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Purpose of Life

Hameedeh

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Most of us struggle with purpose in our life when we are young. However, even older people, who thought they had direction and purpose, find their life has changed and they must think about it again. Purpose is important and I pray that everyone contemplates their purpose and stays on the straight path. See the image below:

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@GD41586 and @everyone

Understanding the purpose of your life is not an easy task. If you are young, you are still finding your way, but even older people (who thought they knew what their purpose is) can suddenly need to reevaluate their life when something changes.

Instead of acting on impulse, weigh the pros and cons before you take any action. Stay positive. With Allah as your Lord and the Ahlul Bayt AS as your role models, your future is bright. 

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Sister, I think our purpose in life relates directly to the purpose the Creator had in mind. Our task merely is to figure out what that is.

Not an easy task perhaps.

But that is why He sent down those who understood it well to help us understand.

But for the most part, we rejected them and have lost that chance.

I mean most of us.

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Fatherhood or motherhood might be someone's purpose, and those are not paid. Definitely raising children has rewards, but they aren't necessarily monetary. 

The same could be said about caring for injured or orphaned animals, cleaning up spoiled natural areas, feeding homeless people, writing or creating art, and a variety of other activities that a person might make their life's work while they take jobs that they may or may not love or be particularly great at so that they can afford to undertake these works that give primarily spiritual rewards.

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Purpose of life is to do best of deeds (Le yabluwakum ayyukum ahsano amala). The examples of the best are already set for us.

There can be many ways to do something. Identifying & adopting the best possible way is our task and we are on test in this limited worldly life.

The purpose of "my life" is a difficult question but I have tried to answer this question with the help of Al-Furqan i.e., every action of mine should be for Allah (s.w.t) . Goal for me is that my smile, my anger, my friendship, my love, my sacrifices, my relationships, my prayers, my whole life & death should be "Lillahe Rabbul Aalimeen".

 

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17 hours ago, GD41586 said:

I've been looking for my life's purpose for over a decade now & still haven't figured it out.

When you stop looking, you'll find it.   Knowing and understanding your life purpose is not something that can be done by thinking about it. It's done by doing and feeling.

Maybe you will never know, and not knowing your life's purpose is okay.  God has a plan, but doesn't mean we need to know what it is or why it is.

Some people find their life's purpose in things they've never tried or exposed to before and they stop what they're doing and shift their focus and attention towards it.

There's also an element of what YOU WANT, and then there's WHAT SOMEONE ELSE WANTS.  Where do you sway?

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18 hours ago, notme said:

The same could be said about caring for injured or orphaned animals, cleaning up spoiled natural areas, feeding homeless people, writing or creating art, and a variety of other activities that a person might make their life's work while they take jobs that they may or may not love or be particularly great at so that they can afford to undertake these works that give primarily spiritual rewards.

I am glad that you shared this thought.

I was always told that I should find what I am good at that makes money, and do that. That's a nice sentiment for people who are "normal", capable, and are happy with "playing the game" so to speak-- I am not one of them. I have a learning disability, poor memory for anything that does not naturally fascinate me, and I have never been one who is able to "play the game" with teachers, supervisors, etc (I was released from two jobs this past year because I refused to turn a blind eye to illegal conduct that superiors were deeply involved with). I cannot ever seem to really hold a secure job and when I do, I do not make enough money to live independent from my mother (I am 30 years old as of this post). I have some college, but cannot graduate because my learning disability prevents me from being able to pass the math couses I need for an associates as they are structured. My work history exists, but I do not have references as I have lost contact with those I previously worked with.

I am casually teaching myself to design and create a video game, I am a decent writer and like the *idea* of writing but never am able to follow through and really produce any content that I could earn with. Cleaning natural areas and serving the poor are activities I also have been apt to engage in when the opportunity presents itself. The main problem I have is that I have been born into an age wherein I am incapable of finding the time to hold a job and really dedicate myself to these four pursits, as the current societal ideal seems to be that employees are no longer selling their labor to an employer, but that they are more akin to property who should smile and continually lavish praise upon those who work them for low wages with no benefits at all. This is why I have struggled for so long to find a means to maintain employment and feel like my life has a valid purpose other than being a gear in someone else's wealth generator. Sometimes I honestly weigh the pros and cons of homelessness.

