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#1 Shaheen

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 01:16 PM

I had this debate with a 'so-called Muslim girl' (as she put it) about why she has doubts about Islam.  I had no problem refuting her points, but the one issue that was a source of contention was the status of Islam.  Furthermore, the enemies of Islam constantly complain that Islam is oppressive towards women.  Some of them cite various hadiths, some of which seems to support this view.  Personally I have seen many Muslims men (some on this site) which claim that me are in fact 'superior' to women.  I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this issue.

My opinion males and females have there advantages and disadvantages, but overall the two they are equivalent.  Equivalent is different from the same, and I think both sides should have some different but equivalent rights.  I do not believe in the hadiths in which claim that most people in hell are women, because it seems illogical.  So if your born a different gender your more prone to go to hell?  That does not make any sense to me.

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#2 Shia96c

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 01:52 PM

Well what does the holy Quran say about status? I personally think both men and women are equal. The only people who don't agree are the extremist like Taliban who don't allow girls to get educated. I also heard that girls argent allowed to drive in Saudi Arabia?

Edited by Shia96c, 30 July 2009 - 02:35 PM.


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Posted 30 July 2009 - 02:10 PM

View PostShaheen, on Jul 30 2009, 02:16 PM, said:

I had this debate with a 'so-called Muslim girl' (as she put it) about why she has doubts about Islam.  I had no problem refuting her points, but the one issue that was a source of contention was the status of Islam.  Furthermore, the enemies of Islam constantly complain that Islam is oppressive towards women.  Some of them cite various hadiths, some of which seems to support this view.  Personally I have seen many Muslims men (some on this site) which claim that me are in fact 'superior' to women.  I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this issue.

My opinion males and females have there advantages and disadvantages, but overall the two they are equivalent.  Equivalent is different from the same, and I think both sides should have some different but equivalent rights.  I do not believe in the hadiths in which claim that most people in hell are women, because it seems illogical.  So if your born a different gender your more prone to go to hell?  That does not make any sense to me.

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(bismillah) Salaam, I dont know what hadith's u r talking about. But maybe it's true. Plz provide more information. Wassalaam
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Posted 30 July 2009 - 02:40 PM

There is equality, but both genders have their own responsibilities and priorities...
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Posted 30 July 2009 - 03:46 PM

View PostShaheen, on Jul 30 2009, 01:16 PM, said:

I had this debate with a 'so-called Muslim girl' (as she put it) about why she has doubts about Islam.  I had no problem refuting her points, but the one issue that was a source of contention was the status of Islam.  Furthermore, the enemies of Islam constantly complain that Islam is oppressive towards women.  Some of them cite various hadiths, some of which seems to support this view.  Personally I have seen many Muslims men (some on this site) which claim that me are in fact 'superior' to women.  I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this issue.

My opinion males and females have there advantages and disadvantages, but overall the two they are equivalent.  Equivalent is different from the same, and I think both sides should have some different but equivalent rights.  I do not believe in the hadiths in which claim that most people in hell are women, because it seems illogical.  So if your born a different gender your more prone to go to hell?  That does not make any sense to me.

Brothers, sisters, opinions?

Allah, in his infinite wisdom, made both men and women equals yet different. Men are not superior to women. The difference, and what has led to the confusion, lies in the fact that Allah created both to be different. There are obviously certain things that a man can do that a woman can not and on the opposite there are things which a woman can do that a man can not.

My point is that both men and women are equal but different in what Allah has assigned as their roles in the bigger picture.
אני להעיד כי אין אלוהים מלבד אללה, ואני להעיד כי מוחמד הוא שלו שליח ואת עלי הוא חברו של אלוהים

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 05:40 PM

^Yeah, that's true they aren't allowed to drive..

View PostShaheen, on Jul 30 2009, 02:16 PM, said:

I had this debate with a 'so-called Muslim girl' (as she put it) about why she has doubts about Islam.  I had no problem refuting her points, but the one issue that was a source of contention was the status of Islam.  Furthermore, the enemies of Islam constantly complain that Islam is oppressive towards women.  Some of them cite various hadiths, some of which seems to support this view.  Personally I have seen many Muslims men (some on this site) which claim that me are in fact 'superior' to women.  I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this issue.

