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Sisters-Choose The God-Fearing Man

Miss Wonderful

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The most satisfying spouse  is the God Fearing Man. He is the one you should look for and he most likely wont be online-he's too busy making a difference in the world.

You will never be bored with him. The way he is devoted to Allah SWT will fill you up with admiration and respect. His humor will be wholesome and sweet. His shyness and the way he lowers his gaze will make you fall madly in love with him. He will be  truthful. He will be pleased to meet your mother and greet her in the most polite manner as if he were her own son. He might not be a 10, but how he takes care of his body, and the Noor given to him from Allah SWT will be enough to attract you for a life time making him an 11 in your book. 

He will never put you down. His language will be pure and sweet. You will feel safe and beautiful with him, and he will inspire you to fulfill your Islamic duties as a wife to the best of your abilities



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6 hours ago, IbnSina said:

Also, if he does not try to manipulate your feelings by flirting with you on the first talk because he respects you more than you respect yourself, that does not mean his autistic but that you need to stop watching hollywood junk.

Absolutely- he might not  know how to string sugary words that all girls want to hear- but even his shy silence or few genuine words  that he says will be the most beautiful that you will always cherish cuz they will be genuine and fill your heart up. You will overlook his race as well. He will  be more beautiful than any false hollywood portrayal.  

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36 minutes ago, enigma313 said:

Are you serious? Do you think men like this actually exist? You live in a fantasy world....just saying.

yes Alhamduillah they do exist and that is the reality.

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44 minutes ago, enigma313 said:

Are you serious? Do you think men like this actually exist? You live in a fantasy world....just saying.

I think that you should replace 'men' with 'people' and join the club. There are good people out there but the annoying ones are a black mark on the white paper so we ignore the white and focus on the bad. I think it's important to change that impulse of disappointment at mankind and focus on the more important things in life

At the end of the day, it's unlikely we are going to find many people who are are great and God-fearing... as somebody who has been guilty of this before, I don't think it's worth (talking from experience!) paying attention to people whose actions stink really bad although they like to appear great.

 

 

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full disclosure: I am an unmarried male. this doesn't mean that I am trying to use this blog as a way for me to hook up with any sisters. but I think i need to give you some advice from the brothers side. 

"god fearing" men are as rare as unicorns. what is there in you, that would make such a man desire to marry you? you are pretty? so what. the world is full of pretty girls. you are a virgin? so what, the world is full of virgins. you are religious? so what, the world is full of religious girls. 

instead, look for a man who is "good fearing ENOUGH". think what are deal breakers when it comes to marriage, and what things you can be flexible/ compromise on. also look at a mans lifestyle. often a man might live a decent, moral life while not fully practising his religion. can such a man be encouraged to fulfil his obligations? if so, he should be considered. often the mullah-types are the ones with the dirtiest secrets. 

do not ever trust anything any man ever says or does in front of you. men will lie about EVERYTHING to get you. 

find out what you can independently. facebook, linkedin etc. 

find a guy who you can be comfortable with enough that you can fart around him and a guy who can make you laugh and a guy who can talk to you on a level so deep you can pass hours in conversation and not realise the time has passed. 

basically, what I am saying is, prince charming doesnt exist. your knight in shining armour doesnt exist. dont look for a bonfire, look for a spark where you can build a bonfire together 

 

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I would personally never advise any sister to marry any man or any man to marry any sister who does not at least fulfill his or her religious obligations (wajibats) unless of course wajibats are not important to the person in question in which case I would advise the person to first fulfill their religious obligations and then search for marriage. 

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@DigitalUmmah If a woman desires a religious man, this already says a lot about her. Look around you and see what women nowadays fall for, 'bad boy' type personas because 'oh they're so cool and religious ones are so backwards.' Btw, religious doesn't necessarily mean growing a beard to the knees or spending day and night in the mosque, religion is akhlaaq first before anything else. 

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2 minutes ago, Pearl178 said:

@DigitalUmmah If a woman desires a religious man, this already says a lot about her. Look around you and see what women nowadays fall for, 'bad boy' type personas because 'oh they're so cool and religious ones are so backwards.' Btw, religious doesn't necessarily mean growing a beard to the knees or spending day and night in the mosque, religion is akhlaaq first before anything else. 

I'm not bragging about how much of a bad boy I am....but one time, I pulled the USB stick out of my PC without it being safe for it to eject. 

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Let me be straight to all of you sisters. God fearing man..... I fear Allah but it doesn't mean i am an angel... I am a human being i have desires and needs I try my best to avoid haram things but hey i am a man and I am not perfect. I have committed many sins in my life but as long as i am aware of those sins and I ask my Lord (Allah) to forgive me... i think i am a good person. 

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10 minutes ago, Ali_ul_azeem said:

Let me be straight to all of you sisters. God fearing man..... I fear Allah but it doesn't mean i am an angel... 

Psssh ! 

