aid who done mut'a with loads of different girls, and filmed it on his phone, then the videos got out, and it was a big scandal. Just because that is halal, in that case, it is also a sign of being a bit perverted, to film it and look at it, and who knows what else. That's my opinion anyway
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying nothing unethical ever happens in religious circles, unethical things are often justified using religion by many different people of different religious affiliations; my problem was his generalization of all hawdha female students not being virgins and on top of that not being trustworthy and so he wouldn't want to marry one for that reason. As a female who is planning inshaa Allaah, bi-ithnillaah, to go overseas and study in a hawdha soon, I found it very insulting for someone to make that sort of generalization about me and people I know.