My opinion males and females have there advantages and disadvantages, but overall the two they are equivalent.  Equivalent is different from the same, and I think both sides should have some different but equivalent rights.  I do not believe in the hadiths in which claim that most people in hell are women, because it seems illogical.  So if your born a different gender your more prone to go to hell?  That does not make any sense to me.

Brothers, sisters, opinions?

Well, I believe the reason for that is because most backbite 24/7.

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 06:55 PM

(bismillah)

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@ Shia9c
Yes they aren't allowed to drive here in KSA. Though they do go around in taxis. Good too, because women here wear veils (naqaab), they wouldn't be able to see anything, especially at night. Their fathers/husbands, forbid them to go around outside without veils.

@ Shaheen
Women are NOT equal to men (in religious matter) and I'm not an extremist Taliban. :)

Women have three deficiencies, in religous matters, not according to ME but according to Imam Ali (as) :
' O' ye peoples! Women are deficient in Faith, deficient in shares and deficient in intelligence. As regards the deficiency in their Faith, it is their abstention from prayers and fasting during their menstrual period. As regards deficiency in their intelligence it is because the evidence of two women is equal to that of one man. As for the deficiency of their shares that is because of their share in inheritance being half of men. So beware of the evils of women. Be on your guard even from those of them who are (reportedly) good. Do not obey them even in good things so that they may not attract you to evils. ' Nahjul Balagha, SERMON - 80

http://www.al-islam.org/nahj/    (refer to SERMON - 80)
I hope your question is answered, IF you believe in the truth of Peak of Eloquence. :)

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 07:12 PM

It depends on how much people know about islam i mean if they lack knowledge about islam than of course they will think that men are supirior to women.....which is not true beacuse muslim women have more right than women in other religons

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 07:26 PM

View PostShaheen, on Jul 30 2009, 01:16 PM, said:

I had this debate with a 'so-called Muslim girl' (as she put it) about why she has doubts about Islam.  I had no problem refuting her points, but the one issue that was a source of contention was the status of Islam.  Furthermore, the enemies of Islam constantly complain that Islam is oppressive towards women.  Some of them cite various hadiths, some of which seems to support this view.  Personally I have seen many Muslims men (some on this site) which claim that me are in fact 'superior' to women.  I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this issue.

My opinion males and females have there advantages and disadvantages, but overall the two they are equivalent.  Equivalent is different from the same, and I think both sides should have some different but equivalent rights.  I do not believe in the hadiths in which claim that most people in hell are women, because it seems illogical.  So if your born a different gender your more prone to go to hell?  That does not make any sense to me.

Brothers, sisters, opinions?


PEOPLE are oppressive to PEOPLE. And hadiths can't be taken as 100% true. Hadiths are not given the same status as the Quran--only the Quran is 100% valid.

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Posted 30 July 2009 - 11:11 PM

If Islam were oppresive to women we would not have characters like Hazrat Fatima (as) , Hazrat Marium (as) and Hazrat Zainab (as) as role models not just for women but for women AND men.

The thing is women and men both have different responsibilities. To respect these they have both been limited in different ways, and sometimes it seems as if the wome have the more restrictions. But are they practically applicable?

Ok, yeah, a woman can't leave the house withut her husband's permission. But should the husband forbid her from going out just because he can? If a man can marry four wives, okay fine, but a woman can demand he pay her for brest feeding his children. And so on and so on until there is a balance. But its not nice to impose these things. I'm sure an ideal marriage in the sight of Allah does not include petty oppressions. So you are right, equivalent is the right word. :)

As for the hadith which say the like of what brother Basim Ali said...look at it this way. The Quran says many times things like "Most surely man is ungrateful to his Lord." But is that every person? It's a generalization about the majority and a warning about a vice a person might find himself/herself falling into if they're not careful. Similarly not every woman is necessarily evil or dumb or whatever. And some women can be better than a lot of men, even normal women not of the Ahlul Bayt. Look at Bibi Fizza (ra) . :wub:


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Posted 31 July 2009 - 12:30 AM

I think using the word "equal" is too narrow and limiting to describe men and women in comaprison to each other - but - no Muslim is superior to another.