 

8 hours ago, wmehar2 said:

Some people find their life's purpose in things they've never tried or exposed to before and they stop what they're doing and shift their focus and attention towards it.

There's also an element of what YOU WANT, and then there's WHAT SOMEONE ELSE WANTS.  Where do you sway?


If I haven't tried it, how would I find purpose in it? I have a crippling fear of failure and the ensuing shame from proving myself less capable than others (most of this is due to my estranged father & his psychopathy/narcissism). I have spent over a decade across many different employers in two industries I absolutely loathe due to my aversion for dealing with the public: food & retail.

I'm not really sure what it is that I want, but I know for a fact that whatever it is has to be minimally stressful as well as engaging.

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5 hours ago, GD41586 said:

If I haven't tried it, how would I find purpose in it? I have a crippling fear of failure and the ensuing shame from proving myself less capable than others (most of this is due to my estranged father & his psychopathy/narcissism). I have spent over a decade across many different employers in two industries I absolutely loathe due to my aversion for dealing with the public: food & retail.

Well, in my opinion the reason you're not finding your purpose is because of a crippling fear of failure for whatever reasons that spawned them.  They need to be dealt with, confronted or perhaps seeking out someone such as a therapist may assist you.

You're severely handicapped by that fear.

I gotta say, I've had a fear of the public, interacting with others outside my comfort zone since I was a child though, it wasn't due to a fear of proving to be less capable much less some kind of social anxiety - this was handled by plunging head first into what I was afraid of to get exposure and to understand that failure can only lead to success if you're able to learn from mistakes.  That is generally what anyone really cares about most in a hired employee.

If you can't address that issue, then are you prepared to never find your life's true purpose?

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@GD41586 If your estranged father is a true psychopath, he does not have any feelings that you can hurt, so staying away from him is probably the best thing for you. If he is a sociopath/psychopath, he also would not feel guilty for any pain and suffering that he caused you. Take care of yourself. 

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I will pull out 2 of the rings outside - "You're great at it and You're paid for it."

Mother Teresa said - "We can't do great things, but we can do small things will great love."

Secondly - When the matter of money comes, it no longer remains a love or a passion. It becomes Conditional. And for true love, it has to be unconditional.

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What is the average age people find their purpose of life?? And why is it that at one stage of our life we feel as if we find what we actually need to do or achieve but the very next day it turns to be just wastage of time?? Is this only happening with me or everyone goes through these kinds of ups and downs in life about their passion /purpose. 

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On 9/12/2017 at 4:25 PM, Danish-Ali said:

What is the average age people find their purpose of life?? And why is it that at one stage of our life we feel as if we find what we actually need to do or achieve but the very next day it turns to be just wastage of time?? Is this only happening with me or everyone goes through these kinds of ups and downs in life about their passion /purpose. 

Every person is different so I can't say when you will find your purpose. I just know that it will happen, inShaAllah. We may not always see our purpose, but it is waiting for us. If we find that our purpose does not suit us and we need to make a change, then that is normal. We modify and adjust as we go along. That is called learning and also survival. 

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Surah Al-Kahf, Verse 7:
إِنَّا جَعَلْنَا مَا عَلَى الْأَرْضِ زِينَةً لَّهَا لِنَبْلُوَهُمْ أَيُّهُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا

Surely We have made whatever is on the earth an embellishment for it, so that We may try them (as to) which of them is best in works.
(English - Shakir)

Surah Al-Mulk, Verse 2:
الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْمَوْتَ وَالْحَيَاةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْغَفُورُ

Who created death and life that He may try you-- which of you is best in deeds; and He is the Mighty, the Forgiving,
(English - Shakir)

Everything on earth is zeenat for earth, not for us. Maal & Banoon are the zeenat of this worldly life. We should strive to get the zeenat for our selves and that are "baqiyaat-us-swalihaat". 

Surah Al-Kahf, Verse 46:
الْمَالُ وَالْبَنُونَ زِينَةُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَالْبَاقِيَاتُ الصَّالِحَاتُ خَيْرٌ عِندَ رَبِّكَ ثَوَابًا وَخَيْرٌ أَمَلًا

Wealth and children are an adornment of the life of this world; and the ever-abiding, the good works, are better with your Lord in reward and better in expectation.
(English - Shakir)

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The purpose of life is to love God and serve others. [Edit] Out of our hearts flow mercy and gratitude and so service to others.

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