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A club dedicated to psychological wellbeing, where members can discuss mental health problems, help and give support to one another. New members should participate in the forums and after becoming an Advanced member with 25 posts they can ask to join this club.

  1. What's new in this club
  2. https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-and-depression-symptoms-treatment/ Good article speaking about the connection between Depression and ADHD.
  3. ADHD & Depression

    For a period of time in my life, i had undergone severe anxiety and depression. This caused me to start to have splits in my personality, at a time of severe upheaval of my life. Looking back now, i do not recognise the person i was, nor do i believe it was ever representative of me. Despite taking responsibility, it is so important to acknowledge mental health, particularly one caused by severe trauma in ones life, can take someone who otherwise was walking on firm ground and unbalance them. May Allah help all those going through or have been through any mental health problem. May he help you become stronger, and grow, and learn, and like Hurr, be willing to change for the better.
  4. Hi, I lost someone really dear to me recently and I haven't been dealing well with it i was told to refer to a counselling service but you have to do that yourself and i barely have the energy pr motivation to get up in the morning let alone make an appointment and go out to a place where i have to go and sit and talk to someone about how I'm feeling i know it'll help but just the thought of it drains me i can't bear to imagine actually going there anyway I'm stressed and worried about how this is going to affect my studies because i have assessments coming up and I'm really struggling and its really overwhelming for me to deal with i don't know what to do
  5. Struggling to cope

    I am so sorry for your loss. In terms of the counselling, it would specifically be bereavement counselling that you would need to help you deal with your loss. If you are in the U.K. the bereavement services provide telephonic support too until you are ready to see someone face to face which they should support you with. When a person suffers loss, they go through many emotions, there's no right or wrong way to feel, rather take each day as it comes and know that time is the best healer. There are stages of grief after a bereavement that have been recognised as: 1. Accepting the reality of your loss 2. Experiencing the pain of the loss 3. Adjusting to life without the lost person 4. Reinvesting in the new reality Psychologists recommend to set aside some time every day to think about the person you have lost. This task will actually allow you to process the loss and work out how to go on living without the person. This will also help you to deal with the overwhelming feelings of anxiety or depression/grief to a certain extent during a particular part of the day so you can at least try and have some normality for the rest of the day (studying etc.). This does also depend on how long its been, if it is very fresh then please give yourself time to heal because you will not only have the grief to deal with but the anxiety of how you will get through your studies, therefore do inform your University/academic institution about the situation so if you need to take time off, they are accomodating and understanding. Please don't hesitate to speak to us here on SC. As sister @Hameedeh said, we are here for you, best wishes.
  6. Struggling to cope

    Condolences for the loss of your loved one. Not wanting to get out of bed in the morning is a sure sign that you need to go to a counselor. I think you should force yourself to make that appointment and go to the counselor. Talking about the loss of your loved one will release the bottled up feelings that you have. Tell yourself the counseling session is only a one time thing and if you don't want to go back for a second session, it's not required. Just do it. You also might feel so much better after the counseling that you don't need to go to the counselor again. We are here for you.
  7. Struggling to cope

    Salam May God rest his/ her soul and give you enough power and patience to overcome your grief. I lost someone whom I loved a lot 2 years ago and the only thing which makes me hopeful is that this separation is not eternal and one day I can see him again. We need to remind ourselves that death is just a journey to a better world and we all will exprience it. I dont know how those who dont believe in the next life can be patient when they lost those whom they love.
  8. Do things for other people. It won't help your loss, but it will help you realize that life goes on and the world still needs you.
  9. Go to masjid pray 2 rakat and start crying.
  10. Dealing with loss and grief