All Muslims are judged only on the  basis of their faith and character, not their race, ethnicity, caste or tribe - or - gender.  Women are given the same level of humanity as men..only what each does with this humanity and ability to follow Islam  will give a measure of difference between them. “Whoever, be it a male or a female, does good deeds and he or she is a believer, then they will enter the Paradise.” (4:124)

Men and women have different strengths and needs and when united, complete each other.  These gender strengths are not less nor greater in importance - they are different and fulfill each other.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 02:31 AM

Salam.
Here is the Quran.

"Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. "(Albaqra-228)

I believe this proof of men's superiority is enough.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 02:55 AM

View PostBasim Ali, on Jul 31 2009, 09:41 AM, said:

Yes, they aren't allowed to drive here. :)

Men and women are NOT equal (in religious matter) , and I'm NOT an extremist Taliban!

Women have three deficiencies (in religious matter), NOT according to me but Imam Ali (as) :
"O people! Women suffer from three deficiencies, i.e. in religious matter, of the fact that at certain time they keep away from prayers and fastings, deficiency of mind that two female witnesses are considered equal to one male witness and deficiency in share of heritage is plain because their share is equal to half the share of the male members.
Keep yourself away from the wiles of the wicked women, and do not associate yourself too much even with good ones; do not blindly follow their advice even in good deeds; so that they may not be tempted to lead you towards bad ones." Nahjul Balagha, SERMON - 83

I hope this answers you, IF you believe in the truth of Nahjul Balagha. :) :)

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Imam Ali was talking about specific women and not all women. When will people saying stuff without researching into it and not picking and choosing :(
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 kadhim, on 03 December 2010 - 12:11 PM, said:

Frankly, I have to ask sometimes whether some of you guys are some sort of alien species fresh off the spaceship from Planet Retard.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 08:15 AM

View Postaskari muslim, on Jul 31 2009, 12:31 AM, said:

Salam.
Here is the Quran.

"Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. "(Albaqra-228)

I believe this proof of men's superiority is enough.

this is not a discussion of female nature it is about divorce and family law
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Posted 31 July 2009 - 08:46 AM

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....And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. "(Albaqra-228)

Some men are superior to some women and some women are superior to some men. Not all men are superior to all women and not all women are inferior to all men.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 10:10 AM

(bismillah)
OK lets think that you are right.Now anyone on this forum can use their own intellect to understand the matter that men are superior to women(in terms of qualities,im not talking about rights) by seeing history.

First Proof(logical)
Have you ever seen in history that any women became a legendary philosopher?Socrates,Plato,Aristotle,Xenocrates were all men.Now you may say that at that time women were opressed and were not having freedom.I will say that the opression of women itself is a proof that women are mentally and physically weak.If they would have been mentally or physically strong than they would have freed themselves from men's opression.

This prooves that men are intellectually superior to women.



Second proof(Islamic)
Allah chose Hazrat Adam(a.s) as khalifa not Hazrat Hawa(a.s).And Allah has said in Quran that HE taught Hazrat Adam(a.s) the words not Hazrat Hawa(a.s) which shows that man has more intellect.No Prophet was a women.
Thus men are superior to women in terms of physical and mental strength(im not talking about rights)


Final Proof
You know that women have been oppressed from old ages not men.If women were superior to men in intellect or strength than they would have oppressed men.Opression on women is the biggest proof that they are physically and mentally weak than men.(this is also stated above)


Question for shaheen
what are you actually trying to ask?Do you want to discuss whether men are superior to women in terms of intellect and bodily power?(I have given the answer above)
Or do you want to discuss that is it true that men have more rights than women in islam?(If you are thinking about rights then its a different issue and you should know islamic fiqh to discuss this matter)


thankyou.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 10:29 AM

Thank you for asking because this is a good one.

