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Understanding negative thought processes.

Heavenly_Silk

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 :bismillah:

:salam:

In recent times, mental health problems seem to be on the rise and many more people are asking for and wanting help and more so because there is more awareness around these issues.

Our negative thought processes can become or should I say do become a vicious cycle that we go deeper and deeper into unless we don't make the relevant changes. Now we can start by taking small steps by making changes to our lives.

I just want to stress the importance of actually taking action and doing something about it ourselves, although we may ask for help from others, it’s not until we actually consciously make an effort to try and change things, that we will see results. Is that going to see a medical professional? Receiving some sort of psychological intervention like therapy? Or is that just making sure you have a support network around you? Depends on what you feel you need or what is more likely to help you. Nevertheless, you could try all the avenues out there and sometimes we may need more than one intervention to help us get back on our feet.

I also want to mention that giving the advice of “stay positive” isn’t always helpful for people suffering from mental illnesses like depression. Many people know what they need to do but it’s not always easy to implement what we know especially when going though those difficult phases that may be due to a chemical imbalance or social stressors.

Core Beliefs and the Cognitive triad
Core beliefs include the thoughts and assumptions we hold about ourselves, others, and the world around us. They are deep-seated beliefs often formed at an early age which can go unrecognised, yet they constantly affect our lives.

 

What are some of your core beliefs?
-I am unattractive
-I am useless
-I am hopeless
-Everyone else is happier than me
-The world is an evil place

I am sure there are plenty of positive ones too!! But let’s focus on the ones we may need help with.

Please complete these three sentences in your mind:
-I am…..
-The world is…..
-People are…..

If the answer to all these were negative statements then this may be problematic. Please see example below:

 

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This is known as “The Cognitive triad” and is an irrational and pessimistic view of the three key elements of a person's belief system present in depression/mental health problems. Now maybe you are just having a bad day and that’s fine! We will all have our bad days or go through periods where we feel low so don’t worry….. but, if these are your thinking patterns on a regular basis or if you are going through these phases too often then you may need some help with your psychological wellbeing.

I will be writing more in the next part but did not want to overwhelm you guys, have a blessed day! :) 

"Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear" [2: 286].

 



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Our negative thought processes can become or should I say do become a vicious cycle that we go deeper and deeper into unless we don't make the relevant changes. Now we can start by taking small steps by making changes to our lives.

Sister, this blog is amazing! If we read this and implement your suggestions we can change our life. Thank you for the information and your constant help and encouragement. 

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Wonderful blog! I like how you have started by focusing on identifying and understanding our negative thought processes, because that's what lies at the core of nearly all psychological disorders. Change is easy once people can identify and understand the reasons behind the irrationality of their dysfunctional thoughts.  However, sometimes it is difficult to understand that our negative core beliefs are illogical, because they may imply 'facts'  (e.g., "I am worthless." "The world is a scary place" "People are evil") and have been with us for a long time (since an early age/childhood) and so have had the opportunity to grow and become strengthened. This is why they are deeply-held beliefs and create the essence for how we see ourselves, the world and other people. And so we rarely question them and tend to screen  information according to these thoughts or beliefs (which  can over time appear automatically across different situations). Educating ourselves about the role our negative thought processes play in creating mental health problems is the first step to breaking this vicious cycle. 

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      St. 12/ part 1
      پناه میبرم به پروردگاری که شکافنده آسمانهاست
      پناه میبرم به او از شر وسوسه گرانی که در تاریکیها به گمراه کردن خلایق میپردازند
      از شر تاریکیهای نفسانی ام که نور ایمانم را خاموش میکند
       و از شر حسودانی که ایمان داشتن مرا برنمیتابند

      I seek refuge in the Lord who is the creator of the daylight.
      I seek refuge in Him from the evil of the tempters who deceive the creatures in the dark of the night.
      From the evil which is inside myself, which tries to turn out the light of my faith.
      And from Satan and his followers and anyone else who is jealous of believers' devotedness.
       
      No one annoyed me as much as Satan did. He never ignored me and always laid his traps along my path.

      Sometimes, he used the same trick in different situations and sometimes, he tried a new trick.
      He was very diligent and never got disappointed.
      One day, I was sitting under the shade of a ziziphus tree and watching a hoopoe that was walking on the ground.
      Gabriel appeared and told me that You were going to allow me to return to You.
      He told me that I had to wait for 40 days and then, on the 40th day, before sunset, I had to return there, under the ziziphus tree. If I avoided committing any sin during those days, I could return to You.
      Just forty days...and then, I would be with You for ever!
      Gabriel went and Satan came.
      He said:..
       
      Footnotes:
      *hoopoe: هدهد
      *ziziphus: سدر
       
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