    ShiaChat has been a good distraction
  11. Talk on the phone with people you trust, who will let you talk their head off, until you are all talked out and tired of saying the same thing over and over again. It's still in your head, but you don't want to say it to anyone. Take it one day at a time. Escape reality by joining ShiaChat. Keep your mind busy with anything and everything. It's hard. You just keep going.
  12. I'm going to say something which might make sense to a few but might go over the heads of some too. Humans, we are created from clay. Like pottery, however, you move your hands you create different shapes of pots. Humans are similar in that aspect, we shape the way we become after Allah SWT has given us a clean slate (most of us anyway.) The way we chose to surround our selves with specific people or choose how to spend our time, ends up carving the way we feel and think about things. I'd rather not continue with what I'm trying to say since many have found it offensive in the past and called me delusional for it. But that's my 5 L.L.
  13. ADHD & Depression

    Eh. Depression and ADHD aren’t really related. Most people who have Depression do not have ADHD - they are just anxious. Extreme anxiety may look like ADHD, but they are two very different mental disorders.
  14. Mental Health Stigma in the Muslim World This is a link to a great article in the "Journal of Muslim Mental Health" dealing with the stigma that our communities place on Mental Health issues. Worth a read. Its a bit on the technical side but still contains a great expose on the ignorance that pervades our Ummah when it comes to dealing with and addressing Mental Health.
  15. There’s huge amount of stigma and to “pray the depression away” kind of mentality. Sad.
  16. I am wondering

    @KhadijahRose69 Salam, Sister. You have described your medical situation perfectly, so I know that you have been to see the doctor and are well aware of your physical limitations. This religious question about your prayer is a delicate issue and needs to be asked from a sheikh or marja. However, from a religious viewpoint, when a person has a disability, there is always an excuse that you must do only what you can, and Allah SWT knows your situation and will forgive what you cannot do. We read in the Holy Qur'an:
  17. An article on the Internet called 'Can your diet shape your mental health?' is very interesting. I recommend reading it and thinking about how you can take steps to eat better and more nutritious meals. Take care of yourself and others you care about. Can your diet shape your mental health? by LESLIE BECK MAY 27, 2015 Only recently have scientists begun to explore the relationship between nutrition and mental health. While the science is relatively new and much of it limited to observational studies that do not prove cause and effect, so far the findings are consistent and compelling: What you eat – and don’t eat – can have a powerful impact on mental health. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, one in five Canadians will experience a mental-health condition such as depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder in his or her lifetime. Among other factors that contribute to mental illness, our changing diet is thought to play a role. In a 2014 paper published in the Journal of Physiological Anthropology, Australian scientists said the transition away from the whole-foods diet our grandparents ate – one based on nutrient-rich vegetables, fruits and whole grains – to a steady fare of nutrient-poor, high-calorie and highly processed foods has been associated with increases in depression and other mental disorders. The changing nutrient content of even our healthy foods may also play a role. A 2009 analysis conducted by the Biochemical Institute at the University of Texas at Austin highlighted evidence that during the past 50 to 70 years the mineral content of fruits and vegetables – many of which are thought to play a role in brain health – has been declining, possibly because of modern agricultural practices. Recent studies have connected a “healthy” dietary pattern to a lower risk of depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and suicide in adults. For example, a 2014 review of 21 studies from the University of Newcastle in Australia concluded that a high intake of fruits, vegetables, fish and whole grains protected against depression. A 2013 study published in the British Journal of Psychiatry found that, among nearly 90,000 Japanese men and women, a diet characterized by more vegetables, fruit, potatoes, soy, seaweed and fish correlated with a lower risk of suicide. Researchers have turned up similar findings in children and teenagers. Last year, a review of seven studies by researchers at the Innovation in Mental and Physical Health and Clinical Treatment Strategic Research Centre at the School of Medicine at Deakin University in Australia revealed a consistent trend between a higher intake of nutrient-dense foods, including vegetables, salads, fruits and fish, and lower rates of depression, low mood, emotional problems and anxiety. The analysis also found a consistent and positive relationship between an “unhealthy” dietary pattern – a higher intake of saturated fat, sugar, refined starches and processed foods – and poorer mental health in youth. The link between nutrition and mental health may even start in the womb. Research suggests that an unhealthy