It's too weary for me to quote the many passages from the al-Quran but suffice for me to summarize that (had I prior to being a fetus in the womb and) had Allah SWT asked me which gender I wish to assume, I'd certainly have tossed a coin without further thinking.

Actually, the al-Quran alone is sufficient to shed light on this issue.

Besides the fact that every man and woman shall bear his/her own sins, in the sight of Allah SWT, PIETY counts above anything else. Allah SWT neither looks at the appearance of a woman or a man nor does He look at the materials that surround a woman or a man.

The pain and gain on the road to righteousness and piety are equally challenging and testing for both men and women.

Satan does not differentiate between the two genders. One woman in hell does not strike two scores on his scoreboard.

The room for forgiveness, atonement for one's sins, and make tawbah is open for both gender, and this privilege has never been skewed to one gender as against the other. Not a single verse in the al-Quran alludes to such a notion.

On pure reasoning alone, it throws off the wall the concept of 'adl had Allah SWT been biased and predisposed to favor a gender over the other; and, had Allah SWT been predisposed in such a way, then it would have been a punishment on the lesser gender before it had been born into this world.

It is equally preposterous if we have to work extra harder to cover up for this handicap having borne with, which is none of our doing in the first place.

It is a good question because if every Muslims ponders over and appreciate the issue, there will certainly be greater and heighten respect from one gender towards the other. The husband will respect his wife just as he respects himself as a man, and the wife will respect his husband just as he respects herself as a woman. Society will consequently place the right balance, importance, role and contribution that women bring to society, and not lesser expectation that we have previously presumed.

The revolution and transformation which Prophet Muhammd (SAW) has brought on the elevation of human rights with regard to women during the days of Arab paganism was sheer astounding. Islam was way advanced in her treatment towards women; unfortunately, many people do not see this fact.  
Regrettably too, Muslims are perennially at fault for not implementing the rights due to women in their own societies, in favor of other cultural and tribal norms. This is sheer stupidity on the part of men because such behaviors delimits and does not liberate the true potential that women can bring to society. Definitely a good case to study is the Grameen Bank, for example.

You need not feel discouraged if you find some men feel they are superior to women. The effort that you can potentially bring to society is actually an equal share. So please don’t hoard it out of fear, intimidation, and silly norms and traditions.
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Posted 31 July 2009 - 10:30 AM

View PostShay, on Jul 31 2009, 10:55 AM, said:

Imam Ali was talking about specific women and not all women. When will people saying stuff without researching into it and not picking and choosing :(

I'm sorry, but it is YOU who does not understand the sermon. Imam Ali (as) is talking about ALL women. Later he describes, the evil ones.

I talk about men, in general. And then I describe evil men, like Muwaiyah and Yazid. Does that make all men evil? :)

I would also like if you do not use that 'mocking tone' of yours befor you're 100% sure of anything.

What Imam Ali (as) has said, about women, is that they have 3 deficiencies in RELIGIOUS MATTERS, ONLY. They are equal to men, in all other aspects, like political, social, moral, etc.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 11:18 AM

Most of these fools who try to say Men oppress Women in Islam, are referring to either the

1. Hijab laws- which is created for men to respect women, and look at them as humans, not objects.

2. Polygamy- which was created for reasons to support women, if their man dies in war or prison, and they have a few kids and can't support themselves.

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Posted 31 July 2009 - 07:18 PM

I have a 17 hour work day tomorrow so I'll answer those question when I am done.

"And hold fast all of you together to the rope of Allah, and be not disunited."