Your proclamtion doesn't count since you are off the market. :coffee:

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26 minutes ago, starlight said:

Can anyone explain to me what are the chatacteristics that an individual must possess in order to be categoriezed as a god fearing man ? 

one who treats those who can not benefit him in any way with the same respect he would give to those who could give him a million pounds

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5 hours ago, starlight said:

Can anyone explain to me what are the chatacteristics that an individual must possess in order to be categoriezed as a god fearing man ? 

An  individual who doesn't manipulate others or steps over them to get what they want: for instance pledging false promises. Someone who  genuinely does the  Islamic requirement such as salah and fasting. A person who  wont drink or do drugs and abstains from using bad language as best as they can. Etc..

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Does wishing to change and  be God-fearing count, where does that stand exactly. 

10 hours ago, DigitalUmmah said:

I'm not bragging about how much of a bad boy I am....but one time, I pulled the USB stick out of my PC without it being safe for it to eject. 

So did I, big whoop.

 

On Sunday, November 13, 2016 at 4:50 PM, Miss Wonderful said:

yes Alhamduillah they do exist and that is the reality.

Yes, they exist but they are  few and far between, your best option is to take a man who is willing to be the man you want and work with what you get.

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3 hours ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

Does wishing to change and  be God-fearing count, where does that stand exactly. 

The criterion in spouse selection is willingness to submit to the commands of God. It does not make sense for a person to want to become a pious person but at the same time not put effort in to act on their religious duties - staying away from the sins and doing the obligations.

Of course, that doesn't mean that you reject anybody who makes errors from time to time - sometimes the going gets tough and you slip and sometimes there is a genuine misunderstanding about the actual Islamic law, so a person ends up breaking it unintentionally. However, there should be that willingness to submit to God present within the spouse.

It is interesting that the hadiths tell us to look for religion and akhlaq - akhlaq is something which actually firmly has a role in Shariah (a person may not swear, backbite or lie, but any action, even if it is halal in and of itself like pointing a person's fault out in their own face, which hurts your spouse is absolutely haram unless there is some overriding reason) but sadly, people think that they are the "most religious person in the world" now that they have the beard, pray on time and give their khums and zakat - fearing God is a lot more than making sure your income is halal and that you pray, fast and do hajj - fearing God means you do the right thing no matter if it is in your favour or against you.

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41 minutes ago, silasun said:

The criterion in spouse selection is willingness to submit to the commands of God. It does not make sense for a person to want to become a pious person but at the same time not put effort in to act on their religious duties - staying away from the sins and doing the obligations.

Of course, that doesn't mean that you reject anybody who makes errors from time to time - sometimes the going gets tough and you slip and sometimes there is a genuine misunderstanding about the actual Islamic law, so a person ends up breaking it unintentionally. However, there should be that willingness to submit to God present within the spouse.

It is interesting that the hadiths tell us to look for religion and akhlaq - akhlaq is something which actually firmly has a role in Shariah (a person may not swear, backbite or lie, but any action, even if it is halal in and of itself like pointing a person's fault out in their own face, which hurts your spouse is absolutely haram unless there is some overriding reason) but sadly, people think that they are the "most religious person in the world" now that they have the beard, pray on time and give their khums and zakat - fearing God is a lot more than making sure your income is halal and that you pray, fast and do hajj - fearing God means you do the right thing no matter if it is in your favour or against you.

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Salam 

Woooooo 

Ppll here posts many sensible thinks

Well ohk I wanto say to something

I too like god fearing men 

Who offer prayers punctually

Do obligatory duties and allllllllllll and all

But mymy simple criteria was a man should begod fearing, giid natured,descent, mature, responsible ,who Respect's woman's who believes in my ri8s 

Its ohk that a man is not perfect 

Like we can't get all sort of fovourite ice creams in one small box

But somewhere the fact remains the  same .

Men pretend 

They always hide their reality behind a good covering of frrorocher 

U will only know his reality when u r his property when u start living with him legally wrna to he will be ur dream boy and maintain an image which u like 

 

Still i feel the spouse should be someone with whom u can be urself and most importantly he let's u be urself  and not change u accrdng to his desires (except Islamic duties ) -1 if all must be good natured and Islamic I mean godfearing later all errors I guess are ohk

Look ppl are diplomatic Hippocratic but however diplomatic he might be he should respect u and don't use his ddiplomacy on u 

We r Hippocratic but with someone we really don't need to be Hippocratic with or we can just be what we r

WhoWho is helpful in ibadah 

Who is trustworthy

 

 

And once when u are uncomfortable with certain things that particular chp must shut it there

Some men even try to make u comfortable with things theythey r cmfrtable in in spite of knowing girls condition feelings and even the thought's behind such things

Honestly there are many more things 

But I know it sounds melodramatic or kndof a dialogue of some actor or actress

Truly I don't believe in men 

But still if someone gets such company go ahead 

No body is perfect but imperfections has its own perfect form I feel

Anyway all the best 

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