diet during pregnancy and early childhood, characterized by processed foods, refined cereals, sugary drinks, high-calorie snacks and desserts, increases the risk of attention problems, aggressive behaviour and anxious and depressive symptoms in children. The growing body of evidence connecting better diet quality with better mental health is exciting and promising. However, decisive randomized controlled trials – the gold standard of scientific evidence – are needed to determine if improving your diet will improve your mental health. One such trial is currently under way in Australia to determine if a Mediterranean-like diet can ease depression. Even so, the current evidence linking nutrition to mental health is so convincing that, in a paper published in The Lancet this year, a panel of international experts suggested that diet is “as important to psychiatry as it is to cardiology, endocrinology and gastroenterology.” It’s time to get back to basics and eat like our grandparents did. How diet may affect the brain Diet is thought to have a direct impact on many biological pathways that underpin depression and other mental-health disorders. The anti-inflammatory properties of nutrients in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts and oily fish may influence concentrations of brain chemicals that regulate emotions and cognition. In a study published this year in JAMA Psychiatry, researchers from the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto found that a measure of brain inflammation in people experiencing clinical depression was increased by 30 per cent. Omega-3 fatty acids found in fish oil are essential for the integrity of brain cell membranes. An imbalance of these fats may alter how brain cells communicate with one another. Antioxidants, including vitamins C and E, beta-carotene and many natural plant compounds, are thought to reduce free radical damage, or oxidative stress, to brain cells that may influence mental health. A 2004 study from Japan correlated higher levels of free radical damage with depressive symptoms in women. And in 2009, researchers from the University of British Columbia found higher levels of oxidative stress in patients with bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. The B vitamin folate is needed for the production of serotonin, a brain chemical (neurotransmitter) responsible for maintaining mood balance. Folate, along with vitamins B12 and B6, is also thought to protect brain function by reducing levels of an amino acid called homocysteine. (A high homocysteine level is believed to cause a deficiency of certain brain chemicals, which may contribute to depression.) A diet based on nutrient-packed whole foods also increases the level of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that improves mood, attention and learning, promotes brain cell growth and lowers brain inflammation. In contrast, a diet high in animal (saturated) fat has been shown to lower BDNF. Certain foods that feed our “good” gut bacteria, known as prebiotics, may also be linked to better mental health since gut microbes synthesize most of the body’s serotonin. Prebiotic foods include whole grains, artichokes, asparagus, bananas, garlic, onions, chicory root and yogurt. http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/can-your-diet-shape-your-mental-health/article24647105/
  18. Thank you for this, there's no doubt our communities are very behind when it comes to understanding and dealing with mental health.
  19. What do you know about art therapy? I have heard about children drawing in order to release tension and stress. Others color in a coloring book to reduce anxiety. Have heard that adults color for half an hour before bedtime to calm down enough to sleep. Painting sounds good.
  20. Art Therapy

    @Zavon Probably both.
  21. My sister does painting and drawing. Wonder if it's just her passion or she finds 'it' comforting her anxiety.
  22. I suffer from mental health issues BPD and Schitzoaffective disorder..and some days are worse than others. I suffer from mood swings and other things which makes it hard to concentrate on prayer what is the ruling regarding salah?
  23. As we know there are different types of stresses. Some stress may be healthy as it kicks in to protect us in times of need and and gives us a sense of focus when we're about to take a test or deliver a presentation. It gives us that motivation we need to rise to the occassion and in times of emergency can actually save our lives. Moreoever, there is also a type of stress that is harmful, it can cause mental, emotional and even physical pain, It can cause our body to overreact in certain situations which undoubtedly causes a range of psychological issues such a depression, anxiety and even physical problems such as IBS or weight fluctuation. My question is, how do you de-stress and how do you identify your stress triggers? We all have times when our mind/body tells us its all getting overwhelming, so what do you do to cope in those situations? I'll start.... so I make sure that i take time off work every now and especially if I have a lot happening (work, studies, family). I also love getting pampered (massages, facials etc) as I feel they help me to relax and I also exercise and meditate. Of course I find praying and listening to Quran really soothing as well. There are other things but I won't make the list too long, would like to hear from you guys!