"The Unbelievers are protectors, one of another: Unless ye do this, (protect each other), there would be tumult and oppression on earth, and great mischief."
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Posted 04 August 2009 - 04:46 PM

Okay what I was trying convey was are men superior to women.  Are women more naturally prone to sin than men?  If your a woman are you more likely to go to hell (probability wise) just because your gender?  These are Sunni hadiths, but I am fairly sure similar stuff can be found in Shia Hadiths as well, as that quote from Nahjul Balagha was every bit as bad.  I'll look for some Shia Hadiths as well.

"Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (pbuh) as saying: Woman is like a rib.  When you attempt to straighten it, you would break it.  And if you leave her alone you would benefit by her, and crookedness will remain in her."

"Narrated Sa'd ibn Malik: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: There is no hamah, no infection and no evil omen; if there is in anything an evil omen, it is a house, a horse, and a woman.  (Book #29, Hadith #3911)"

"Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If one of you marries a woman or buys a slave, he should say: "O Allah, I ask Thee for the good in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her; I take refuge in Thee from the evil in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her." When he buys a camel, he should take hold of the top of its hump and say the same kind of thing.  (Book #11, Hadith #2155)"

"Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) cursed the wailing woman and the woman who listens to her.  (Book #20, Hadith #3122)"

"Narrated Usama: The Prophet said. "I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor while the wealthy were stopped at the gate (for the accounts). But the companions of the Fire were ordered to be taken to the Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Fire and saw that the majority of those who entered it were women." Volume 7. Book 62. Number 124"

From the above, it seems that women are far inferior to men, at least according to the hadith.  It is my opinion that this is completely illogical, and women and men are equivalent.

"And hold fast all of you together to the rope of Allah, and be not disunited."

"The Unbelievers are protectors, one of another: Unless ye do this, (protect each other), there would be tumult and oppression on earth, and great mischief."
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Posted 05 August 2009 - 12:47 AM

View Postaskari muslim, on Jul 31 2009, 11:10 AM, said:

(bismillah)
Final Proof
You know that women have been oppressed from old ages not men.If women were superior to men in intellect or strength than they would have oppressed men.Opression on women is the biggest proof that they are physically and mentally weak than men.(this is also stated above)

thankyou.
Asalam Alaikum Askari Muslim.  
Are you telling me that men oppressing women is an intellectual strength.  :!!!:
Women are physically and mentally weak. Sure its not a problem to go on a 9 month ling journey to proof Allah's beauty and than to keep the calm to raise a child peacefully. Its nothing hard to do.
If women are mentally weak than there should be a major genetic side effect brought down through the generation. The fact that women can keep their mental level firm and together after all the oppression and the mental torture of the materialistic world, oppression of men, and extremist Mullah world is only proof that Allah has made women equal in their own class and an aspect of life.
Maula Jaffer-e-Sadiq (ASWS) said:
Jo shakhs bhi Aal-e-Muhammad (ASWS) se ziyada mohabbat chahta hey, usay chahiye kay apni aurat se ziyada muhabbat karey.
Maula Jafer-e-Sadiq ASWS said:
Ziyada-ter barkatein aurat kay wajood mein samo di gai hain.


Take care.
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The people most prone to trials with afflictions are the prophets and then the most pious and then the next in piety and so on. A man is tried according to the strength of his belief. If his belief is firm, his trial will be harder, and if his belief is weak, he is tried accordingly. A servant of Allah will go on being tried with afflictions until he walks on earth free of sins. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH)

Your supremacy over others is in proportion to the extent of your knowledge and wisdom. - Nahjul Balagha.

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Posted 05 August 2009 - 07:09 AM

(bismillah)

(salam),
               To further elaborate my point, I would quote 2 authentic references, which I got via the book 'Greater Sins'.
Allah, the Almighty has given men superiority over women and appointed them as the protectors of women. This is due to the fact that men have been provided by Allah (S.w.T.) with many qualities in great measure as compared to women, like strength, bravery etc. Further they spend their wealth upon their women. So the best women are those who are loyal to their husbands and obedient to their commands. They protect his property and their own chastity in the absence of their husbands. The Holy Prophet (S) has also said,

“Prostration of a human for another human being is not permitted. (If it had been) I would have ordered the wife to prostrate before her husband.”


