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When you're an Introvert

Shian e Ali

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Let's spread some light on how life is when you're an introvert. Now, I've seen many people claiming to be introverts when they read about us but just because you can relate to a few of the things doesn't make you one of us, you loser! Everyone's a bit introverted and a bit extroverted. If you're more introverted, you're an introvert and the same for an extrovert. If you're somewhere in between, you're an ambivert and that's no fun at all. Seriously, you're no fun.

For starters, introverts are pretty selective about who they talk to mostly. For the ones we do care about, we talk a lot, we're chatterboxes! But we're more on the listening side. When with someone new, we listen, we smile, we don't know what would be the right thing to say... Yups! But even after being with friends, it becomes exhausting. Extroverts are like leeches, always ready to feed on energy when it comes to socializing. Poor introverts only give energy when we socialize which makes it really exhausting after some time. So, we want to be left alone for some time so we can recharge. So, keep away!

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See that bubble up there, extroverts? Try not to burst it, you monsters! We feel really safe inside of it. Yeah, you can't see it but you can get an idea of what you're being really annoying. Trust me! We're amazing once we let you in that bubble but try to keep it slow and let us learn if you're our type or not. We're sensitive, you know... Nah! We're not. At least all introverts aren't. We can be heartless too. *wink*

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Calls... Oh! Please don't call... We can chat through Whatsapp or how about SMS? :) If you're an introvert, you'll get it.

Although we don't like to socialize much but getting ignored isn't that great either. We're pretty happy by ourselves too. Unlike extroverts, it's not that easy for an introvert to get bored. Especially when you have shiachat to waste time on... Or reading too. Yes, we do that too.

Like I said before, we're great listeners but an introvert with a great imagination will get lost in his own fantasy world the moment you start to get boring. Don't believe me? The next time you've been talking to an introvert for too long, when you finish, you'll see him/her smile only. You know why? Cuz s/he has no idea what you said. So, s/he just smiled. I do that a lot too. Extroverts do that too... So rude of them!

Well, I think that's all for now. I can't really come up with anything else for now. Update complete! Time for gaming!

Introvert, signing out!



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Often I see 'I'm an introvert" being used as an excuse to not do anything and sit around watch seasons and eat fats, basically wasting away life under the pretext that he/she cannot enjoy others' company. This isn't about having a selected group of friends - it is about excusing laziness. True introverts don't do that. 

Anyways, just a rant.

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2 hours ago, notme said:

There's introverts, and then there's recluses. I'm a recluse. I'm not anti-social, I'm non-social. 

Probably I should see a doctor about it, but that would involve speaking to actual people so, nah.

I have been feeling like this for a while now too. I never used to be an introvert. I had 10 groups of different friends and I was always out  socialising , always the life of every gatherings. 

But since last year , I've suddenly just become so reclusive. I can't be around people, I feel so uncomfortable in big groups, I hate the idea of going out of the house unless I really need to, I get so so anxious when I'm in crowded places and I just generally don't wanna be around anyone except my parents and siblings. Of course, this is impossible because I don't want to end up hurting my friends and socialising is inevitable. But I honestly do think there is something wrong with me because my level of uncomfort is abnormal and is starting to scare me. 

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I worked at a place for 3 months where annoying people were constantly staring at me for 12 hours everyday. Now I work at a place where I only talk with people on phone. I work in a building filled with people, I don't talk to anyone and not a single person has complained about me being quiet. There's hope for introverts.

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I think that it's important to remember that introversion - being reserved, enjoying privacy etc - is not a negative attribute. However, it shouldn't become an excuse not to be with the people and let others benefit from you and your company - Prophet Noah's son drowned as a loner - he was separate from the people!

I think that if you put yourself in a situation that you feel will be tough to handle (e.g. meeting lots of family friends at one time) and keep repeating the process then the problem should go away over time. Exposing yourself to the perceived danger (which is actually not present, if you think carefully about it) over and over will eventually cause you to no longer fear being in those social situations.

I'm speaking here as an apparent introvert who - although loves to spend time all alone - is actually rather good at social interaction these days!

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