(Wasa’il ul-Shia)

The Quran too says:
“Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded.” (Surah an-Nisā’ 4:34)

Men are hence, the maintainers, and women, the maintained. The superior maintains the inferior, always, just like Allah mantains us.

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وَخُلِقَ الإِنسَانُ ضَعِيفًا [...]

[...] and man is created weak (4:28)



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Imam Ali (عليه سلام) said: Pitiable is the son of Adam! His death is hidden [from him], his illnesses are invisible and his actions are recorded. A mosquito causes him pain, a gasp can kill him and [a little] sweat makes him stink.


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Posted 05 August 2009 - 07:15 AM

View PostShaheen, on Aug 5 2009, 12:46 AM, said:

Okay what I was trying convey was are men superior to women.  Are women more naturally prone to sin than men?  If your a woman are you more likely to go to hell (probability wise) just because your gender?  These are Sunni hadiths, but I am fairly sure similar stuff can be found in Shia Hadiths as well, as that quote from Nahjul Balagha was every bit as bad.  I'll look for some Shia Hadiths as well.

"Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (pbuh) as saying: Woman is like a rib.  When you attempt to straighten it, you would break it.  And if you leave her alone you would benefit by her, and crookedness will remain in her."

"Narrated Sa'd ibn Malik: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: There is no hamah, no infection and no evil omen; if there is in anything an evil omen, it is a house, a horse, and a woman.  (Book #29, Hadith #3911)"

"Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If one of you marries a woman or buys a slave, he should say: "O Allah, I ask Thee for the good in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her; I take refuge in Thee from the evil in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her." When he buys a camel, he should take hold of the top of its hump and say the same kind of thing.  (Book #11, Hadith #2155)"

"Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) cursed the wailing woman and the woman who listens to her.  (Book #20, Hadith #3122)"

"Narrated Usama: The Prophet said. "I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor while the wealthy were stopped at the gate (for the accounts). But the companions of the Fire were ordered to be taken to the Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Fire and saw that the majority of those who entered it were women." Volume 7. Book 62. Number 124"

From the above, it seems that women are far inferior to men, at least according to the hadith.  It is my opinion that this is completely illogical, and women and men are equivalent.

You have quoted ahadith from Sunni sources, and moreover (to make it worse :dry: ) from Abu Huraira. Women here, forbid their children to go to Friday sermons to some mosques, where the Katib quotes ahadith from Abu Huraira. The women, reason (and rightly too!) that if their children listen to Abu Huraira's traditions, they will not respect women. This is clearly evident from the above ahadith.
Please note that the sermon I quoted from Nahjul Balagha, only showed women inferior to men, in religious matter. Atleast, it did not relate women to horses and crooked ribs!

(wasalam)
Basim Ali Jafri
وَخُلِقَ الإِنسَانُ ضَعِيفًا [...]

[...] and man is created weak (4:28)



قال الإمام علي (ع) : مسكين ابن آدم؛ مكتوم الأجل، مكنون العلل، محفوظ العمل.. تؤلمه البقة، تقتله الشرقة، وتنتنه العرقة


Imam Ali (عليه سلام) said: Pitiable is the son of Adam! His death is hidden [from him], his illnesses are invisible and his actions are recorded. A mosquito causes him pain, a gasp can kill him and [a little] sweat makes him stink.


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Posted 05 August 2009 - 09:49 AM

View Postaskari muslim, on Jul 31 2009, 11:10 AM, said:

(bismillah)
OK lets think that you are right.Now anyone on this forum can use their own intellect to understand the matter that men are superior to women(in terms of qualities,im not talking about rights) by seeing history.

First Proof(logical)
Have you ever seen in history that any women became a legendary philosopher?Socrates,Plato,Aristotle,Xenocrates were all men.Now you may say that at that time women were opressed and were not having freedom.I will say that the opression of women itself is a proof that women are mentally and physically weak.If they would have been mentally or physically strong than they would have freed themselves from men's opression.

This prooves that men are intellectually superior to women.

Even though I am not Muslim, I would like a chance to address this:

Your reasoning is correct when you say that you don't see women philosophers in history because woman were held back especially in terms of schooling. But then you say that the oppression of women itself shows the weak nature of the female. If so, you say, they would have "freed themselves from men's opression". I believe there is are some important facts that you are not taking into consideration.
First, that men like to oppress (I'm speaking in generalities here) and they will oppress other men as well if given the opportunity. It's not just about men oppressing women, but about men oppressing men, women and children. And of course women and children are easier targets. Children because they are not fully cooked; they are small, weak and not mentally developed. Women because of the sacred burden of childbirth.
Women are just as strong as men in mental capacities when given the same schooling and regarding physical strength, are actually equal to men (in different ways). Can most men beat most women in a prize fight? Most certainly. Men have greater upper body strength, bigger muscles, better cardiovascular, ect. But did you know that most women have stronger upper leg strength then men? Women can also endure more then men, not limited to, but including, pain.
Besides, in today's world, more often then not, physical strength is not the determining factor in supremacy. Brains, schooling and luck of birthplace (which translates to money) more often determines power.
And here is the crux of my argument: The reason men have been able to oppress women for all this time, despite seemingly equal advantages is because women spend their strength in the carrying for nine months, delivering and then feeding and caring of children. It is because we spend our strength in creating the next generation. Once a woman is expecting or a mother, it is this that makes her vulnerable. That is why we turn to men as our protecters, for motherhood is our great gift and our great burden.
Some men take on this sacred task as protecter of their equal partner; their other half that will spend her strength in the producing of their future....some use this vulnerability as a chance to oppress.

View Postaskari muslim, on Jul 31 2009, 11:10 AM, said:

Second proof(Islamic)
Allah chose Hazrat Adam(a.s) as khalifa not Hazrat Hawa(a.s).And Allah has said in Quran that HE taught Hazrat Adam(a.s) the words not Hazrat Hawa(a.s) which shows that man has more intellect.No Prophet was a women.
Thus men are superior to women in terms of physical and mental strength(im not talking about rights)

I'm not Muslim, so I'm not going to touch this one. It would not be productive. Not that I would say something offensive, just that I am not as learned in Islam as you and therefore are at a disadvantage. I'm glad that you say that rights for each gender are equal.

View Postaskari muslim, on Jul 31 2009, 11:10 AM, said:

Final Proof
You know that women have been oppressed from old ages not men.If women were superior to men in intellect or strength than they would have oppressed men.Opression on women is the biggest proof that they are physically and mentally weak than men.(this is also stated above)


Question for shaheen
what are you actually trying to ask?Do you want to discuss whether men are superior to women in terms of intellect and bodily power?(I have given the answer above)
Or do you want to discuss that is it true that men have more rights than women in islam?(If you are thinking about rights then its a different issue and you should know islamic fiqh to discuss this matter)

thankyou.

This I feel I can address, even with my limited knowledge of Islam. Forgive me if something I say is incorrect. To my understanding, women and men share the same burden, rewards or punishment. This would mean that Allah expects the same level of achievement from both...despite having given greater advantage to one and a handicap to the other? I cannot see this as being true, for is not Allah just? Justice is a primary hallmark of the Creator.
And I also do not agree that Islam gives more rights to the man. Within the framework of the family, men are proscribed as protectors and maintainers and women give up some of their rights to their husband in return for protection and maintenance. Men carry the burden of the family, being the only one responsible for material maintenance. This right to be protected and cared for I see as a great advantage for women. It is meant to deal with the issue I outlined above; with the vulnerability of women as a result of childbearing and being the primary caretaker.
In regards to seemingly inequal treatment of women in Islam regarding inheritance, testimony, ect....that is a long discussion and I believe there are extenuating circumstances for each one (for example: greater inheritance being given because of responsibility of maintenance) and greater understanding of Islam leads to greater understanding of apparent inequalities.

Thank you for your time.
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